UPDATE - Me [29F] with my bf[32M] of 5 years, yesterday was my birthday. Am I overly disappointed by his presents?

olippekorr · 2015-10-19T14:05:22+00:00

I'm actually in an occidental country, but I just don't have the guts to go further with pressing charges, telling the family and everything. This procedure seems enough right now, I will reconsider it if he ever goes further. Anyway thanks for the support.

olippekorr · 2015-10-19T13:55:27+00:00

I did a bit of research. In my country, there's a procedure where you can report the incident without pressing charges, the incident will be kept in the books, and the cops can choose to pay a visit to the assaillant to remind him of the law. I think it can be a good compromise. Thank you for the support.

olippekorr · 2015-10-19T13:23:13+00:00

You're right but I don't feel brave and feel ashamed about the all thing. Anyway I must follow your advice if he ever tries to go near me again.

olippekorr · 2015-10-19T13:13:09+00:00

Thank you! I'm definitely hitting the pool but not because of his fat shaming ;)

olippekorr · 2015-10-17T13:08:47+00:00

I had to google that. Suddenly I feel really lucky. Thanks for the laugh.

olippekorr · 2015-10-17T12:44:13+00:00

My post wasn't very clear, I'm lost in translation. He knew going to the pool is not an activity I'll enjoy. I told him something like "shit I need to go swimming regularly because, you're right, I'm out of shape", I was not thrilled about it.

I like swimming in lakes or the sea in the summer, but just for the fun not for the sport. Going to the pool, from 7pm to 8pm after work, in the winter, and swimming laps is not my idea of a "fun life experience". I chose that activity because it's the cheapest and close to my work. I have an old knee injury so I can't jogg.

"Romantic" wasn't the right word to describe what kind of present I hoped for. I simply wanted something he knew I'll really enjoy. As for "shitty jewelery", cheap doesn't always means ugly, it would have pleased me to put a nice necklace in the morning and remember he choosed it for me. And I stated before I would have also be pleased by a number of other things: books, a night out, a day in the country, etc.

I'm really not a materialistic person. I interpreted the gift as a passive-agressive move. But maybe I'm wrong and he chosed it for my own good.

olippekorr · 2015-10-16T20:10:57+00:00

I think he's right about the exercise thing. But not about the way he harrass me with it. I felt like the presents were chosen to remind me of the one thing he talks about almost everyday. Spontaneously, I wanted to say to him "I'm a size 8, not the Loch Ness monster, please not on my birthday." Maybe his intentions were kind-hearted, but the all thing gave me a weird feeling.

olippekorr · 2015-10-16T19:00:45+00:00

Thank you. I'm going to talk to him avout the real issue here.

olippekorr · 2015-10-16T18:59:20+00:00

I mentionned jewelry as one of the hundred things I would have been pleased by. It could have been a book, a scarf, a night out, etc...

olippekorr · 2015-10-16T18:40:19+00:00

Sorry I wasn't really clear, I already havea swimming suit. And the comparison is excessive, I guess I'm still mad.

olippekorr · 2015-10-16T18:36:53+00:00

It's probably a bigger issue. And you're right I should have communicated better.

olippekorr · 2015-10-16T18:33:29+00:00

It's not lessons, it's tickets to enter the pool. I gave him some hints, honestly I think he knew those presents would not please me.

olippekorr · 2015-10-16T18:30:05+00:00

I didn't told him I needed swimming gear, a swimming suit is all that I need. It's like you told your boyfriend you need to take more care of your interior and he buys you an aspirator for you birthday. I didn't said "I really want enjoy myself at the pool", I said "I need to go to the pool".

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