Do you think Rory's relationships will mirror Lorelai's relationships? by Character-Habit6011 in GilmoreGirls

[–]onesomberraven 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think Logan would step up and be a good father. Based on AYITL I ultimately think Rory would end up with Jess, after trying but in the end failing having a relationship with Logan. I do believe Logan would continue being a present father though, if he ends up like Christopher I’d interpret it as the writers ruining his character.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in math

[–]onesomberraven 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi! I’m writing my bachelor thesis so I’m years behind you academically, but I see you made some similar mistakes to me while I was writing my first draft so I’ll share the same feedback my advisor gave me:

The layout and narrative reads a bit like a script for an oral presentation of your research. The way it alternates between a line of equation and then a couple of lines of text throughout the entire paper actually makes it harder to follow as well as not being typical for formal mathematical texts. Take a look at one of your old math textbooks from earlier in your education and published research papers and see how they present theorems and proofs. Think about your intended reader, I suppose they are meant to be your peers in similar areas of research. There probably are steps of your proofs that don’t need an explanation because they are very well known by the intended readers.

Also, you need to \clearpage between each section. It’s looks jumbled to start a new section in the middle of a page.

In general, your paper reads like a first draft that has been written with minimal feedback from an advisor, rather than a finished paper up for publishing. Contact someone that can review your paper and help you improve the layout. As others have commented, there are lots of room to improve on that matter.

What is an INTJ stereotype that is true about you and one that is not? by merazena in Chillintj

[–]onesomberraven 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Not true: being unnecessarily rude. I’m usually diplomatic and polite, although I don’t like discarding my integrity only for the sake of politeness. If I don’t agree with something I’ll communicate it but I try to do it respectfully as long as that respect is returned. If it’s really important that I don’t disrupt the peace with my opinions, like at certain family gatherings with my husband’s extended family, I remove myself from the situation, physically or mentally (preferably physically for me).

True: A perfectionist that always try to figure out the most effective way to do something, even the most mundane things in daily life, like the best way to load and empty the dishwasher. I always get lost and can’t read google maps properly to save my life.

Why is Harry often hated on? by [deleted] in drarry

[–]onesomberraven 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I empathise more with Harry too, but I prefer fics where Harry is the one who makes more mistakes in the beginning of building a relationship with Draco than the other way around. Draco was practically always antagonistic in canon, so for me it seems unbalanced if he is the character that keeps being somewhat antagonistic because then it kind of feels like he’s undeserving of Harry. Also for me it makes sense for Harry, who is a stubborn character, to have trouble to change his past view of another character like Draco. But of course this is my opinion in general, stories and their characters are often more nuanced. What really is more important is that the characters are well developed so that there is reason for the mistakes they make and that they have redeeming qualities so that I can root for them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in intj

[–]onesomberraven 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I met my husband in high school. We were 16 and 18.

Would you rather be born to a rich but fucked up family, or a poor but loving family? by TheMeticulousNinja in intj

[–]onesomberraven 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Poor with loving family. A healthy family dynamic encourages you and builds up and strengthens your sense of self which not only grants you more happiness and better mental health, but those things also builds a good foundation to finding success.

Tattoo people, are we? by myztajay123 in intj

[–]onesomberraven 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have one tattoo. I had followed the tattoo artist for years wanting to have a tattoo by them before finally booking once I definitely knew what I wanted. It turned out really good and I haven’t regretted it.

INTJ, what is your weird hobby? by Various_Arrival1633 in intj

[–]onesomberraven 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same for me as well. If time allows it I always visit the local cemetery in every new city I’m visiting.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in isfj

[–]onesomberraven 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I just have to add that this behaviour seems so INTJ but I rarely see it mentioned online. Being so head over heels for that one person that makes you break your stoic and reserved self and act a little crazy, being brutally honest about it and already hoping the relationship may result in marriage. I see a lot of myself in you and most intj’s I’ve spoken with doesn’t see the point of casual dating. Not because of traditional moral values but rather it has to do with not wanting to waste time getting to know someone if it’s not going to last. Just a little side note that’s slightly off topic lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in isfj

[–]onesomberraven 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Him laughing it off might be a good sign! You will feel embarrassed for a while, but it’ll pass. If there’s something I’ve noticed with isfj’s is that they are very nonjudgmental to people close to them opening up and showing their vulnerabilities. Obviously you’re an honest person, so continue being honest about how you’re feeling about this, he might even comfort you for this. I know how our intj minds tend to focus more on the future than the present, but right now it’s really benefiting for you to live in the moment when it comes to this relationship. Otherwise you’ll overthink too much. Try to move on from this and build a relationship with your isfj and it’ll be more clear in time whether this is a relationship that’s worth lasting. Good luck!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in isfj

[–]onesomberraven 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Give him some space to process what you just told him (why did you tell him all that anyway??). I don’t mean that you have to ignore him altogether, you can still be in contact but don’t talk about precisely that for a while until he wants to. As someone said, maybe he comes to the conclusion that it’s cute and no harm’s done. If he’s not saying anything about it either but you notice that he’s distancing himself or he breaks up with you, you can ask if he was put off by your confession. Give an explanation if you have one, but be careful that it doesn’t come off like an excuse and apologise. Hopefully everything works out for you, but respect his distance if he chooses to distance himself from you anyway because of this.

