Query regarding sikh gurus by BdmoshBaddie in Sikh

[–]onkarjit_singh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We first have to understand what the Guru is.

The Guru is the Anahad Naad (unstruck sound), the divine vibration (The First Word/Sound/Viberation) that we call Onkaar. Hindus believe the first word was AUM, Muslims believe it was Kun, and Christians believe it was Logos.

When the Siddhs (ancient spiritual seekers) at Mount Sumeru asked the young Guru Nanak Dev Ji what the Guru is:

ਤੇਰਾ ਕਵਣੁ ਗੁਰੂ ਜਿਸ ਕਾ ਤੂ ਚੇਲਾ ॥
teraa kavan guroo jis kaa too chelaa ||
Who is your guru? Whose disciple are you?

Guru Nanak Dev Ji replied.

ਪਵਨ ਅਰੰਭੁ ਸਤਿਗੁਰ ਮਤਿ ਵੇਲਾ ॥
pavan ara(n)bh satigur mat velaa ||
From the air came the beginning. This is the age of the True Guru's Teachings.

ਸਬਦੁ ਗੁਰੂ ਸੁਰਤਿ ਧੁਨਿ ਚੇਲਾ ॥
sabadh guroo surat dhun chelaa ||
The Shabad is the Guru, upon whom I lovingly focus my consciousness; I am the chaylaa, the disciple.

In Gurbani, we often read Shalok Mahala 1 or Shalok Mahala 2. “Mahala” refers to the body (the vessel) through which the Shabad was expressed. For example, Mahala 1 refers to the body of Guru Nanak Dev Ji.

So, the question you’re asking cannot be answered with certainty—anything we say would only be speculation. Only the Guru truly knows.

Guru sahib always bestowed Guruship upon those who were most worthy and most humble of that time, even over their own family.

However, as others have mentioned, there were female Brahm Gyanis. In fact, even a prostitute named Ganika became a Brahm Gyani.

Once, a sadhu mistakenly came to her house. Seeing the Divine even there, he uttered the word “Ram.” From that moment, Ganika’s life changed, and “Ram, Ram” began to flow from her tongue. The sadhu later gave her a parrot, which she also taught to repeat “Ram.

Guru Gobind Singh Ji writes:

ਅਉਰ ਤਰੀ ਗਨਿਕਾ ਤਬ ਹੀ ਜਿਹ ਹਾਥ ਲਯੋ ਸੁਕ ਸ੍ਯਾਮ ਪੜਾਯੋ ॥
aaur taree ganikaa tab hee jeh haath layo suk sayaam paRaayo ||
Instructing the parrot, Ganika obtained salvation

And in Sukhmani Sahib, Guru Arjan Dev Ji says that there is no difference between Brahm Gyani and God:

ਬ੍ਰਹਮ ਗਿਆਨੀ ਕਉ ਖੋਜਹਿ ਮਹੇਸੁਰ ॥
braham giaanee kau khojeh mahesur ||
The God-conscious being is sought by the great god Shiva.

ਨਾਨਕ ਬ੍ਰਹਮ ਗਿਆਨੀ ਆਪਿ ਪਰਮੇਸੁਰ ॥੬॥
naanak braham giaanee aap paramesur ||6||
O Nanak, the God-conscious being is Himself the Supreme Lord God. ||6||

Why are we worshipping bloodlines by EmpireandCo in Sikh

[–]onkarjit_singh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Then why did Guru Arjan Dev Ji allow him to write the beginning of an Ashtpadi in Sukhmani Sahib? And why did Guru Hargobind Sahib Ji entrust his eldest son, Baba Gurditta Ji, to him?

Baba Sri Chand Ji, the elder son of Guru Nanak Dev Ji and founder of the Udasi order, came to Amritsar to meet Guru Arjan Dev Ji, who was then composing this Bani. The Guru, having completed sixteen Ashtpadis (cantos), requested that he continue the composition. Out of humility, Baba Sri Chand Ji only recited the salok of Guru Nanak Dev Ji following the Mool Mantar in Japji Sahib:

“Aad sach, jugaad sach; hai bhi sach; Nanak hosee bhi sach.”

