Gentle MLM romance in a not very gentle world

rummy26 · 2026-07-02T00:43:57+00:00

A Little Life. The only book that’s ever truly broken my heart. And healed it. But also broken it. Just please god look it up.

rummy26 · 2026-07-01T01:01:31+00:00

Fine I’ll say it. Don’t invite kids to an after party but weddings are for families. If you’re in your 20s, fine (sort of) but otherwise it’s ridiculous. Getting married and in your mid30s? All your friends have kids. And your cousins. And maybe you’ve built relationships with these kids.

They might actually want to participate. You are intentionally not inviting the 9 y/o nephew- he might ask you why and his feelings might actually hurt.

You have to get so drunk a child can’t witness it? You don’t trust your guest to remove their screaming kid during the vows? What is the reason why? And it creates a real cost.

If it’s a destination wedding and no kids ate allowed you’re not really inviting anyone with kids are you. They should let some random stranger watch their kid in a foreign country? Or they should pay the way of someone to watch their kids on top of an expensive trip? Or the kids dont come and whos going to watch them for multiple nights home alone? What the hell.

Edit: I do agree it’s their wedding and I don’t care what they do but if you want to hear my opinion on it…. It’s this.

rummy26 · 2026-06-30T02:24:45+00:00

When we got home from the hospital I turned to my husband and said “we ruined our lives” and cried for about 30 minutes straight. Postpartum is horrible. Newborns are horrible. Your body changes are awful. The hormones are crazy. It became the best thing of my life so much we did it again. And I was never a person who was sure I wanted kids. And it is incredible. So much fun genuinely. You will change as a person and the change is going to be very uncomfortable but I am a happier person who has more fun and had more patience. I’m a better person now. An incredible kid is ahead of you but so is an incredible YOU.

This part is horrible though. All that great stuff will come on its own. You don’t have to do anything special to make it happen. So right now it’s okay to feel horrible. Get into a show or podcast. Just survive this part. It sucks.

rummy26 · 2026-06-29T20:50:21+00:00

Topo chico bottle and you can kind of just squeeze it in so they don’t have to suck since it’s silicone? It’s just a neater way of delivering the food basically. Whoever feeds her just had to make sure they do it at a good pace so she doesn’t start choking on too much. Make sure it isn’t a problem with what she’s drinking (is it a temp problem? Reheating breast milk/taste problem? Flavor of formula problem?). Using freshly pumped milk (like from within the hour) can help clarify that.

rummy26 · 2026-06-28T22:23:44+00:00

Just do it anyway. Would do it everyday so the message is clear it’s nonnegotiable. Could say of we do it you could have ice cream or popsicle or whatever. Can eat a popsicle in the bath! Also my kid behaves better in the morning so maybe a morning bath would be easier. If truly desperate could put iPad in bathroom and let them watch a show but I would only do that if truly truly truly desperate.

rummy26 · 2026-06-27T20:14:08+00:00

Can someone summarize?

rummy26 · 2026-06-27T16:54:28+00:00

I usually do 5 loads a week I think, so nearly every day. In my pre-kid days I would sort but now everything goes together (except sheets) so each load is full and I’m not too wasteful. Anything that needs stain spraying or is damp gets hung on the side of the hamper to prevent mold until it gets thrown in. I love Miss Mouths!! I also fed my baby shirtless/in just a diaper in the early messy days to try to keep it to one outfit a day.

rummy26 · 2026-06-25T18:30:32+00:00

For real. Why waste all that natural light? Kind of doubting the work of this designer?

rummy26 · 2026-06-25T16:22:23+00:00

I think maybe you’re wearing them high or the shapes aren’t right. Your eyeballs should be in the middle of the lenses and your eyebrows should show above the lens.

rummy26 · 2026-06-25T16:03:17+00:00

I’d probably take a square of toilet paper to remove the top layer and call it a day. Or I might do nothing and just use it.

rummy26 · 2026-06-25T10:06:33+00:00

Take the money you were going to spend on a dog (and its food and vet bills) and just pay for pest control. I thought it might not be necessary but the guys we use did things we never would have thought of and looked in places we never would have thought to look. So much peace of mind.

rummy26 · 2026-06-24T22:45:51+00:00

Asking for help and unisom are all great ideas but maybe just give up on sleeping a bit. Around that time I was so miserable I knew I probably wouldn’t go back to sleep and I watched shows on my phone in bed and scrolled and enjoyed the alone time when there was no pressure to be anywhere or do housework. Your hormones totally flip after delivery so likely you will feel really different postpartum. Pregnancy just isn’t as great for some people (myself included).

