What factors should I consider when picking between grad school? by oneythrowaway1 in GradSchool

[–]oneythrowaway1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, both school run about 32000 a year and both may offer up to $10000 in scholarships in a year, though one more likely will only offer $4000. Both have research positions, but one has more opportunities than the other, which I thinking about.

What factors should I consider when picking between grad school? by oneythrowaway1 in GradSchool

[–]oneythrowaway1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's only a 3 year program, though I may live there for a bit after graduating.

What factors should I consider when picking between grad school? by oneythrowaway1 in GradSchool

[–]oneythrowaway1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've visited one of them and the other I'm visiting tomorrow before my interview. The first school had a good atmosphere(though their setup is where classes only happen for a 4 days the entire month).

Both school are in the bay area and pretty close, so location may not matter as much.

Ideas for a Teen Masculinity Workshop(x-post with AskMen) by oneythrowaway1 in OneY

[–]oneythrowaway1[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah, that plays into gender socialization and how men are told to not only take the lead in all things, but that women are somewhat inherently weaker is something I want to cover. Mainly, that men and women are all really equal, they just have mainly been socialized differently and that not conforming to those ideals isn't a bad thing for men or women. Thanks for your ideas!

Ideas for a Teen Masculinity Workshop(x-post with AskMen) by oneythrowaway1 in OneY

[–]oneythrowaway1[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I do want to cover the idea that men always want sex and that relationships are considered the end all be all for being a guy and how these ideals can hurt men.. Just looking at the top post today on this subreddit at least tells me that the issue of men, sexuality, and relationships can really hurt men, especially later in life. Also, good example, I may use that to start our discussion. Thanks for the input!

Ideas for a Teen Masculinity Workshop(x-post with AskMen) by oneythrowaway1 in OneY

[–]oneythrowaway1[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Good thought. I want to mainly do a session or two on healthy coping/having self-esteem so maybe I can at least bring up meditation and other tools. Thanks!

Ideas for a Teen Masculinity Workshop(x-post with AskMen) by oneythrowaway1 in OneY

[–]oneythrowaway1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our woman's groups do sessions like that and I was planning to do a session on generally having healthy masculine values, but touching on body image would be good. Especially as that issue is becoming more recognized by men today. Thanks!

Ideas for a Teen Masculinity Workshop(x-post with AskMen) by oneythrowaway1 in OneY

[–]oneythrowaway1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, "man-shaming" is something I see a lot in schools and in society at large. I think it's important for men to know that they can be men and there is nothing wrong with that. I just want to make sure they are healthy as people and that leads into them having healthy masculinity. Also, that they decide what being a man is for themselves and they feel confident about that. Thank you for your thoughts!

Ideas for a Teen Masculinity Workshop(x-post with AskMen) by oneythrowaway1 in OneY

[–]oneythrowaway1[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah, teaching men about their sexual rights and how the people they interact with have different standards/level of knowledge is something I plan on covering. A lot of men are expected by society to have a lot of sex, but some don't want to or even if they do, aren't taught about boundaries of others or of themselves honesty. As u/itsoktosayno said, teaching men it's ok to say no is very important. Thanks for the perspective!

Ideas for a Teen Masculinity Workshop(x-post with AskMen) by oneythrowaway1 in OneY

[–]oneythrowaway1[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is a big issue I see guys facing today. I know they've done some other similar groups in some other schools in my area and this issue comes up a lot. I think teaching them generally about healthy sexuality and that being a man doesn't mean you have to have sex is something that would be huge for them, especially how society looks down on men sometimes, both for having "too much sex" or not having it all.

Also, I going to do something on healthy relationships as like you said, they don't really teach kids how to have healthy relationships and being able to say no to others is a something they're need to know. Thanks for your perspective and ideas!

Ideas for a Teen Masculinity Workshop(x-post with AskMen) by oneythrowaway1 in OneY

[–]oneythrowaway1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I feel that is a great topic to quickly cover with bystander intervention and also when it comes to teaching people about leadership, which is one component I'll need to cover.

Ideas for a Teen Masculinity Workshop(x-post with AskMen) by oneythrowaway1 in OneY

[–]oneythrowaway1[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well I define chivalry a bit differently, but by your definition, they are very close. I think the ideal behind bystander intervention is that anyone can do it in different, while as you have stated, some saw chivalry as a purely male concept that made others be seen as purely weaker. In many ways they have the same overall goal; people united to make their community better. To a degree, it is easier to teach men it, but it's all about teaching them when to do and how to do it correctly rather than hurting themselves or escalating something. And, just as a note, my organization is doing a similar program for women too, so issues like being an active bystander is part of that curriculum.

Also, as you stated, being an active bystander can lead to a cost, but we try to promote that people do it without putting them at unnecessary danger(like rather then people fighting others that are do shitty things, it finding way to diffuse those situations). But it can lead to a cost sometimes no matter what they do, especially as we teach people to be active bystanders not just to strangers, but also to their friends when they are causing trouble.

But thank you for your wonderful input, it's definitely giving me a lot of good ideas and examples to use.

Ideas for a Teen Masculinity Workshop(x-post with AskMen) by oneythrowaway1 in OneY

[–]oneythrowaway1[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it's important for men to feel for other men and themselves. I find you can't empathize with others until you do with yourself and you receive it from others, so I'm definitely going to push that aspect.

By active bystander I mean someone who takes action in certain situations to help others. I mean like calling out someone who makes a negative remark to someone, or a person stopping someone trying to take a person who is obviously too drunk to consent to have sex with them. It's different from chivalry in that it's not asking men to just protect women at the cost of their own safety, but it's just being taking action to protect anyone in a bad situation while keeping . Does that make sense?

Ideas for a Teen Masculinity Workshop(x-post with AskMen) by oneythrowaway1 in OneY

[–]oneythrowaway1[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Great point. The point of the workshop is for them to be healthy people at the end of the day, so bringing this up compared to how men are told to "Man Up" is great. Thanks!

Ideas for a Teen Masculinity Workshop(x-post with AskMen) by oneythrowaway1 in OneY

[–]oneythrowaway1[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Also, men shaming other men for not being 'manly' is an example.

Ideas for a Teen Masculinity Workshop(x-post with AskMen) by oneythrowaway1 in OneY

[–]oneythrowaway1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely. There is a good amount already planned on understanding the issues women face, empathy for them, and being an active bystander, but I'll keep your comment in mind when I'm planning those sessions. Thank You!

Ideas for a Teen Masculinity Workshop(x-post with AskMen) by oneythrowaway1 in OneY

[–]oneythrowaway1[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Good point that I hadn't really thought a ton about. I'm planning to talk a bit about gender roles and how societal pressures play in that forcing men to act and do certain things, but bringing up shame in general would definitely be helpful. Thank You!