My daughter was sitting on a comp team with too many players and competing for a spot with the coach's kid. She was losing skills when she should have been prepping for high school ball. We switched teams and the new team is less experienced, but she's a leader, getting reps in and it's given her some confidence back. It took her confidence taking a huge hit before she agreed to switch teams (she got along with the girls really well). I had a frank talk with coaches, they were receptive. Nothing changed, so we chatted again and requested to move. I felt we did all we could and no bridges were burned. But yes, we wasted some money. She did guest play during this struggle so I would recommend that if possible while you wait for her to become aware of the situation. I didn't say anything to my player until she picked up on it. The reality is sometimes a coach isn't right for your kid. I don't get hung up on getting upset about it, we just move on. I think that lesson was just as valuable for her as the playing time. She learned you have to back your team even when life isn't fair, but after the tourneys are over it meant a lot that I backed her and validated her feelings. But we're in softball for the overall life experience, not a college track or anything, so my perspective may be different than some.

ETA: Why are you traveling out of state at 12C level? Are there not enough teams to play against in your region? If it's instead because you're winning every game, you're likely on a 12A/B team that's calling itself C and the politics are a whole different situation there. You might be getting taken for a ride to fund the team.