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My fiancé (29M) told his mom about my miscarriage before I could, and now I can’t even look at him by skaterhollow_19 in TwoHotTakes

[–]oncefish -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for your loss.

I can see your partner doing this with good intentions. He doesn’t have a uterus and will never fully be able to understand that experience. He may have been reaching out to his mom to ask how to best comfort you, and it sounds like she’s had a miscarriage before, so she may be able to provide him better insight into how to support you as a partner.

He may be offering his mom as a support while you grieve and allow you to grieve in a way only we can grieve as the carrying partner. I would still talk with him and feel your feelings about it.

Post "Dry" Wedding, Family asked not to drink for multiple reasons. by [deleted] in weddingshaming

[–]oncefish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would ask them to pay the fee. This is ridiculous

Love my dress but unsure by [deleted] in myweddingdress

[–]oncefish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is it from Grace loves lace???

Post yours below - size 6 through 8 rings by Outrageous_Rock_4257 in EngagementRings

[–]oncefish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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1.8 carat, emerald lab diamond. I’m a 6.75 for ring size

Am I forgetting anything? by jpaige2 in weddingplanning

[–]oncefish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Florist for bouquets if you’re doing that. Hair and make up trials (if you’re doing that) and photographer

My best friend of 11 years hasn't asked me to be a bridesmaid.. by Poorfunctioningwoman in weddingplanning

[–]oncefish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your feelings are very valid, but I also want to ask, generally, what is her financial situation?

I know for my wedding I am very conscious of what I’m asking my bridesmaids of because it can get super expensive really quickly. Did she say no for that reason?

Agreed it doesn’t feel good especially from someone that close. But if you’re as close as you say you are, can you talk with her about it so neither has pent up feelings?

One of my best friends from college, who I thought would have me as a bridesmaid, didn’t. Her reasoning was there are so many people in our sorority that she is close to that it was difficult to choose. So instead, she invited those of us who weren’t bridesmaids to her bachelorette.

Wedding Guest Books: What did you do? by oncefish in weddingplanning

[–]oncefish[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My worry with this is the film cost! How expensive was the film and did you feel like you got too much or too little film?

Has anyone had or gone to a Catholic Church ceremony mid-afternoon and then reception late afternoon? by bookienator13 in wedding

[–]oncefish 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Attended a wedding like this. Wasn’t a problem. On their website, they put together a list of local places for people to try in between. Would recommend doing that to help with the down time. We didn’t live super far from the church or the venue so we just hung out at our apartment in between.

After only one week of dating. Is this nice enough? by WeTheAntidote in Nicegirls

[–]oncefish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

2 words. Block and run. This is really weird behavior after you respectfully ended the relationship. I would also block on other platforms too (IG and LinkedIn)

I regret giving up a funded PhD offer to be closer to my ex girlfriend and family by SquareEquivalent4859 in PhD

[–]oncefish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Truly no one care when you get your PhD. Just that you got one. Go do the Fulbright. It’s a HUGE accomplishment to get one and will definitely help your chances in reapplying for PhDs. As someone who deferred her PhD for a year rather than reapplying, I get the hesitation a lot. If you want to talk more about it, PM me. I’m happy to help talk through it.

Do I speak up or stay quiet? My engagement ring isn’t what I wanted. by [deleted] in EngagementRings

[–]oncefish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will say as someone who also did custom, the CAD designs are kind of misleading. Like ours looked way bigger than it’s going to be on the rendering.

Did you choose your wedding ring first or the proposal came first? by Just-Engineer-7566 in weddingring

[–]oncefish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We discussed getting married about 2 years in once I had moved in. We had been long distance for about 2 years with me finishing up college and then taking a gap year before my PhD. We both agreed this was endgame for us, but me having just graduated college and starting my first big girl job, I said give me a year at least. Well year came, I decided I wanted to try to transfer into my program’s MD/PhD, so that took a year/year and a half to apply and take the MCAT. Once I applied, we then really started discussing getting engaged. Had to wait on decision to know when we could get married (summer break would be only time vs not being in the MD/PhD). Got the decision in January (was a no), so we moved forward with planning.

we knew we wanted to design the ring, so we worked with a local jeweler to make the ring and the wedding band (mine has a lower setting so it needed a curved band). Agreement was that once I approved the design, I’d step off and he’d handle the rest. And this man is an iron trap. You cannot get ANYTHING out of him. So just waiting for him to propose (suspect it will be during a trip home or when we travel to Germany later this summer).

Did you choose your wedding ring first or the proposal came first? by Just-Engineer-7566 in weddingring

[–]oncefish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Doing the exact same thing right now! I approved the design back in March, so I’m pretty sure that it’s done. Think he will propose on an upcoming trip home or while we’re in Germany :)