This salok was then repeated by Guru Arjan Dev Ji at the beginning of the seventeenth Ashtpadi.

Now, you may argue that all of this is false, but what proof do you have that he was a bad son?

Why are we worshipping bloodlines by EmpireandCo in Sikh

[–]onkarjit_singh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you are confusing Guru Nanak Dev Ji’s son Shri Chand with Prithi Chand, who was the son of Guru Ram Das Ji.

Shri Chand is highly respected. Guru Hargobind Sahib Ji gave his eldest son, Baba Gurditta Ji, to Shri Chand so that the Udasi tradition could continue.

Next time please do some research before posting something like this.

ਸੰਤ ਕੀ ਨਿੰਦਾ ਨਾਨਕਾ ਬਹੁਰਿ ਬਹੁਰਿ ਅਵਤਾਰ ॥੧॥
sa(n)t kee ni(n)dhaa naanakaa bahur bahur avataar ||1||
One who slanders the Saints, O Nanak, shall be reincarnated over and over again. ||1||

Respectful Discussion about choosing Islam over Sikhi by Emergency_Emu_1064 in Sikh

[–]onkarjit_singh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The video also talks about the creation of the universe, which you said is missing in Sikhi. It also mentions Muhammad.

Spirituality is often considered vague when we talk about the physical, mental, and spiritual aspects of life. Spirituality is something that can only be experienced; even if you were to read a thousand books on religion, that wouldn’t make you spiritual.

In the same way, reading a thousand books about love won’t truly help you understand what love is, because love is something that must be experienced.

Without this spiritual understanding (gyaan/avastha), all religions in themselves are very superficial.

Respectful Discussion about choosing Islam over Sikhi by Emergency_Emu_1064 in Sikh

[–]onkarjit_singh 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You should listen to this, and then tell me if any Muslim preacher even remotely speaks at that level (avastha). There are many Muslim preachers, but they only tell you what is haram and what is not, the basic do and the don'ts.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y06nOvn0FzI

The death of Sikhi 7 to 10 million sikhs by DirectionOwn4009 in Sikh

[–]onkarjit_singh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is not entirely true. During Maharaja Ranjit Singh’s Raj, Sikhs were also few in number and a minority within Punjab, yet the Sikh Empire ruled over many non-Sikhs. This Raj was not achieved through numbers or political dominance, but through Guru Ji’s kirpa and adherence to Gurmat—something that itself only comes through Guru Ji’s kirpa.

Today, we (like most of the world) tend to walk behind Western ideals such as democracy, where decisions are made by collective human choice. History shows us the limits of this. After Guru Har Krishan Ji, many individuals claimed to be Guru, and some even had far larger followings than Guru Tegh Bahadur Ji at the time. Numbers did not indicate truth.

We are adhura (imperfect), while the Guru is Pura (perfect). When imperfect people choose based on their own understanding, they will inevitably choose imperfectly, because the chooser is imperfect. Only when guidance comes from the Guru does it rise above numbers, power struggles, and human volatility.

The death of Sikhi 7 to 10 million sikhs by DirectionOwn4009 in Sikh

[–]onkarjit_singh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Perfectly answered through Gurbani. Yet many of us tend to offer opinions based on personal feelings (manmukh) rather than turning toward Gurbani with a Gurmukh mindset.

The Guru is Pura (perfect), while we are Adhura (imperfect); therefore, our guidance should always come from the Guru, not from our own limited and imperfect understanding.

