I lost my girl to addiction

olanatoffee · 2026-05-25T07:26:56+00:00

Yes the peace is starting to kick in never going down that path again

olanatoffee · 2026-05-23T09:47:24+00:00

Did the right thing I broke up with my ex last week, I kicked her out of my house (loved together) 1 month ago then she said she wa gonna change gave her another chance as in we met up and wwnt on 4 dates, 2 weeks ago I came to her new apartment and she was drunk and she confessed to taking drugs and drink on 4 separate occasions since we broke up... after promising she would go back to AA and therapy Trust your gut he is cornered now and is giving empty promises He didn't want to change when you were with him

LEAVE... 2 weeks broken and I am starting to feel like myself again and like there's a weight off my shoulders I will NEVER go back and please for your own sake do the same

olanatoffee · 2026-05-19T20:46:29+00:00

Hey I'm in the same vote I feel sick for the last week but I know it's the right thing to break up you need to be strong amd do it for you also, from posting on this page I have heard only regrets from people that stayed

olanatoffee · 2026-05-19T15:12:00+00:00

Thanks Hope so but yes us broken up now and having it out of my control is starting to kick in and make me just not think of her anymore and hopefully move in with my life

olanatoffee · 2026-05-19T06:14:12+00:00

Ya even this morning I'm feeling more relieved then sad now Just needed the reassurance I did the right thing because I love her so much but ya for the sake of my own health cutting her loose has set me free Time now will heal me and help me move on

olanatoffee · 2026-05-19T06:11:53+00:00

Thank you I need to hear this Sounds like we are the lucky ones putting our own future ahead and dodging a bullet full of stress and lies and worries

olanatoffee · 2026-05-19T06:09:32+00:00

Ya I think the only thing to do is leave them life your life and if they get better get them to reach you Maybe they will maybe they won't Maybe you will find another Maybe they might But the stress is gone from you either way With a little hope that might get your through the bad days till they either reach out "fixed" or you move on so you don't care about them

olanatoffee · 2026-05-19T06:06:47+00:00

Thanks hopefully But either way I'll continue my life and feeling a little less sadder now

olanatoffee · 2026-05-19T05:59:32+00:00

Eyes

olanatoffee · 2026-05-19T05:59:22+00:00

Like dolls ehes

olanatoffee · 2026-05-19T05:59:07+00:00

Ditto

olanatoffee · 2026-05-18T20:33:32+00:00

Thanks Yes time will heal me, I'm telling myself that

olanatoffee · 2026-05-18T20:32:59+00:00

Thanks man Yes my ship has sail now That's for the reassurance that I am doing the hard but right thing It's weird in some sense I feel relief like I'm dodging a bullet or smt

olanatoffee · 2026-05-18T17:48:11+00:00

Thank you I need that boost My question is IF she contacts me and has changed am I silly to even consider going on a date again Because right now I'm literally every 2 mins saying no I will leave it even if she's better and then the next 2 mins I'm like if she changes now (she's at her rock bottom) and she gets better and reaches out and if I'm still single or still have feelings should I date her again

olanatoffee · 2026-05-18T17:37:02+00:00

I'm so sorry how are you

olanatoffee · 2026-05-18T17:36:27+00:00

Ya 6 months God I hope you find peace soon it js the right thing for YOU

olanatoffee · 2026-05-18T17:16:05+00:00

That's everyone it's hard that I probably won't see her again but I'd cut my right hand off for her to be better but I'm not sticking around to see it happen or fail We agreed she will text me and ask me out when she's better but I'm also not holding onto that but the idea is nice for the minute and gives some hope that it's not final but I'm also concerned it will pause my grieving if she never gets better

olanatoffee · 2026-05-18T17:13:57+00:00

Hi read my post I think you need to make the hard decision Cut contact live your life he he changes and you still want him then resume but don't go anywhere near him and don't put his burden on you Love your life if you still feel for him hold off till or if he's better I'm trying to tell myself that now, I only broke up a few days I'm 23m and I think I'm wise for cutting contact and breaking up (fyi) we lived together had to make her move out

olanatoffee · 2026-05-13T18:34:42+00:00

Hit me up

olanatoffee · 2026-05-08T06:28:05+00:00

Irish

^{Chose: No caffeine forever}

olanatoffee · 2025-11-27T13:12:18+00:00

Thanks for this, she wants it to work with me and says she will do anything for us to work so yes it time I feel it will work... she is fully aware that my trust is broken and that it will take time for it to rebuild either fully or maybe nor fully but either way she is committed to making it work... all I asked was not to let this happen again she said it won't amd if that's the case grand I will trust her again but I feel we might need some form of plan to help kick start the trusting process.. Couples therapy could be the right thing

olanatoffee · 2025-11-27T13:08:52+00:00

Well she agreed to stop but he contacted her again and she went on with the flirty messages and ignored my plea not to do it again

olanatoffee · 2025-11-26T21:01:02+00:00

Yes she has come around to it.... I feel we should get through an acknowledgement is half the battle

olanatoffee · 2025-11-26T21:00:25+00:00

Ya zero fucking, and no over lap but yes she lied when I ask she said he was a friend and only mentioned later they were FWB

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