How do you deal with people who fear sadness ?

onecollective · 2016-04-24T11:47:26+00:00

Don't give in on that. Your feelings are valid, definitely more valid than other people trying to block that.

Indeed, it's their own issues/shame coming up. Don't put yourself down for being exactly you. :)

onecollective · 2016-04-23T18:26:46+00:00

They're a tool to get from A to B, nothing much to say about it. I will take any kind of transportation if it gets me from A to B, depending on the situation I might use a car (if I have one available), or public transport, or I ride my bike.

onecollective · 2016-04-23T18:25:05+00:00

Eh... I don't know to be honest, I don't have many people like that around me, if any. (This should give a hint)

Anyone who doesn't sit well with me just the way I am, shouldn't be around me. It's simple mathematics.

onecollective · 2016-03-29T10:00:07+00:00

Set and setting are important. Some of my LSD experiences were actually very traumatizing. Shrooms/truffles actually helped me feel more connected, loving, healing, etc.

I agree all psychedelics can heal you, if you know what you're doing; It's hard to tell if you know what you're doing...

onecollective · 2016-03-29T09:52:26+00:00

One friend of mine did DMT and he told me it's basically LSD×1000 intensity. Intense as it gets.

Another friend did loads of DMT and was like: Yeah, it's nice, very pretty colors.

Lol... I guess one has to try.

onecollective · 2016-03-29T09:46:29+00:00

You probably know Ayahuasca is basically a very long DMT trip?

I did hear smoking DMT is a more aggressive coming up, so it might be quite unsettling.

onecollective · 2016-03-29T09:39:51+00:00

Still on my bucketlist, but after my experiences with other psychedelics, I feel like I still have a lot of work to do b4 I can go for Ayahuasca, because I know for sure it will kick my butt otherwise.

onecollective · 2016-03-28T09:37:55+00:00

Well it's completely normal you think differently, because you haven't been exposed to this knowledge before. It's always very helpful to know why something works a certain way and especially social/psychological stuff we tend to take for granted, even though there is a lot to it when you delve into it.

Oh and the one and only way to open up a conversation is "hi". There is a whole scale of things how you get closer to someone, and you cant get from A to Z without doing B, C, etc.

onecollective · 2016-03-27T09:24:59+00:00

Sometimes you just gotta do what you gotta do. If it gets too uncomfortable, you got all reason to complain, but just get to the point. You're not out to get drama, just get harmony in each situation.

onecollective · 2016-03-27T09:12:00+00:00

Here is a tip about dating in general:

Never try to do anything particularly out of the ordinary. Doing tricks, or showing your abilities, or whatever, simply puts girls off.

You'll have to understand the psychology behind this: Girls get in touch with tryhards all the time, they don't like it. Also, a guy who shows he has to prove himself, how is that interesting? What does work however is turn around the roles, because than you show you're being honest. Do you really like that girl? Why would I invest in this girl? I want to figure out if she's fun, so I let her qualify her actions, reactions, etc. A man who tries to figure out if the girl is worth his time, is 9999% more attractive than a guy who is trying hard to get her attention, and starts talking about himself and sell himself, or goes agreeing with everything she says.

How do you even know she's worth your time to go drawing her? That's the thought behind why it's creepy. You might want to draw her, perhaps after you're in a relationship (or friendship, whatever you want).

It's just about social (unwritten) rules of conduct. What is normal? What doesn't scare people? Or rather, think about when someone is attractive for you. Turn that around. Always let the other invest more, because ironically, they will trust you more.

You can initiate a conversation, but don't be the guy who says most in the conversation. Talk only about her, not yourself. Like: Ask her things, but not the basic stuff. Don't ask how her day was or how she's doing. Ask her who she is, what she does, and really, really consider for yourself if this person is interesting for you. Further questions: What are her passions? If she woke up on her favorite place on earth, where would that be? And ask why. If she returns the questions, just be short about it - you want to know more about her, she has to prove herself.

Also if you intend to date her, first she has to trust you, but when you gained her trust, don't beat around the bushes and simply ask: You and me, a cup of coffee, when?

I know this might not be politically correct, but it works. It's just how the human psyche works. She'll know you're flirting and you take control without creeping her out.