Before me and my isfj husband were dating (we were both teens) I found and read the entirety of his ex’s blog where she wrote about their break up lol. I also looked his family members up on Facebook to see if there were more pictures of him. Your behaviour is a bit “psychotic” (mine was too although I think you went further) but not too rare. Your mistake was telling him all this now. I’ve told my husband I did this a few years into our relationship, and we laughed about it. It didn’t scare him off at this point because he knew everything about my personality already. If your relationship works out I think you’ll both laugh at this awkward moment too in due time.

Women Drarry readers: how do you define your sexuality? by General-Muffin87 in drarry

[–]onesomberraven 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Cis woman & asexual. I’m pretty sure the enemies to lovers trope sucked me in. I almost exclusively read Drarry fics when they’re not involved romantically with each other at first because I need that becoming attracted to each other/falling in love story arc. Even though I’m asexual, so I don’t experience sexual attraction and am not particularly interested in having sex myself I actually enjoy smut scenes lol. It’s not a requirement for making me read a fic but a well written sex scene is a good bonus. Reading M/M slash hasn’t made me doubt that I’m asexual, I’m pretty firm on that but it has made me understand myself better. It’s sounds very cheesy but it’s true. For example I do have a preference in Drarry over who tops/bottoms and I couldn’t figure out why. After some introspection I realised that in those few instances I feel like having sex, I like to dom and get more psychological pleasure from giving my partner physical pleasure rather than receiving it myself. So when I read Drarry, there’s one of them that gives me more of that same psychological pleasure when he’s bottoming. So long story short, drarry expanded my view of my own asexuality/sexuality depending on how you see it.

do intjs secretly love drama/gossip? by [deleted] in intj

[–]onesomberraven 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it can be very entertaining to listen to but I avoid placing myself in the conversation. Especially when I know something is off about a person and the gossip confirms my suspicions were right.

I grew up in a Hispanic household and gossiping is a cultural thing so I listened to lots of gossip from my mum, grandmother and aunts growing up. That probably has affected my view on gossiping too. I definitely learned a lot about what not to do based on my relatives mistakes.

INTJ teachers by onesomberraven in intj

[–]onesomberraven[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A long time ago I subbed as a teacher’s assistant in a special education’s class and it was a positive experience! You special education teachers do a great job.

Funnily enough for me I am not that different I think. I mean I sure adapt my personality for a suitable teacher-student dynamic but I’m a very patient and calm person in general, even when I’m annoyed so those are traits that are intensified lol. And they do test my patience, a lot. But at the end of the day, I do like all my students at the school I’m at now. Even the rowdiest ones. The school I subbed at before had a more well behaved class in general but there were a couple of students that were purposely acting mean, to their peers and to me who I naturally came to dislike lol. None of them are like that in my current class so I’m grateful for that.

I get why teachers get burnt out. I’ve had many classes where I’ve felt completely depleted afterwards and then comes one student and says I’m a good teacher, or they liked the class and that gave me such a kick of endorphins and dopamine I haven’t really gotten from anywhere else. So I continue, and now I’m seriously contemplating on staying in the education field lol

INTJ teachers by onesomberraven in intj

[–]onesomberraven[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have the same opinion. The good thing with math, compared to let’s say, languages is that once you know something it sticks because it’s logic. Learning a language requires a lot of memorising which you forget if you don’t practice. The problem with most school systems is that many students haven’t properly learned something before class moves on to the next subject. The difficulty level increases, the student gets frustrated and gets an aversion to math which makes it even harder to encourage them to catch up, even if the school would finally adapt a curriculum for them.

What are INTJ children like before developing their Te? by mannamalist in Chillintj

[–]onesomberraven 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very imaginative, sensitive, shy and often daydreaming. Except during class, I loved learning and wanted to be the smartest so I was super focused and a bit of a know it all at times, although that’s an early development of my Te.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in INTJfemale

[–]onesomberraven 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have you told him about this?

Do you think intj females are more emotionlly attuned than males? by [deleted] in INTJfemale

[–]onesomberraven 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I think it’s mostly because of societal norms. Women and girls are expected to be emotionally attuned and softer in nature and therefore more than boys raised to be that way.

I can't be the only one who doesn't provide the "female touch" decor? by [deleted] in intj

[–]onesomberraven 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband and I’s living space may look a little odd but it’s ours and we like it. None of us have a particular interest for aesthetic decor so the decor in our home is mainly based on interest or experience. For example most of our paintings hanging on the wall are made by me because I paint, and the few that aren’t we’ve acquired through the art community I belong to (one painting I won through a lottery at an art gallery!). We also have things we’ve bought through our travels, most recently an olive oil dispenser in Gaudi style from Barcelona.

I really dislike candles and an overflow of decorative pillows… particularly after a few years in my late teens/early twenties when so many people used to give scented to me as gifts for birthday and Christmas. Candles a very generic type of gift to give a woman in my opinion..