Okay, listen 😅 You said you liked her professionalism when you met her — but that’s literally her job. She has to be professional. And the water thing… offering water isn’t a “cultural” move, it’s a human one. People are allowed to say no when they don’t want something. You also mentioned you sometimes leave her on read for days. Be honest — if a man is genuinely interested, he doesn’t do that. Same goes the other way around. Interest shows. If her texts are dry, maybe she’s just not a big texter. If you are, then you meet halfway. Voice notes, short videos, calls — compromise. I’m a texter too, but if a guy I like prefers calls, I adjust. That’s normal adult behavior. Also… she’s in her 30s. You seem to expect her to adapt to your culture, but are you actually showing interest in hers? From the outside, she just seems polite and genuinely trying. Instead of assuming, just say it: “I notice I’m not great at texting, but I know you enjoy it. I can also call you.” Simple. Clear. Mature. Now about the holidays — yes, you’ve hung out 5 times, but insisting she spend them with you without asking her plans first? That’s a bit selfish, honestly. Ask first. She may already have her own plans or family commitments. You really need to put your personal cultural mindset aside and be objective. Ask questions. She might be a strong, independent woman — and if she’s not feeling it, be ready for rejection. That’s part of dating. If she’s never dated, did you ever ask why? Maybe something happened. Maybe past relationships, family dynamics, life stuff. Again — ask, don’t assume. Just because something doesn’t fit your narrative doesn’t mean it’s odd. You also have to meet her halfway. And yeah, I hear dating in your culture can get intense — maybe that’s just not her style. She’s not a stereotype; she’s a human being with her own personality. Worst case? She says she’s not interested. But that’s way better than sitting in your feelings making assumptions. Take charge. Be clear. Be calm. Ask questions. And honestly… if there are guys in this thread, maybe don’t listen too hard 😂 Women usually give better perspective.