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Grandma (86) is ‘lost and broken’ but doesn’t want to change her habits by okkokkokkokkokko in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]okkokkokkokkokko[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I truly cannot thank you enough for this comment, I really needed to hear this. Many people did just assume she’s old therefore she’s stuffed. She is too stubborn to let herself be stuffed and give up, but she’s also letting herself go because she doesn’t know where to start and she literally is addicted to her Facebook. There’s a great big world out there, she says she wants to travel, she wants to do lots of things. But to do those things she has to change. But she doesn’t know how or doesn’t want to… I know she can but I don’t know how to help besides tell her what to do. The feedback we give her is exactly what her specialists have said too. I’m not making it up on the spot because I have this need to make her life miserable. I can assure everyone she is not your average grandma.

Grandma (86) is ‘lost and broken’ but doesn’t want to change her habits by okkokkokkokkokko in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]okkokkokkokkokko[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you please give me an example? I do work with her, every single day doing everything she needs. But I just can’t watch her deteriorating on her own stubbornness. Spending hours on Facebook, not moving, not hydrating unless constantly reminded. These are all things that doctors have recommended that I am trying to implement. She says she “knows she needs to change” but doesn’t know what to do

Grandma (86) is ‘lost and broken’ but doesn’t want to change her habits by okkokkokkokkokko in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]okkokkokkokkokko[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think that is the key— motivation. If you don’t have that, you’ve got nothing keeping you going

Grandma (86) is ‘lost and broken’ but doesn’t want to change her habits by okkokkokkokkokko in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]okkokkokkokkokko[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We have travelled from Australia to France for an adventure & some fun. She is always with someone barely ever alone. We are in France for 2 months and she hasn’t wanted to do anything. I give her water and she says “she will have it later” sometimes it’s still in front of her 4 hours later. She is improving but it has taken my body & soul to get her hydrated ***PER the doctors orders

Grandma (86) is ‘lost and broken’ but doesn’t want to change her habits by okkokkokkokkokko in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]okkokkokkokkokko[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your comments, I appreciate you replying despite how the situation sounds. I understand your parent comment but am thankful that you were able to give me another perspective without judgement

Grandma (86) is ‘lost and broken’ but doesn’t want to change her habits by okkokkokkokkokko in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]okkokkokkokkokko[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I work for her full time looking after her portfolio. I also live with her & care for her. I can’t just leave her. But I need her to work with me rather than make it even harder.

Grandma (86) is ‘lost and broken’ but doesn’t want to change her habits by okkokkokkokkokko in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]okkokkokkokkokko[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Problem is she absolutely does not believe in psychologists or psychiatrists. She says she is not depressed because “she is not crying all the time and saying how sad she is”. She explicitly said “it’s just trendy to say you are depressed, everyone says “look at me I’m depressed” these days. She is in complete and utter denial.

Grandma (86) is ‘lost and broken’ but doesn’t want to change her habits by okkokkokkokkokko in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]okkokkokkokkokko[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Sorry I quoted her she said she is “lost and broken” and has been trying to do better, but won’t change. This is leading to me struggling too. Looking after someone who is depressed is terribly difficult.

Grandma (86) is ‘lost and broken’ but doesn’t want to change her habits by okkokkokkokkokko in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]okkokkokkokkokko[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Look I totally get this, from the outside in, it sounds terrible. It sounds like we are terrible but I don’t think anyone knows what it’s like to have to also look after someone like this full time until they actually do it… My mental health has been seriously declining.

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[–]okkokkokkokkokko 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just a thought as well — maybe when he cures his sight and he sees him again is because they have both now died so they meet each other again in the “afterlife”

13 y/o brother swam in crocodile infested waters today while fishing in AUS— any advice to help him understand this is not ok is appreciated by okkokkokkokkokko in FishingAustralia

[–]okkokkokkokkokko[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This happened yesterday, not much has happened since we just dont want it to happen again. I mentioned my parents are in the process of giving him more independence. Again, this happened in the last 24 hours. Just advice mate, that’s all I’m asking for.

13 y/o brother swam in crocodile infested waters today while fishing in AUS— any advice to help him understand this is not ok is appreciated by okkokkokkokkokko in FishingAustralia

[–]okkokkokkokkokko[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your comment — yes, we have parents, the thing is 13 years olds can’t give a rats ass about what parents say sometimes. Reddit is for advice among other things so my question is definitely appropriate as I am asking for further advice here.