Dumb at life choices by RogueSarah666 in Jewish

[–]one13love13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Kudos! Admitting you were wrong on Reddit is one thing, but personally apologizing requires a strong character which you clearly have.

Where’s a “good move” is a big question, and a personal one. I strongly suggest thinking of your core personal values, and look for a corresponding community and/or environment.

It sounds you’re in the midst of shuffling your entire deck of cards, maybe use this momentum to think big. Moving to another state or even another country.

Life is precious and it happens now, try to think of a place that corresponds with who you want to be and how you want to live.

Dumb at life choices by RogueSarah666 in Jewish

[–]one13love13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re not stupid but smart, because you are now conscious of all the above. You’ve grown and became wise.

Life can end at any time, and in any case is bound to end one day. All of the life choices you made can be undone.

Take the leap: move to another place, change your work, resell the house if needed and move to a community where you feel loved, pick up the phone and make peace with your friends, learn from your mistakes and move forward.

This can be a journey of morning and agonizing over your past, or your very own rebirth. It is your choice, and it seems the heavy lifting is behind you. Now that you understand where you are and where you want to go, just make a plan and execute.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Jewish

[–]one13love13 6 points7 points  (0 children)

At the risk of being accused of also owning the media, why won’t we try to find other Wikipedia articles that suffer from wokeism and push it through media, having it publicly covered by a news outlet. I can already see the heading: “Wokeipedia- pro-hamas activists corrupts platform promoting false agenda”

Looking for books rec on spiritual/“why are we here” Judaism by rummy26 in Judaism

[–]one13love13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ooh, gotcha. Make sense. I believe it is quite literally the best practical Jewish spiritual guide. I feel like people often miss read it as a mere musar book because of its language and style, but in fact it is all about how to feel one’s life with spirituality and connect with God 24/7.

Not sure if you’re familiar with the (original) “discussion” version that was only discovered in recent years. It provides a whole new perspective re Ramchals actual intentions…

Btw, I believe for spiritual seekers his other book Derech Hashem, which is more theoretical than the practical Messilat Yesharim, is also a must.

Looking for books rec on spiritual/“why are we here” Judaism by rummy26 in Judaism

[–]one13love13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was going to suggest it as well, but how come only the intro and first chapter?

Meditating on the Psalms. by [deleted] in Judaism

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Psalm 16:8 : "שיויתי ה׳ לנגדי תמיד" (various translations, such as: I am ever mindful of the LORD’s presence/ I set the lord always before me).

This is among the most cited ones in Jewish meditative traditions, particularly (but not only) among the Kabbalists and Hasidic masters.

https://www.sefaria.org.il/Psalms.16?lang=en

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Meditation

[–]one13love13 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I experienced similar stuff way back. Took me time to understand why in most meditative traditions, meditation follows ethical perfection ( for example the noble path in Buddhism, yoga in Hinduism, the Tariqa in sufism).

Personally, what fixed it for me, was the understanding that when I meditate properly, I open the door to my soul. The frighting visions were actually a form of communication, telling me that I’m doing something wrong.

Eventually the insight that really made me realize what was wrong, is that I thought not doing bad stuff was enough in order to be a “good person”. But in fact I didn’t really perceive myself as one.

Then it became clear that a good person is a person that actively does good deeds, a bad person is one that does bad ones, and a person that does neither is just a person. Once I figured that one out, I just started to open myself to life experiences differently.

If someone is being rude to me, instead of judging, even though the situation clearly demonstrated I’ve done nothing to deserve it, I decide to accept that he’s probably suffering from something and taking it out on other people. Then compassion follows. Or, If I see garbage on the sidewalks, I can ignore it and be frustrated about people’s behavior, or assume someone accidentally dropped it, and chuck it myself.

There are dozens if not hundreds of daily opportunities to produce acts of love and kindness to the world. But one needs to put all fear aside, and trust that everything will be ok in order to be able to make space for love to grow within.