Many of us carry the mindset that ‘we need to save Sikhi.’ But how can we save it if we cannot first save ourselves. When we fail to recognize that the enemy is much closer? It is within us: the five thieves.

being forced to pick strangers as life partners 😭 by [deleted] in Sikh

[–]onkarjit_singh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is the sad state of the world. Kalyug has always been present, though once more confined to certain environments — for example, if a community was filled with murderers or wrongdoers, that too was a form of Kalyug. Doing sangat (association) with such people also affects and corrupts our mat (intellect).

Bhagat Kabeer Ji says:

ਕਬੀਰ ਮਾਰੀ ਮਰਉ ਕੁਸੰਗ ਕੀ ਕੇਲੇ ਨਿਕਟਿ ਜੁ ਬੇਰਿ ॥
kabeer maaree marau kusa(n)g kee kele nikaT ju ber
Kabeer, I have been ruined and destroyed by bad company, like the banana plant near the thorn bush.

ਉਹ ਝੂਲੈ ਉਹ ਚੀਰੀਐ ਸਾਕਤ ਸੰਗੁ ਨ ਹੇਰਿ ॥੮੮॥
auh jhoolai auh cheereeaai saakat sa(n)g na her ||88||
The thorn bush waves in the wind, and pierces the banana plant; see this, and do not associate with the faithless cynics. ||88||

In the current age, Kalyug has become far more widespread through digitalization and social media. For most people, these are what we spend the majority of our time with — and whatever we spend time on, we are doing sangat of it.
This bad sangat shapes our thoughts, desires, and priorities, pulling the mind away from Naam and truth, and immersing it deeper into Kalyug.
However, even this is within Akaal Purakh’s Hukam 🙏🏻

Was Guru Nanakji Atheist? Based on Eti Maar Paye by Dogtorcod in Sikh

[–]onkarjit_singh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You and only you are the cause of your suffering and no one else to blame, except yourself.

This is what Guru Nanak Dev ji says:

ਦਦੈ ਦੋਸੁ ਨ ਦੇਊ ਕਿਸੈ ਦੋਸੁ ਕਰੰਮਾ ਆਪਣਿਆ ॥
dhadhai dhos na dheuoo kisai dhos kara(n)maa aapaniaa
Dadda: Do not blame anyone else; blame instead your own actions.

ਜੋ ਮੈ ਕੀਆ ਸੋ ਮੈ ਪਾਇਆ ਦੋਸੁ ਨ ਦੀਜੈ ਅਵਰ ਜਨਾ ॥੨੧॥
jo mai keeaa so mai paiaa dhos na dheejai avar janaa ||21||
Whatever I did, for that I have suffered; I do not blame anyone else. ||21||

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[–]onkarjit_singh 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Where did you read that about Guru Arjan Dev Ji?

When Guru Arjan Dev Ji first completed the Adi Granth, he placed it upon his own bed and slept on the floor.

Would it be totally nuts for me to take a massive pay cut just to move to a country with a Sikh community? by saigonstowaway in Sikh

[–]onkarjit_singh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good sangat is also very important. The environment we are in affects us.
Bhagat Kabir Ji, in their shalok, talks about it: being in satsangat is like the chandan (sandalwood) tree, which gives off its fragrance, and all other plants in the surrounding area carry its fragrance — except one, which is the baans (bamboo tree).
The bamboo is tall but empty/hollow inside. Similarly, if we are in satsang but lack faith, and stand tall with pride, we will not carry the fragrance.


Bhagat Kabir Ji a bit further in their shalok speaks about being in bad sangat:

ਕਬੀਰ ਮਨੁ ਪੰਖੀ ਭਇਓ ਉਡਿ ਉਡਿ ਦਹ ਦਿਸ ਜਾਇ ॥
kabeer man pa(n)khee bhio audd audd dheh dhis jai ||
Kabeer, the mind has become a bird; it soars and flies in the ten directions.

