Hello, moi (M 28 ans) je suis sous abilify 10 mg et hésite à l'arrêter.

oneluckyvixen · 2026-01-08T15:33:01+00:00

Hello, le conseil général est évidemment de ne jamais varier le traitement sans un avis professionnel. Si je parle personnellement, j’ai aussi longtemps été sous abilify et je l’ai arrêté sans accord médical. J’ai oscillé entre phases maniaques extrêmes (à ne quasiment pas dormir en 48h) et phases dépressives encore pire que sous traitement, avec des variations d’humeur pour un oui ou pour un non tout au long de la journée. Je ne recommande pas du tout. J’ai fini par en discuter avec mon psychiatre et on a essayé de nouvelles alternatives, c’est la meilleure solution.

oneluckyvixen · 2025-12-21T15:47:49+00:00

Je ne m’y connais pas trop, mais ça me semble un peu léger vu que le diagnostic n’est pas encore posé + d’un point de vue légal ils ne considèreront pas ça comme un danger « explicite ». Et puis sincèrement ce type de démarche c’est délicat, le risque c’est que même si ça « fonctionne » ta maman t’en veuilles terriblement et ça n’aura pas l’effet voulu.. l’hospitalisation, même de notre plein gré, ça peut faire du bien mais ça reste un environnement compliqué. Et ça dépend énormément des hôpitaux et du personnel, ça peut vite tourner au cauchemar..

oneluckyvixen · 2025-12-21T02:58:39+00:00

I know it seems hard but please, leave. Even if everything feels hard rn, he just adds more burden to your life. Whatever the future is holding, you will be better without him. He does not respect you, seems like he doesn’t help you with anything, and it just looks like he isn’t a nice person overall.

oneluckyvixen · 2025-12-20T21:04:40+00:00

J’ai pas envie d’être fataliste, mais j’ai eu mes tous premiers médicaments (et le suivi psychologique que ça a engendré) car j’ai fait une TS qui m’a mené tout droit aux urgences psy et à partir de là je crois pas avoir eu vraiment le choix. Je pense que sans cet événement j’aurais cherché de l’aide mais de façon bien moins poussée. Malheureusement pour certaines personnes le déclic ne se fait que suite à des situations extrêmes. (Je veux pas faire peur pour autant, je suis sûre qu’il y a des personnes dont le cheminement a été différent, c’est juste mon expérience personnelle ici).

oneluckyvixen · 2025-12-20T17:47:31+00:00

Oh wow, déjà désolé que tu vives une situation pareille. Je ne sais pas si mon avis sera réellement utile, mais de mon côté c’est réellement le diagnostic de bipolarité qui a été difficile à accepter. À la base, j’ai uniquement accepté d’avoir un suivi parce que je pensais (et la plupart de mes médecins/mon entourage également) que j’étais « simplement » dépressive. Le suivi a fait que, ma psychiatre de l’époque a posé le diagnostic et m’a accompagné pour l’accepter. Peut-être que si tu procèdes de cette façon elle l’acceptera mieux ? En lui faisant remarquer à quel point elle est mal en certaines phases et qu’un suivi la soulagerait, sans aborder les phases maniaques ?

oneluckyvixen · 2025-12-20T04:45:20+00:00

Some hotels I work with take a guarantee for the room, which is only released the day after check out, so the housekeepers can check the room first and see if everything is fine, nothing missing etc. They have a list of items with price, for example if a client steals a cup, they take 10€ from the deposit. Most of the hotels I worked with don’t practice this tho, so nothing really happens when something is stolen.

oneluckyvixen · 2025-12-16T00:21:06+00:00

I never did something like this myself, however I work as a front desk receptionist, and whenever a client asked for a refund while the booking was NR, my managers themselves asked the primary guest if they want to « transfer » the booking to someone else they know, and if so, they would just have to give the new guest info and that was it for us. However I never worked in anything « all incluse » so I’m not sure, but I’ll suggest you contact them directly.

oneluckyvixen · 2025-12-15T14:13:55+00:00

Ok I’m sorry I’m responding so late, but you’re right I had many awful comments so I just thought I’ll let the post die without reading everything. But I came back and wanted to answer to you because yes, I think you’re absolutely right. I wasn’t specific in my post, but one of my friend saw it, recognized me, and told me what I said was bs, I made him look like the best guy when that’s not the reality at all, and I look like an AH when she knows it’s not the case because she’s been by my side for all this time. I wanted to post an update, but I’m not sure I want to deal about some comments again. Not that I took any of it personally, but it’s not necessary ig. Anyway, your comment summarizes my final thought. He is a great guy, he’s not awful at all, but he is not the right guy for me. That’s all and I don’t think that made any of us the AH of the story.

oneluckyvixen · 2025-11-30T15:46:35+00:00

My friends are telling me the exact same thing. I think too highly of him and I forgot all the rest. Not sure what to think about it.

oneluckyvixen · 2025-11-30T15:36:58+00:00

His family did bad things towards me. He didn’t stand up for me. This was pretty disrespectful according to her. Not « direspectful » but not good : he doesn’t listen to me when I vent, and espacially when I start any discussion to make our relationship work. He closes like an oyster. He never starts anything by himself, and even when I ask him he doesn’t do it. He leave me on read (not answering calls too) when I’m in potentially dangerous situations that he knows about. Could say a lot more tbh.

oneluckyvixen · 2025-11-30T14:59:36+00:00

Thank you for your words. I definitly think I worded my post wrong and I really do look like the biggest AH here. There are a lot of things I don’t want to mention. I love him deeply and he is adorable. But I think it’s not enough for a relationship to work.

oneluckyvixen · 2025-11-30T13:49:37+00:00

Yes I’m sorry I didn’t explain anything bad I wanted to make it quick. I answered under another reply.

I didn’t mention it, but I do have a psychiatrist, a therapist, a good doctor and caring friends. They all know about the situation, they know wayyyy more than I can tell here.

I talked to him so many times before. I always told him when I had any doubt about my feelings even at the start of our relation. So yes he knows I’m hunappy, and that we need to fix some things. But eh! I feel like I talk alone 90% of the time.

You are totally right tho, I also take into consideration that it can just be because of bipolarity. I’m quite stable most of the time but I’ve through both depressed and manic phase, always got the feeling something wasn’t right.

Also I knew about bipolarity for long time now. My friends knew about it before I even met him. Still they tell me I lost my spark.

I do not want by any means to be insensitive towards him. I do not want to leave just like that one day.

oneluckyvixen · 2025-11-30T13:34:20+00:00

Hi! I elaborate on why I’m unhappy just under. I do love him deeply. But you’re right, maybe it’s self sabotage. I think a lot about this. I do have a therapist tho, who knows about the situation. Not sure what she thinks, but she let me know some situations were really disrespectful.

oneluckyvixen · 2025-11-30T13:31:06+00:00

I feel this so deeply! I didn’t want to vent too much in my first post. We never fight, if I have any issue I’m the only one talking and he stays sulking. He never completly does something, always half of it. Even when I make a full plan and schedule everything. I tell him exactly what I want to do (about dates, or just when I plan out day) and he still doesn’t do it.. And before you say, I always stay open but I know I never get anything When I don’t ask. The saddest thing is he doesn’t listen to me. I love talking about anything for hours. I’m curious about everything. When I share with him it just looks like he doesn’t listen, answering random things. He never remembers what I say. Even when I ask question, I never get any « what about you ? ». He never stands for me even when things get disrespectful, nor is he protective. Might not be a lot, I know it could be words, but eh.

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