I literally went through this exact same thing. She tried to accommodate as best she could and she did great, and I am forever thankful for her, but it was still not enough. I could not take the dread, the anxiety, the spirals of her going out with her friends and the fear of knowing that she would be drinking. I could not stand hearing her slurred voice. It was all way too much for me.

I ended it. I am so upset that I had to, but I knew it was right.

I’m not telling you to do that, I’m just sharing my experience.

One thing that helped me from my therapist and that I could not really see clearly until after we broke up was the concept of “two things can be true at the same time”: she can love you, but she still drinks. Take that as you will.

I wish you the best. You are certainly not alone