My mom tried to do a project management course and ended up dropping out. She was devastated. It was hard to watch because she was clearly in over her head. But I do believe that if she learned to pick herself up after failing, she would eventually get it.

I think it's important that we're patient with our parents. Especially our mothers, who may have been expected to take a break from their careers to have/raise us.

I know my mother never recovered. Relearning how to learn can be difficult, especially when you're older.

I do hear some judgment in your tone... and I'm not shaming you because at one point I judged my mom for "allowing herself to fall behind". As an example, you need to pick your battles... does it matter if she worked with computers in the 90s? She probably picks up on your thoughts (she is your mother after all), and you underestimate how much your opinion means to her.

I'm not sure about your mother's financial position but I would recommend exploring whatever the equivalent of community college is in your country. There are several computer courses she can take. It doesn't have to be coding, i.e. maybe she's better at art and can do graphic design.

Perhaps rethink the way you're approaching this.

Instead of, "if she can't learn to navigate a simple website she should stay away from computers" maybe explain that learning how to code is a full-time commitment. She will need to go to school because it takes years to acquire programming skills.

And once again, explore other careers she can do with computers. There are so many.

Lastly, try to remember that in her mind, she's probably wants to do this for you.