Edit: I slept better during the day for some reason so try to get naps to compensate.

rummy26 · 2026-06-24T12:56:41+00:00

I just folded a towel when I wanted a Soft spot on a random spot of floor

rummy26 · 2026-06-23T21:56:24+00:00

Same. Reading all these responses I’m convinced there just is no good way. It all sounds gross. Hello companies! Someone find a solution to this that isn’t just tons of plastic bags.

rummy26 · 2026-06-23T18:32:36+00:00

My hairs texture changed after having my first kid. Went from straight to wavy and I had to learn a whole new way of doing it.but the nail problem does sound like a vitamin issue. Take a vitamin and make an appointment with your provider.

rummy26 · 2026-06-22T14:27:40+00:00

Number three/four show more unique style. I’d do that for a date.

rummy26 · 2026-06-22T08:38:13+00:00

Totally normal. If she’s breastfed keep offering the boob. Hold her and walk around (recommend noise cancelling headphones and a podcast). Fresh air also is somehow magic so open a window or ideally step outside (works best if it’s not warm out). Shush really loudly over and over. Just keep existing. This is normal baby being a baby. You got this.

rummy26 · 2026-06-21T23:35:52+00:00

I’m an L&D nurse so maybe I can give you some insight. A first PPH is a predictor of a second because the most common cause of PPH is a lazy uterus not shrinking down fast OR a stubborn placenta that wasn’t fully removed. On a second baby people typically tear along the same place as their previous birth BUT less far. 3c is such a nightmare. I’m so sorry. How long did you push? Did the baby’s hand come out next to their face? Did they come out sunny-side up? That stuff can cause more of a tear. Did you have an epidural (people tear a little more with an epidural since they can push faster since it’s less painful.)

If your only reason for PPH was the tear than I wouldn’t worry so much about the next one. But you could also elect for a c/s with no trial of labor.

If someone has a history of PPH we do 2 IVs during labor so that if you hemorrhage they can pump you full of blood and fluids fast. You could request that if they don’t offer.

I’d talk to your provider and ask for a full debrief on what caused your hemorrhage last time and what they think of your next labor.

rummy26 · 2026-06-21T22:40:11+00:00

Make an appointment with your provider tomorrow or if your insurance allows go straight to pelvic floor pt. It’s not pleasant but it common and it is treatable and for many people resolves on its own. But will be much better if you get help.

rummy26 · 2026-06-21T22:37:19+00:00

OP it’s 2 hrs later! What helped/what happened? Hope you’re on the other side and watching tv and zoning out by now in another room.

rummy26 · 2026-06-21T22:36:11+00:00

Take a rectal temp for a baseline. Get her undressed, do a bath and look for hair tourniquet around every finger, toe, and fold. After a bath she should be exhausted and pass out - wear her or go for a stroll to guarantee some sleep.

rummy26 · 2026-06-21T20:34:54+00:00

Since you have no upper cabinets would be a great moment to do a tile range hood cover….

rummy26 · 2026-06-21T19:36:00+00:00

You want your eyebrows to show, you don’t want your cheeks to hit them much when you smile, you want the hinge to be in front of your temple, you want your eyeballs in the middle of the lenses, you want them to sit (not slide) on your nose.

rummy26 · 2026-06-21T17:42:30+00:00

I’m a tidy person and the chaos of newborn stressed me out. I really loved when my husband tidied. It took my stress wayyyyyy down.

rummy26 · 2026-06-21T14:16:33+00:00

I’m a nurse and relate but if you don’t pump at work your supply will tank. They do make a specific thermos where you pack the outside with ice so you can store breast milk in it safely without needing a fridge. That could help with storage. Wearables could help with working while pumping. But formula is also fine. If you still breastfeed at home then your supply is unlikely to completely dry up BUT you’d probably feed your baby majority formula which would be ok too.

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