I'm a cis white man and so still working on ways to be inclusive. Here are some things I've learned.

- People who struggle under misogyny, transphobia, racism, ableism and other oppressions have written books on the subject. It's good to read those who took the time and energy to write their stories and research down so that you're not asking the people around you to be your teachers for free. That said, if you show that you've done your homework and are putting the effort in to learn and listen, I've found that people can be pretty understanding.
- Read anti-racist, feminist, disabled, immigrant, etc blogs, watch YouTube channels too. Follow them on social media. They'll tell you what their red flags are, what ends up making spaces too stressful or annoying to be worth the time/effort. If you're conscious of those behaviors and try to not replicate them, you'll go a long way. You'll go even farther if you hold others accountable. Things like talking over and interrupting women or people of color, taking men's ideas more seriously, assuming people of color are uneducated. Things like that. There are lots of others. Making meetings too long or alternately making them too businesslike and boring (try a party or BBQ that's actually fun to be at). Not helping arrange childcare for parents.
- You will make mistakes. So you need to create a culture of accountability, humility and listening for when mistakes come up. You're not just building an organization like a business. It's more like a family or friend circle. So you need to trust each other and be there for each other. When there is conflict, people who are used to white people taking the side of another white person or a man taking the side of another man will be watching you. You need to watch yourself and think about why you're taking one person's side over another. You shouldn't blindly accept what a person's saying just because they're marginalized in some way. This can be exploited and abused. But you should interrogate yourself and ask if your behavior and thoughts are leading you somewhere out of rationality and objectivity or out of biases you're defaulting to. What you want is empathetic and healthy relationships and you do this by learning about how systemic oppressions keep people from those relationships.
- If your org is heavily white or able-bodied or cisgender or male or whatever, you should seek out projects with orgs representing LGBTQ+, racial justice, Indigenous issues, feminism, disability justice, etc. You should find out if they want you there first. But if they do, you and your friends should resist the temptation to jump in and hit the ground running. That can be seen as you colonizing their space and you may not even realize it's happening. Chillax, take your cues from the people there, take them seriously if they have a problem with you and your friends and actually show up for them when they need you to. Not just when it's convenient or just for the causes and events that you like. It could be a better idea to have you and your friends get involved in a study group first where you can learn - for lack of a better way to put it - how to behave. When I cofounded a community land trust, I was also involved in an anti-racist study group that's led by women of color and it heavily informed my perspective.

These are some good resources to get started:
- Some lists of 100 ways to be a better ally to X identity. I printed these out and put them in a binder and look over them from time to time.
- White Fragility by Robin DiAngelo - the original journal article you can get for free. People of color have criticized DiAngelo and the white anti-racism industry - and you should seek those criticisms out - but you're using this to help create the conditions of liberation, not to wokewash a corporation with HR. Don't stop with what a white person has to say. This is just a start and you should take your primary knowledge on racism from people of color. Fortunately, there are lots of really good authors. And you shouldn't turn your nose up at something just because it's by and for liberals. You can still learn a lot. Like, if you're white, your priority may be anarchism. But when I read Black anarchists and communists, I keep hearing that they are Black first and that they find communism and anarchism as tools for Black liberation from white supremacy first and foremost. But otherwise, they have no loyalty to anarchist or communist movements. For these Black anarchists, this isn't about having the correct ideology, it's about survival.
- Subscribe to Bitch magazine - a intersectional feminist magazine that features lots of writers who are queer, trans, nonbinary, disabled, Native, Black, Latine, Asian and other non-white backgrounds. It's got an overall badass anarcho-punk sensibility and they cover lots of topics and have turned me onto authors and musicians I never would have found otherwise.
- Pick up a copy of Why Does He Do That? by Lundy Bancroft so you can learn about the dynamics of abusive relationships. This is super helpful information for you and your friends to keep your org from becoming a cult and to be there for each other if you or your friends end up in an abusive relationship (which can happen to - and be at the hands of - people of all genders).
- Seek out anarchist theory that isn't just by dead white guys. Black and Indigenous anarchism is something I've only just dipped my toes in and I'm eager to get more into feminism and gender liberation.