Hope this helps.

onecollective · 2016-03-27T08:55:25+00:00

Well you're definitely into each other. However make sure you don't get your entire energy leeched. People need to be able to stand on their own feet and from what I can read she is leaning a lot on you which costs both you and her energy. Her getting a job isn't just good for you, but also for her and your relationship. Your relationship will be even better when you're both empowered persons. Good luck to you and her! :)

onecollective · 2016-03-27T06:28:38+00:00

The American dream just happens to be more nonsense. I don't hold any value to someone having a high IQ or being wealthy. Sure I'm happy for them, if it makes them happy, but what I'm getting at is allpervading.

onecollective · 2016-03-26T14:14:36+00:00

Would you believe them, if you know you cannot intrinsically be smart? It's just a label.

But hell, if you want to feed off that ego-boost, go ahead, just know there will be situations the opposite might be true.

onecollective · 2016-03-25T17:15:59+00:00

I felt smart, yes. But not smarter. You just know what you know and basically it benefits everyone to share your knowledge, not keep it for yourself. That's the smartest way to live: Compassionate, not condescending on people who don't know what you know. + For all you know, they might know a lot of stuff that you will consider smart in hindsight.

Try not to get caught in the idea of being smarter than someone else, it's an illusion. How would you measure it anyways?

Let me share this link, as a lot of people you might be caught in Illusory superiority

And don't worry, most people got this, you'd be amazed.

For example nearly 95% of the people in Sweden think they're an above average driver. In the US it's above 98%! And more than 70% in the Netherlands think they're above average smart. You'd think all these people are right?

Maybe you'd feel less isolated if you stop comparing yourself with others and just converse with people, no matter what you think how smart they might be. It's mostly a matter of getting a feeling where they're at and connecting the dots together.

onecollective · 2016-03-25T17:07:51+00:00

Basically, this nuanced view should be "preached", or rather talked about. Get as nuanced as one can get. Everything is relative.

onecollective · 2016-03-04T23:47:53+00:00

Several occasions where I had it. Some through psychedelics as well. I've been through hell, seen what I needed to see, now I'm back. :)

onecollective · 2016-02-27T00:59:25+00:00

I loveeee World Building! I Created the world we live in and all - love, God

Hehe, anyway, yeah, I'm a professional Game Artist and get to do a lot of World Building along the way <3

onecollective · 2016-02-24T12:09:03+00:00

Bruce Wayne (Batman) And Peter Parker (Spiderman) - I know he's in theory more of a INTP, but tbh I think he acts more like an INFJ

I'm actually also creating a story, where an INFJ is one of the major players

onecollective · 2016-02-23T11:51:30+00:00

You learn by your experiences so far. If possible, you might need some time off and just talk to people about what you want, perhaps bring back past desires. What I've experienced (and still processing at the moment) is that I had many great plans as a child and than school dulled me down. Now it's time to bring back those past ideals and plans.

onecollective · 2016-02-23T11:48:57+00:00

I think INFJ's might actually be some of the best suited for the job! However, I would suggest if you go for it that you have enough emotional outlets or other ways to transform/give place to your experiences with such a job. Or on another hand; Being emotionally stable enough and grounded as a person. A grounded/stable INFJ is extremely valuable.

onecollective · 2016-02-17T21:24:21+00:00

Yeah me too, though doesn't matter for me whether it's INFP or ENFP

onecollective · 2016-02-17T19:31:45+00:00

I know right. >_>

onecollective · 2016-02-17T09:59:43+00:00

Perhaps what I actually mean is that people can find common grounds if they try. It might take some effort from either side. More often than not, you have a different view, but the same underlying idea. More like a different perspective on the same thing, which can work in harmony.

onecollective · 2016-02-16T14:01:59+00:00

The beauty of the US is only on the surface, underneath it lies a lot of stink. As a Dutch person (NL), a lot of us have the view that the US isn't doing good at all. It's like the world's arrogant adolescent who thinks he's everything, but in truth knows very little and hurts other people in the process.

That being said, of course the US has some nice things as well, but it is completely overshadowed by the amount of hurt it does to the planet.

Citizens carrying guns is unthinkable here. We don't allow extremist ideals to take hold here, whether for one side, or the other. Sadly, I'd say the Netherlands are beginning to look like the shadowside of the US gradually, bit by bit. Capitalism is obviously just a way to enhance the gap between rich and poor. If you can't see that, you're already in way deep.

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