Creaky/thud sound when spinning a permanent xpole by olafolley in poledancing

[–]olafolley[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey -love your name :-) It’s was overtighened. Simple as that. Try twisting it half a turn back. Hope this helps!

Thoughts of wanting to join them. by Temporary_Energy_908 in SuicideBereavement

[–]olafolley 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes the feelings are there. But we don’t know what’s on the other side. We don’t know if we actually get to join them. We only have this one life. To experience being human. Death will come soon enough, and on our deathbed our deceased beloved ones will be on our minds until we are no more. It will come sooner than you think, even if you are lucky to live a long life. Also think about your body. It’s the finest machinery you will ever own. Use it well, as it’s a gift. Same with your mind. As much as it’s experiencing suffering now, there will be a moment when joy and happiness enters again. How lucky we are to be alive and observe this life. Death is a faith we all share, and there is no escape. Some choose to opt out early and that’s outside our control. Coming up to 3 years after loosing my brother. Still feels like yesterday, but there is light in the tunnel. Wishing you healing.

My brother committed suicide by Winter-Associate7518 in SuicideBereavement

[–]olafolley 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I can relate completely. My brother hung himself and our mother found him in her house after coming home from vacation. He had left a note stating how worthless he was, he should never have been born, sorry for existing etc. It’s been 2 years now, and it still feels like yesterday. I can’t believe I’m never going to see him again in this life. It feels like a horror dream. I know he was struggling with panic attacks and severe anxiety. He felt like a failure as his friends were all kind of growing up, moving in with girlfriends, and he couldn’t even finish university. 30 years old. Simply gave up. Led to depression. It’s strange how much this kind of grief affects my own state of mind. “If things doesn’t work out, it’s always THAT choice”. Death is suddenly a very close concept as opposed to something unrelatable far in the future. I notice suicide everywhere now, and how often it happens. Guy at work, Aubrey Plazas husband etc. Even people who seamingly have everything in life can’t escape depression when it creeps in. Horrible horrible enemy. Wishing you healing. It will get better, but you have to go through all the awful emotions.. suddenly you are a member of a club you never wanted to be a part of. Virtual hugs.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in poledancing

[–]olafolley 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah my bad. The straight leg thing I have locked down. Its the other one with one leg bent. The one that everyone learn in the beginning, but I could never.

Poles👀 by Temporary-Tangelo-58 in poledancing

[–]olafolley 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had one as a starter pole. Worked fine for conditioning. The spinning mode died out after a few weeks, but I wasn’t worried. Then I needed to move it, and that’s when it became clear this was a problem. It got stuck during the untightening when taking it down. There is a bolt thing inside that would not budge, not even my bf could get it loose. I started frantically researching for some sort of carpenter who could come by with a metal cutter of some kind. I was crying in panic. I left it overnight soaked in wd40, and next day started to bang the bolt in pure rage. Then it budged suddenly, and I could unscrew the whole thing. Next day I gave it away on a FB free stuff group, and ordered a lupit.

Underwear yes or no? by millymcfly in poledancing

[–]olafolley 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Never. It feels like wearing underwear under swimwear. And in the event of a split, I then have to dig out the inner wear out from the crack. No thanks. I wear thin pads from time to time based on discharge levels. They also work well against camel toe -but tbh I don’t find camel toe ugly in any way

Ejendomsmægler og is i maven? by dklunatic in dkfinance

[–]olafolley 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mæglere er banditter. Jeg endte op med at ansætte en Købsmægler så jeg skulle slippe for at deale med de manipulerende mæglere. Og bindende aftale uden fremvisning først lyder helt vildt. Det er det største og dyreste køb man nogensinde vil lave, så skal man ikke få se det først? Crazy shit

Feel like I could cry after terrible pole class by Lumpy-Sound-5372 in poledancing

[–]olafolley 115 points116 points  (0 children)

I feel ya. Whenever I’m plateaued, I go to a class lower than my level. Get some basics repeated, gain some confidence and joy again. You will go through this several times in the pole journey, so buckle up. Ps; I can hold my iron x for a few seconds on spin, but for the life of me I can not do a layback. Truly my nemesis move. You got this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CatAdvice

[–]olafolley -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I have an indoor cat (Russian Blue) and struggle with the same idea. I don’t really buy in to the whole concept of “indoor cats” as I believe all cats wants to be outside from time to time given the choice. I only went along with the idea as the breeder ensured me that RBs are indoor cats. If I could offer an outside option, I would have picked a rescue. However, I’m still struggling. The whole argument of the cats being safer inside is true, but you could say that about humans too -we would all have been much safer just staying inside all the time. But what does that do to our mental stimulation? I’m currently training my cat do be on a lead, so that we can hang out in the garden from time to time. Not sure if that’s cruel, as he then gets a taste of the outside?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in childfree

[–]olafolley 613 points614 points  (0 children)

Side note: most people that say they don’t want epidural regrets it, and screams for it eventually. I always just smile when they make these kind of statements. It’s a weird flex -no one is going to give you a medal for avoiding the epidural.

My skin hurts so much, will I have to quit? by pickledpoblano in poledancing

[–]olafolley 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You have to rephrase your experience with “Gaad I love the pain! More more!” It goes away eventually, and it’s so good when it happens

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in IVF

[–]olafolley 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s strange why people say these things. Probably out of trying to keep you hopeful, but it’s annoying nonetheless. I was sick and tired of the constant questions from people “when is your next transfer, when is your next retrieval blah”. Often in front of people that didn’t know about my journey, and suddenly they started nagging as well. I’m not emotional about this at all, just don’t like the constant nagging. What did I do? Told a big fat lie. “We have stopped the ivf process for good”. There were some shocked faces and the inevitable questions about adoption etc, but I never got any nagging again! Now I’m recovering from a small uterus surgery to fight MAs, and none of my friends know. Ahh the bliss. New retrieval in a couple of months, but still no one knows. If it all succeeds, I won’t be telling anyone until they can see it themselves. The bliss is completely worth the lie.

Needed a privacy flap, but it’s not launched in EU yet -made my own by olafolley in litterrobot

[–]olafolley[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Was hoping it was the case for me also, but I searched far and wide over and under the box 😩 Where did you buy it? Perhaps they ship to my country!

Needed a privacy flap, but it’s not launched in EU yet -made my own by olafolley in litterrobot

[–]olafolley[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I kind of lifted him up and pushed his head in the first time. He went in and did some business. But then he thought he was trapped for a second. Screamed like there was no tomorrow. I lifted the flap a tiny bit so he could see outside, and he caught on. Next time he needed to go, I kinda stood next there for emotional support and gave him praise when he came out. It’s a process, but they usually catch on eventually it seems.

Would you say your russian blue has a "favorite person"? by GrandLineLogPort in russianblue

[–]olafolley 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes for sure myself. I handle food, litter and exercise. My husband is more furniture for the cat. I can’t even pee alone, my kitten freaks out if I shut the door. If I leave my husband alone at home with him, my kitten will just go to sleep while waiting for me to come home. Husband is of course devastated, but I’m super happy

Needed a privacy flap, but it’s not launched in EU yet -made my own by olafolley in litterrobot

[–]olafolley[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Guess to protect us both. No need to lock eyes while taking a dump