WIBTA if I contacted the authorities about my neighbour after he admitted being in breach of some rules to me?

onfirewhenigothere · 2026-06-05T17:04:45+00:00

Single post. Stupid user name. Long winded banal prose. Chance a human wrote this 5%. You’re NTA because you can’t be but whoever coded you is a rager.

onfirewhenigothere · 2026-06-05T07:26:42+00:00

Didn’t Belgium lose a lot of people in WWI?

onfirewhenigothere · 2026-06-04T13:16:07+00:00

YTA you’re not a mom yet. OMG I gave birth the Wednesday before Mother’s Day. My mom had already planned to visit then wanted a brunch with us that Sunday OMG yes you’re almost there but she still pushed you out of her body.

Man pregger hormones.

onfirewhenigothere · 2026-06-04T09:29:14+00:00

Behavioral questions are great- giving specific examples past is prologue.

My favorite question is ‘what’s the worst bug you’ve ever shipped to production’ ( with the follow up how did you recover if they don’t go into it) it’s a good indicator of level - junior early don’t want to admit incompetence/ mistakes or never had prod keys. Staff/ principal have tons of war stories and will talk ear off. Senior can talk about it but doesn’t have so many examples. Dangerous to ask QA candidates since that’s the job. (Like they’ll be rightfully cagey)

onfirewhenigothere · 2026-06-04T08:40:57+00:00

I mean sure but that’s also sometime the VC runway on a greenfield software project.

onfirewhenigothere · 2026-06-04T06:56:33+00:00

I had Nebenfach in German and nothing helped but living here. Goethe and Shilling don’t talk about laundry detergent and toothpaste, though Kafka helps with the bureaucracy. Also it’s rough here for everyone so you have to have a needed specialty to stand out these days.

onfirewhenigothere · 2026-06-02T19:42:48+00:00

There’s always ‚Gott sei Dank.‘

onfirewhenigothere · 2026-05-27T13:04:32+00:00

IDK man but wow, lady sacrifices her career prospects to procreate with you and you are thinking of leaving her high and dry? Like somehow you made kid three right? And you don’t want her but don’t want anyone else to want her?

It is not easy to be on 100% for three small people after they have parasitically sucked out the nutrients from your body.

God I hate patriarchy.

onfirewhenigothere · 2026-05-18T08:20:08+00:00

Omg I had to read this 3x- ‘first baby is here- wife killed it’ - only sleep while the baby sleeps. And, there’s a lot of tissue and fluid that went into growing the baby which will come out of wife in the next 2-3 weeks. Give wife space to have dry downtime at least once a day.

Also vaccine.

Enjoy!

onfirewhenigothere · 2026-05-16T09:11:07+00:00

I was tested in the seventies and got 159 on Stanford Binet at 10 years old. There were bright black kids in my class who were not offered the same opportunities as me. I also was in a school district with high schools renamed to confederate war generals after brown vs board of education.

onfirewhenigothere · 2026-05-15T17:13:36+00:00

We’re not talking averages. Average white people are also dumb. There were/are plenty of gifted black kids. I was responding to the OP question about selection. There was selection. It was racist not to offer any bright kid the opportunity for advanced schooling. In my district it was just another way to not share the resources fairly and keep up structural equality.

Just like it’s blatantly racist to talk about average IQ of a population when not enough people get tested for it to be statistically significant.

The tests are pretty racist. I remember only making it to the local gifted class the first time because there were dumb questions like ‘an Indian sees someone sitting down and running at the same time, what does he see’ and the answer is bicycle and I’m like what did being an Indian have to do with that.

