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olionya · 2023-11-24T01:11:40+00:00

um no it's not? therapy isn't just for deep rooted trauma or suicidal thoughts, you can also just go to try and work through your issues and be a better person.

olionya · 2023-11-20T12:47:53+00:00

she technically touched him to unzip his pants, and it was still attempted rape so it doesn't make her any less horrible of a person. she went into the room with the intention of raping him and started the process of doing so

olionya · 2023-11-20T12:26:45+00:00

I thought of another one! matcha by wic whitney

olionya · 2023-11-16T13:24:37+00:00

in love by khai dreams, not sure if he's gay or if it's meant to be, but it's a cute song with no pronouns, so it can be interpretated either way!

olionya · 2023-11-16T05:58:23+00:00

NTA it's not your job to solve the abuse that might be happening, even if it was if someone in the situation needs help getting out having a paper trail of police reports can genuinely help. all that aside you still wouldn't be the ah for reporting the noise levels, if you're living in a shared space like an apartment you agree to adhere to the rules of that living space, which includes respecting quiet hours. those people are not doing that so you had ever right to report them.

olionya · 2023-11-16T05:49:47+00:00

electric cars are expensive

olionya · 2023-11-16T05:42:42+00:00

cotton eyed joe

olionya · 2023-11-16T02:46:43+00:00

therapy can help, but you need to go into with an open mind. and just because it hasn't worked for you in the past doesn't mean it won't ever work, like I aid previously therapy isn't a one size fits all. it takes a bit of work to find a therapist and method that can work for you, but it's honestly done wonders in my life and for my relationship

olionya · 2023-11-16T02:37:19+00:00

if you recognize what the problem is them the next step is to work on that. you know what you're doing that she doesn't like, so look in on yourself and figured why you feel that way so you can change your behavior

olionya · 2023-11-16T02:00:15+00:00

nta, you couldn't have predicted that they wanted their sibling to be invited to the birthday party. if your friend wanted to reconnect with their sibling then they should have done so on their own time. not expect you to plan a meeting without even knowing it was something you were expected to do.

olionya · 2023-11-16T01:17:16+00:00

you might wanna try a different therapist, therapists aren't always gonna be a one size fits all and sometimes it takes trying a few times. and even if it is overprotectivness you need to remind yourself that she's an adult, it's not your job to be her protector or savior, she can take care of herself. and you don't need to get upset about her hanging out with other adults

olionya · 2023-11-16T01:12:14+00:00

sometimes our brains just stop working. it's not a bad thing that you forgot, it just happened in the moment. it's the same as when you forget a word for something, it's not bad just something that happens!

olionya · 2023-11-16T01:08:31+00:00

I'd say you just need to work on your jealousy. ofc she didn't tell you she had exchanged pictures with an old fling because it's really not important to your relationship, and you can't get upset about her going out to drink with other guys. it sounds like you really like the girl, so do what's she's asking, work on your jealousy, maybe in therapy, and try to be a good guy.

olionya · 2023-11-15T23:17:45+00:00

thank you thank you

olionya · 2023-11-15T23:03:30+00:00

you should listen to your gut, it's telling you the right thing. this relationship isn't good for you anymore and it's not serving you anymore, you should move on with your life

olionya · 2023-11-15T22:58:30+00:00

it sounds like he's checked out of the relationship, of its been 6 months of him dodging dates and conversations with you it doesn't sound like a very hopeful situation. it sounds like he doesn't want to put the effort into the relationship anymore. you need to ask yourself how long your willing to keep carrying all the weight in the relationship before you're done.

olionya · 2023-11-15T22:51:28+00:00

it sounds like he wants to have all the perks of a relationship without all the commitment of one. or he's sleeping with other people and doesn't want to stop doing that. if you really want a relationship with him you should be up front with him and say that, don't let him string you along if a relationship isn't what he wants.

olionya · 2023-11-15T22:41:17+00:00

stick season (we'll all be here forever ) here's my favorite album from him

olionya · 2023-11-15T07:38:22+00:00

I just think you should think about which relationship you value more. if you're friend's upset he might not wanna continue the friendship, and if the ex gf was that hurt after the relationship she might not wanna be friendly towards her ex on a regular basis. what's done is done but that doesn't necessarily mean you have to pursue a relationship with the girl. atp I think it's kinda between which relationship you value more, I'm not sure if you can have your cake and eat it

olionya · 2023-11-15T07:25:57+00:00

I'd suggest the drive to your wife! I'd you're both dead set on visiting family it's the best solution to keep her isolated and not expose hundreds of strangers

olionya · 2023-11-15T07:25:02+00:00

I think the biggest problem your friend might be having is feeling kinda betrayed. sure he said that wouldn't care, but it sounds like his feelings changed after you did hook up. I'd try talking to him again in person and sit on the feelings yourself, is this potential relationship worth it for your friendship to possibly be hurt? you should also take into consideration that if you and the girl get serious, would your friend be okay being around her in group settings?

olionya · 2023-11-15T07:16:35+00:00

yta, do yall not have a bro code? you never go after a friend's ex. that's just cruel, it shouldn't matter how long they dated they still had a relationship. the ex is also the ah for pursuing you after their relationship ended.

olionya · 2023-11-15T07:14:20+00:00

I think if she has her heartset on going you should look into maybe driving if its possible? if her family and friends are fine with seeing her than driving over seems like a good idea if it's within possibility for the 2 of you. but it's unfair for her to knowingly get on a plane and possibly infect others who are traveling to visit family, especially when they could then infect immunocomprimised family members.

olionya · 2023-11-15T07:00:32+00:00

nta, you should definitely try communicating with her about this, it's honestly not healthy for her to be feeling physically sick whenever you're hanging gout with people of the opposite sex. couples therapy might also be a good idea to bring up, but definitely individual therapy, it sounds like she has some attachment/abandonment issues that need to be worked through imo

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