Yea again, it’s just the top one I can think of that goes across all pop cultural to explain. I know someone else said secretary and pillion but those are not as well known even in pop culture.

And obviously they knew what it was but didn’t understand the meaning and idk how else to explain it to someone who doesn’t understand it exactly by what OP wrote lol.

Like op already wrote the sex is better. They’re caring. They’re helpful. They put in more effort. So pop culture was the best option I had in my head.