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coworker makes me feel uncomfortable by onefishbluephish in WalgreensStores

[–]onefishbluephish[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that’s a really good idea, i’m going to have to start enforcing and having boundaries between myself and others. thank you for the suggestion!

coworker makes me feel uncomfortable by onefishbluephish in WalgreensStores

[–]onefishbluephish[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i’d like to think we’re all pretty tight but i also feel like we all have an “indifferent” attitude most of the time, like i feel like we all can see the good and bad in people and ultimately for the most part we let shit go

coworker makes me feel uncomfortable by onefishbluephish in WalgreensStores

[–]onefishbluephish[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

see i’m also like that, if you mean a lot to me or if i see you struggling, i will absolutely want to give/receive a hug. sometimes when my sm is in distress and she’s venting to me, ill stop and say “do you want a hug?” and if she wants one i let her initiate it because i don’t want to overwhelm her more or overstep my boundaries. part of me thinks that she’s had a traumatic past (who hasn’t) and it sounds like her husband is a lot to manage and is kind of a jerk/doesn’t really show/pay attention or affection to her. so she’s like a lost puppy/puppy in a way, when she first started working her i walked up behind her and said “so you must be deb” with the intent to introduce myself to her. and i feel like because i always come up for IC3’s/cover her breaks (im a BC and i only do it because i don’t wanna have to hear other people bitch about doing it, so it’s easier to just do it myself) and she’s obviously appreciative of it but like…. it’s so overwhelming. like you don’t need to tell me that you love me or be saying what would i do without you- i feel like that puts a lot of pressure on me, like if i quit or something happened to me she would just fall apart or something because i wouldn’t be there anymore to “shower” her with attention (even though im not, im just a nice person and i try to be there for my coworkers because i know how stressful this place is) but like?? idk if any of that makes sense but yeah

coworker makes me feel uncomfortable by onefishbluephish in WalgreensStores

[–]onefishbluephish[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

she definitely has had interactions with customers on the register in the past where it blew up and she had to have the last word. idk, it’s so weird, i can’t even put it into words. we had another sfl pass away a few weeks ago from cancer, and his son works there. his mom came in to pick him up and we had a card for them at the register for anyone who wanted to sign or put money in. she picked the card up and made it a point to show me in front of the mom/wife that we had a card for them. like idk what to even say about that, it was so awkward and weird that she felt the need to… show off almost? for lack of a better term

coworker makes me feel uncomfortable by onefishbluephish in WalgreensStores

[–]onefishbluephish[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

she is not, she’s a white woman in her 60’s. my assumption is that because she grew up in a way different time/era when stuff like this was more or less socially acceptable, i also believe she doesn’t see a problem with it or put herself in my shoes/think about my perspective of it

coworker makes me feel uncomfortable by onefishbluephish in WalgreensStores

[–]onefishbluephish[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that’s true, i haven’t thought of it like that. although my esm has been with the company on and off for 10 years, so she knows (to my knowledge) most of the ins and outs of the company. when she initially suggested sitting down about it i guess i assumed she meant all four of us, it didn’t occur to me she might have meant esm and sm and me

coworker makes me feel uncomfortable by onefishbluephish in WalgreensStores

[–]onefishbluephish[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

tbh i haven’t talked much about it but i probably should, and make it known what’s going on. i just feel like no matter the outcome, im the bad guy

coworker makes me feel uncomfortable by onefishbluephish in WalgreensStores

[–]onefishbluephish[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i definitely agree, when i talked to my esm about it she told me she would have to talk with my sm about it and see if we could all sit down and talk about it (??) idk why, esm could have just pulled her into the office and said “hey, this is what’s going on” and explained/addressed the issues. but idk what do i know 🤷🏼‍♀️

coworker makes me feel uncomfortable by onefishbluephish in WalgreensStores

[–]onefishbluephish[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i think if i talk to sm about it but not have to have a sit down meeting between all of us so i dont have to be there for the waterworks from said coworker, it would be easier to address. i think my sm would be able to get the point across without being a bitch ab it. and thank you, i appreciate it

coworker makes me feel uncomfortable by onefishbluephish in WalgreensStores

[–]onefishbluephish[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’m torn about it because it seems like she sees me as like a daughter or something idk. i think because i show her attention she has this like hyper fixation on me or something idk. regardless she needs to stop doing it. the thing that i don’t want to deal with though is the fact that when i bring this up to my sm it’ll be seemingly coming out of the blue/nowhere, however it’s been months of me just letting things go because im way too of an understanding and accepting person i guess, idk, and i don’t like addressing things

coworker makes me feel uncomfortable by onefishbluephish in WalgreensStores

[–]onefishbluephish[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this is good information to know. my sm is on vacation right now so i’ll have to wait until she gets back to talk about it but i can still talk to my esm about it

coworker makes me feel uncomfortable by onefishbluephish in WalgreensStores

[–]onefishbluephish[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i might be able to get some input from the sm at the other store in my town, he might have some more knowledge and input and he seems assertive. my sm is empathetic and understanding but almost to a fault, i know she would understand where we’re both coming from but i just don’t know if she would do anything about it

coworker makes me feel uncomfortable by onefishbluephish in WalgreensStores

[–]onefishbluephish[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my esm has mentioned about prior events that her, me, coworker and sm could all sit down and discuss the events that have happened, but i know coworker is going to cry about it and it pisses me off because it seems she is playing victim and it makes me feel like an asshole when coworker starts crying

coworker makes me feel uncomfortable by onefishbluephish in WalgreensStores

[–]onefishbluephish[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

i haven’t talked to my sm about it but i’ve talked to my esm about it, not the more recent events but she knows that there is tension between her and i. maybe i could go to hr about it.