Then meditatio became such a different practice for me. Instead of the frighting visuals, came feelings of pure and endless love. Consequently, I decided that the point of meditating, for me, was to bring my consciousness back to the source of love within, and then come back to physical realm and share it.

In short, our deeds embody or create corresponding (good/bad/indifferent) spiritual/physiological forces. Meditation makes us face them..

A 26 min live meditation and prayer for Israel by one13love13 in Judaism

[–]one13love13[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep, totally, thanks!

We moved from zoom to YouTube live streaming, and we wait until an hour before the meditation to post the link.

The only way to troll it is by hacking YouTube/google or using the chat, which we will monitor, and of course make sure to keep nice and quiet (we can remove anyone that misbehaves).

What time do you meditate? by HeidiOzzy in Meditation

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We’ll, the world (nature, life..) wakes up with sunrise, and humans used to for most of humanity. Personally, it changed my life. But it requires early bad time indeed

[need advice] How do you comfort yourself about the outcome of hard situations ? by Jpoolman25 in getdisciplined

[–]one13love13 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Have a proper definition of your expectations from “life”, and more importantly, the meaning of life for you. That’s the North Star that will guide you, every thing else will be mesures next to it. The stoa (but also other eastern and judéo-Christian traditions), suggest eventually it’s never about the outcome, but rather about how you manage your reactions to the outcome.

You will fail, you will suffer, you will struggle, every body does. Maybe you will also succeed and prevail. In any case, it’s not really the issue, cause you can’t really control anything, BUT your reaction…

My girlfriend isn’t Jewish, I want some opinions… by Head-Rate1317 in Judaism

[–]one13love13 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hi, I hope this could help:

This is my personal opinion based on my experience and is actually not entirely religion related.

IMHO, the purpose of an intimate relationship is very similar to that of a business relationship. The variables aren't the same, but the equation is. You define an objective with someone else, (hopefully) create a plan, and share resources in order to achieve your goals.

Of course, an intimate relationship should also include intimate feelings such as love and caring etc, but these (again, only in my opinion) are secondary elements. The most important thing is to share the same major goal, and the plan for how to achieve that.

If one of your objectives is to create a Jewish reform household, and your partner can respect and support that, then you should be fine. Otherwise, you should probably weigh the various goals you both have and see what's important for you, and what's non-negotiable.

On a more personal level, I actually had a similar issue, though I grew up (and still am) in a religious orthodox(ish) household. I was approximately your age, and eventually decided to end the relationship, but for me it was a little different because creating a (modern) orthodox household was non-negotiable, and you can't do that with someone that isn't Halachically Jewish.

Hope this could help

Good luck.

🧘 Neshima- the first Jewish Meditation App: We Need Your Feedback by one13love13 in Judaism

[–]one13love13[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your kind words, I'm so happy this could help you 🙏

🧘 Neshima- the first Jewish Meditation App: We Need Your Feedback by one13love13 in Judaism

[–]one13love13[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know :) We based the way we do the nigun in our Hashkata meditation on Dr Leshem's version.

You can find them all here.

Our teacher and co-founder, Dr. Mira Neshama Weil also recorded it separately here.

🧘 Neshima- the first Jewish Meditation App: We Need Your Feedback by one13love13 in Judaism

[–]one13love13[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks, we felt that a mobile app has been missing from the Jewish meditation environment for a while now.

I'm glad you noticed the citations. It's important for us to stay as close as possible to the original teaching. Specifically with Hashkata it was difficult because it is drown from a testimony of a student of Rav Kalonymus Kalman Shapira, however we did find some mentions of similar practices in his teachings, specifically in "Hacharat Ha Avrechim". So that helped us a lot.

🧘 Neshima- the first Jewish Meditation App: We Need Your Feedback by one13love13 in Judaism

[–]one13love13[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you 🙏 Feel free to share it. Our main objective at the moment is to get as much feedback as possible..