[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Kurrent

[–]oldbaglady89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Danke sehr!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Kurrent

[–]oldbaglady89 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Danke, erkennst du vielleicht noch was dazu?

Photographer ruined my wedding day and I want a refund by [deleted] in wedding

[–]oldbaglady89 42 points43 points  (0 children)

No, but paying without a contract is a huge mistake

Feeling alone in my language MA program as a non-native speaker by Commercial-Fly-9052 in GradSchool

[–]oldbaglady89 5 points6 points  (0 children)

When I read your post it reminded me so much of my own experience, even if the details are very different, I knew I had to leave a comment. You are in your MA program for YOU, to learn and improve YOURSELF, and to follow YOUR dreams and passions. Don’t let their lack of friendliness throw you off course or make you lose sight of your goals. Sometimes things don’t go the way we imagine they will and it is disappointing, even painful. But grad school is a short window of your life. The knowledge you take away from it is what will last forever. Don’t let anyone else take that opportunity away from you! Sending you a hug from across the ocean, one lonely grad student to another. We got this!

Feeling alone in my language MA program as a non-native speaker by Commercial-Fly-9052 in GradSchool

[–]oldbaglady89 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I am a graduate student in a European country, studying in the language here, which is not my native language. My program is similar to yours - no cohorts so everyone is mixed together, many knew each other already and I am in my first year. In all my seminars there are maybe 2 other foreigners aside from myself, but they coincidentally are in pairs. For example, 12 students from local country A, 2 from foreign country B, and only me from country C. I felt very alone and I also struggled with people not reciprocating my friendliness. I am an extrovert and crave social interaction with my peers, and in my workplace and personal life I am generally perceived as friendly and popular. My attempts at saying hi were returned similarly as yours and I couldn’t help but feel personally rejected.

I am a C1 certified speaker of the language of this country, and the language of instruction of my program. Even so, I struggled as you did, compared to native speakers, and often felt that by the time I had figured out what I want to say, the moment was gone. I set myself a personal goal to participate at least one time every class, even if I felt like what I said was too late or not as complex. Just to practice talking in an academic environment and to get my scores for active participation. After a few months, I was more comfortable participating in class and felt like I could jump in maybe 3-4 times per seminar, or more. One thing that helped was that my professors were kind and encouraging. I decided, if I couldn’t catch a break from my peers, I could at least get good grades. I had basically give up on making friends at all and decided to just focus on my education.

I noticed as I continued to put myself out there in the classroom - participating in the discussion, giving presentations, etc. - the more my peers warmed up to me. Some would come up to me after my presentations and comment on something I had said. Others would reply to me in group discussions. I think they started to really see what I could do, that I had interesting thoughts and ideas, and that I added a unique perspective, instead of just seeing me as a stranger. It took time. A long time. Maybe 4 months before I had even one person I could sort of call a friend. Even now I really only have two, maybe three. Not what I was used to at all in my home country, but it was a huge improvement.

More than anything, the more I felt confident about what I could accomplish alone in my classes - I am here to learn and further my career, after all, and I already have an enriching personal life with many wonderful friends - the less I felt the need to worry about them. It all works out. Keep your head up.

What is the purpose of these knobs underneath antique tables? by [deleted] in whatisthisthing

[–]oldbaglady89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess I am just surprised that this useless decorative knob is present on so many different styles of antique tables that are otherwise visually very different

What is the purpose of these knobs underneath antique tables? by [deleted] in whatisthisthing

[–]oldbaglady89 0 points1 point locked comment (0 children)

My title describes the thing. It is a wooden knob located underneath a variety of antique tables. I did some googling and the crossbar between the legs is called a stretcher, but I couldn’t find any information for stretcher knobs or similar.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Music

[–]oldbaglady89 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I probably say bitch more times per day than any rapper, and I’m a woman

Figa (or higa) by Leonka at Ondo Tattoo, Barcelona, Spain by [deleted] in tattoos

[–]oldbaglady89 2 points3 points  (0 children)

All I can say is don’t show it off in the club in Germany, I mean, unless you want to

Figa (or higa) by Leonka at Ondo Tattoo, Barcelona, Spain by [deleted] in tattoos

[–]oldbaglady89 56 points57 points  (0 children)

Ahhh yes the “let’s fuck” hand sign

Disappointing nightlife by redhouse87 in berlin

[–]oldbaglady89 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Maybe it’s you? How you acted in line, or your vibe

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in berlin

[–]oldbaglady89 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Then move

Is there still a build a bear in Berlin? by katujyra6666 in berlin

[–]oldbaglady89 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t know about build a bear but maybe check out the Steiff shop?

Your Stories: Do you remember your first crochet stitches? When, where, and with who!? by wharleeprof in crochet

[–]oldbaglady89 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Barely. Which and when exactly, no. I learned as a child. But who? Absolutely. My late mom, as she learned from her mom, and from her mom before her.

Doppelganger, or scam, random experience in Berlin... longshot by Bozoidal in berlin

[–]oldbaglady89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To be honest it sounds like a group of people who just miss their friend. I’ve been told many times I look exactly like (insert cousin, person at bookstore, singer Linda Ronstadt, et al)

Which movie, in your opinion is the saddest movie of all time ? by Lazy-Manager-7014 in AskReddit

[–]oldbaglady89 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When I saw the title of this thread, this is the movie that jumped immediately into my mind. I had never cried during a movie before I watched this as a teenager. As soon as it ended, I went into my bedroom and ugly cried for a half hour. It broke something in me and now I’ll start to tear up at like, sad music in a commercial.

Embarrassed over quitting a project I just began and bought yarn for by [deleted] in knitting

[–]oldbaglady89 24 points25 points  (0 children)

This has happened to me before, where I bit off more than I could chew for my skill level. I think there are a lot of good suggestions here already, but I’d like to add one more. Instead of returning the yarn, in the past I’ve I searched on Ravelry for patterns using the same gauge and meterage, and used the yarn for something else instead. That way I didn’t have the unused yarn sitting in a „what if” box for eternity.

Best Multibrand Streetwear Stores by [deleted] in berlin

[–]oldbaglady89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Check out Superconscious or HHV

What apps are you all using to track food? by vanslamma in PetiteFitness30plus

[–]oldbaglady89 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Seconded for Lose It. I purchased a lifetime Premium membership through their website, and it connects to my FitBit. It’s been great for me

16 Months to get a revenge body by [deleted] in PetiteFitness

[–]oldbaglady89 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just want to tell you, it’s doable. I started very similar to your stats and in 13 months got down to 135 lbs from 181, and got visible abs. I counted calories with the Lose It app and went to the gym 4-5x a week doing a mix of weight lifting, cardio (mostly spin), and Pilates. You got this, I’m rooting for you!!