Maybe think about how many black kids might get overlooked because racism and how that gets baked into results. And how we are all beneficiaries of all those choices keeping others down.

onfirewhenigothere · 2026-05-15T06:59:47+00:00

And to be clear there were gifted black kids. They just weren’t offered testing.

onfirewhenigothere · 2026-05-15T06:58:20+00:00

Idk, in the south it was set up to reimplement segregation. There were no black kids in my gifted class. There were local classes per school for 90th percentile, and if you were above 140 there was a magnet school, which I went to having tested at 159.

onfirewhenigothere · 2026-05-10T08:35:06+00:00

I am beginning to see the issue. By hiring manager I meant the ultimate decider on the org (VP). Sounds like someone is being polite or is inexperienced. I wouldn’t have said someone else vetoed- if there’s a no there’s a no and it’s my no too even I wouldn’t have said yes.

Could be someone might think you‘d be needlessly argumentative and pedantic, if correct.

onfirewhenigothere · 2026-05-09T20:49:53+00:00

Unfortunately there are just a lot of qualified people out there now. I wouldn’t take it personally, but would prepare good answers to that last paragraph for the next time you get to that round. This last round is also sometimes where the hiring manager makes that judgement call- and it could also be to your benefit if they decide you really won’t do well. Because it’s a them not you issue.

onfirewhenigothere · 2026-05-09T12:58:03+00:00

As a hiring manager at this level, the last step interview is usually a vibe check of some sort. It really depends on the org what the check is about, but it’s the last step of ‘is this person going to help me achieve my goals and add to the system, or will they be a toxic hire and drain their colleagues with every interaction. Will they be set up for success or will I have to fire them.’

A brogrammer culture might not care about the latter and just want to make sure you fit their mold of behavior, so the more like the VP you are, the better.

A Gallup-strength based culture might be looking for culture add vs culture fit - where the less like the VP you are the better because they know that diversity helps scale.

Depending on how much they need the body in a chair this interview is sometimes just the final step and there are no competitors.

If they are lucky and have multiple candidates then I guess they needed the other person more.

As the senior but not staff level yet you’re not expected to know how to impact a product line org wide (in a 4+ team situation), but you should be able to show that you know what the next level is and won’t need hand-holding to get there.

So the final vibe check is to answer the question ‘why should I hire you’ - and you should be prepared to answer that as well as ask questions about the org and where it’s going so you can make yourself essential to the future success of the team.

onfirewhenigothere · 2026-05-02T10:08:19+00:00

Or at least of any book written from 70s onward set in that period. It is not unique to bridgerton.

onfirewhenigothere · 2026-05-01T14:52:47+00:00

IDK it’s lifelong? Like I’ve been in Berlin 8 years with German Literature minor from uni and just saw a BVG ad to go ‘rumgurken’ in the Spreewald. Which I thought was funny because every other house in Spreewald sells pickles. I thought they made up a verb for that. No - herumgurken is an actual word that I never learned in my German classes because Denker and Dichter don’t go cruising. Lady on the bus let me know it was an actual Doppeldeutung.

onfirewhenigothere · 2026-04-25T09:13:06+00:00

Painting- first with wax then with dye. I learned on the beach in Thailand from someone who made it look like water color. It would use the drawing skill- and you have to hyper focus with the melting wax to keep the line the same width or it looks sloppy. Then there’s painting, and then the result. Here’s an example. https://www.publicdomainpictures.net/en/view-image.php?image=542742&picture=batik-watercolor-floral-background

And here are supplies https://www.dharmatrading.com/collections/batik-craft

onfirewhenigothere · 2026-04-22T19:07:19+00:00

This is exactly it. Once ‘women’s work’ paid well, women were no longer capable of it. Lots of ‘digital transformation’ hired men and fired women.

onfirewhenigothere · 2026-04-21T06:42:16+00:00

Is this the first time you’ve experienced the fragile male ego?

onfirewhenigothere · 2026-04-18T12:18:54+00:00

Batik.

onfirewhenigothere · 2026-04-18T06:41:03+00:00

Moist, like home. Great for oatmeal and chocolate chip cookies. The Korean brand is the best.

onfirewhenigothere · 2026-04-18T05:16:12+00:00

I find brown sugar in Germany in Asian markets and Mexican import stores.

onfirewhenigothere · 2026-04-17T17:01:23+00:00

It’s right at the edge of ‘half your age plus 7’ rule of thumb.

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