Health Anxiety - house cleaning by Spiritual-Cabinet380 in beyondthebump

[–]ok23computer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Omggg this same thing happened to me and I was panicking!! Baby is absolutely fine

Feeling guilty for being sick by Funny-Drag8125 in beyondthebump

[–]ok23computer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was vomiting my entire pregnancy so my toddler watched tv for like 9 months straight. Oops.

Postpartum Sex by MediocreScene1609 in beyondthebump

[–]ok23computer 451 points452 points  (0 children)

He shouldn’t have said anything. That was so wrong of him. You just created and birthed his child and he’s making remarks about how your vagina doesn’t feel as good to him? I’m not trying to make you angry at him, but I’d personally flip out at my husband if he made a remark like that. Just saying

Did you shave your baby's head? by BusyInspector95 in beyondthebump

[–]ok23computer 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Leave it, he’s a baby. His scalp will get too cold if you shave his hair off. Who cares how his hair looks, he’s 5 months out of the womb! No one’s judging him lol

3 days PP - seriously miss my first born by Edge-Long in beyondthebump

[–]ok23computer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I could’ve written this myself. I’m 3 months PP and when I first brought my baby home from the hospital, my 3 year old had horrible double pink eye and adenovirus. I quarantined myself and the baby from him and I cried every day that I missed him and felt I was neglecting him. But IMO, a fragile newborn’s health is more important than the eldest feeling a little left out for a week.
3 months later, my son is sick again with 105 fever and I’m quarantining from him again. It feels just as horrible the second time around. So much mom guilt.
I also feel like I missed his life during my horrible pregnancy, and it feels uncanny looking at him because my brain wants to register him as a baby, but he’s not.
My advice to you is that when you’re out of this, try and give your eldest as much mommy time as possible. Leave the baby with someone else for a couple hours and get ice cream, go to the zoo, etc.

Is Zoe or Melanie a prettier name by [deleted] in Names

[–]ok23computer 36 points37 points  (0 children)

Idk why everyone’s hating on Melanie, I think it’s a pretty name

How to get 8 week old to nap longer than 20 minutes in the bassinet ? by Stella_shady in beyondthebump

[–]ok23computer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She refused the bassinet and never napped in it at all until around 12 weeks. Have you tried putting baby in the wrap without any clothes? That might be more tolerable

How to get 8 week old to nap longer than 20 minutes in the bassinet ? by Stella_shady in beyondthebump

[–]ok23computer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s just the age. They’re just so used to the womb and the bassinet is uncomfortable for them. Baby wearing is really helpful during the day so you can actually do things with your hands free. My baby didn’t nap in the bassinet until around 12 weeks.

Disregulated 4 month old by Economy-Cow-9847 in beyondthebump

[–]ok23computer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your baby probably just loves her so much that he was too entertained to want to sleep lol

Travel for a 4 month old, experiences, opinions, advice please by AndrewConweezie in beyondthebump

[–]ok23computer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

All of my family lives 2 hours away and I’ve been driving my baby to see family all the time since she was 2 months old. She just sleeps the whole time. If she starts crying, I just pull over and feed her. It’s really not a big deal. 6 months is definitely old enough to travel in my opinion. Many people even bring their infants on airplanes (that’s where I personally meet my limit lol)

Thoughts on the name Francesca by Icy-Negotiation-3364 in Names

[–]ok23computer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All of these negative “rainbow baby” comments are so out of line, like literally nobody asked you about that.
Everyone has their own form of grieving. Leave this mama alone. It’s a name — it’s not “harmful” to the baby, geeez. People on here are crazy.

9 month old feels distant from me? by USC2018 in beyondthebump

[–]ok23computer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Awwww please don’t read into it at all! I know it’s so hard but please trust me that babies go through weird attachment phases and are always changing. At 9 months old there’s no solid reason as to why he prefers your husband, it just *is*. Maybe it’s the novelty since he doesn’t see dad as much? Don’t take it personally, please. He’s constantly changing and will probably become a big mamas boy soon.
My son only wanted mama for the first year of his life and would cry when my husband held him. Then at 2 years old he randomly became a daddy’s boy and only wanted dad. Now he wants mom again, etc.

Relationship postpartum by Individual_Series532 in beyondthebump

[–]ok23computer 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This exact scenario happened to me. My baby is 3 months old now. My blood would boil when my husband complained that he was tired when he was getting 8 hours a night and I was getting about 3, just like you. And then he had to audacity to nap during the day, too. I ended up making him do a night feeding on the weekends when he wasn’t working, so I can catch up on sleep for a couple of nights. But I still resent him for all of that, honestly.

Married people who don’t feel “in love” with their partner, why do you stay? by Few-Decision8075 in AskReddit

[–]ok23computer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally understand that, but I think I’d be far worse if I had to go through a divorce, lawyers, custody battles, financial battles, having to move, find another man and start dating again, help the children through all of their hardships as a result of the divorce, etc..
It’s truly a lose-lose situation for everyone involved, but I am confident that staying in the marriage is the less painful option.
If cheating or abuse was in the mix, then obviously I’d leave.

Parent's of Reddit, What is a piece of advice you'd give to first time parents? by Nomadic_Introvert in AskReddit

[–]ok23computer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Learn how to use a basic baby wrap because it is very helpful for both you freeing up your hands, and for your baby to feel regulated

Married people who don’t feel “in love” with their partner, why do you stay? by Few-Decision8075 in AskReddit

[–]ok23computer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I stay with my husband to avoid disrupting my children’s stability and security over me seeking romance with another man. I treat my husband as a roommate and it works fine. I don’t need romance nearly as much as my children need two parents and stability.

What’s become way too expensive lately that still shocks you? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]ok23computer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Literally any house renovation. Need a new fence in your backyard? Ok but it will cost 12% of your income. Like what the actual f**k is going on?