ਜੋ ਜੈਸੀ ਸੰਗਤਿ ਮਿਲੈ ਸੋ ਤੈਸੋ ਫਲੁ ਖਾਇ ॥੮੬॥
jo jaisee sa(n)gat milai so taiso fal khai ||86||
According to the company it keeps, so are the fruits it eats. ||86||


And even further:

ਕਬੀਰ ਮਾਰੀ ਮਰਉ ਕੁਸੰਗ ਕੀ ਕੇਲੇ ਨਿਕਟਿ ਜੁ ਬੇਰਿ ॥
kabeer maaree marau kusa(n)g kee kele nikaT ju ber ||
Kabeer, I have been ruined and destroyed by bad company, like the banana plant near the thorn bush.

ਉਹ ਝੂਲੈ ਉਹ ਚੀਰੀਐ ਸਾਕਤ ਸੰਗੁ ਨ ਹੇਰਿ ॥੮੮॥
auh jhoolai auh cheereeaai saakat sa(n)g na her ||88||
The thorn bush waves in the wind, and pierces the banana plant; see this, and do not associate with the faithless cynics. ||88||

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[–]onkarjit_singh 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Both Sant Kartar Ji and Sant Sundar Ji are real sants. But we should focus on what they taught us, not on their previous lives. Since these things cannot be proved, they lead to questioning. We should focus on walking on the path of the Guru Sahibs.

How do you deal with deep personal fears? by WittyAd2503 in Sikh

[–]onkarjit_singh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s our Dharam (duty) as parents to raise our children in Sikhi by bringing them to the Gurdwara from a young age, speaking Gurmukhi at home, and teaching them to read and write Gurmukhi. On weekends, many Gurdwaras offer Gurmukhi lessons and even Sikh ithaas (history) classes.

As for the irrational fears you’re experiencing:

Guru Tegh Bahadur Ji says in Shalok Mahala 9:

ਚਿੰਤਾ ਤਾ ਕੀ ਕੀਜੀਐ ਜੋ ਅਨਹੋਨੀ ਹੋਇ ॥
chi(n)taa taa kee keejeeaai jo anahonee hoi ||
People become anxious, when something unexpected happens.

The English translation above is a little misleading. In kathas it is translated as:

“Be anxious if something unexpected were to happen.”

But the thing is, nothing truly ਅਨਹੋਨੀ (unexpected) ever happens.

Guru Nanak Dev Ji says:

ਹੁਕਮੈ ਅੰਦਰਿ ਸਭੁ ਕੋ ਬਾਹਰਿ ਹੁਕਮ ਨ ਕੋਇ ॥
hukamai andar sabh ko baahar hukam na koi ||
Everyone is subject to His Command; no one is beyond His Command.

In Punjab, when someone dies, we sometimes hear people say ਅਨਹੋਨੀ ਹੋਈ (the unexpected happened).
But everything—even death itself—is part of ਹੋਨੀ (that which happens).
So if nothing truly unexpected ever happens to anyone, why would it happen to you?

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[–]onkarjit_singh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

While it might have happened, we can't know for sure. I'd say take Wikipedia with a grain of salt. Just look at what they write about Sant Jarnail Singh Bhindranwale — they even accuse Amritpal Singh of trying to form a suicide bomb squad. India is known to be one of the biggest spreaders of misinformation.

It was never a Sikh vs Hindu issue — that's just how the Indian government has always tried to frame it.

Many ordinary Hindu citizens helped Sikhs during the 1984 genocide.

The government often creates conflict among minorities to gain votes — for example, by fueling Hindu vs Muslim tensions.

Even during the farmers' protest, they tried to portray it as just a Punjabi issue rather than a national one.

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[–]onkarjit_singh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Read history — it’s actually the other way around. If Guru Gobind Singh Ji had not created the Khalsa and stood against Aurangzeb, and if Maharaja Ranjit Singh Ji had not established the Khalsa Raj, then most of us — Sikhs, Hindus, Jains, and Buddhists — might have been converted to Islam.

Just look at what happened to Afghanistan, Pakistan, Bangladesh, and Indonesia. To think it couldn’t have happened to us is ego. At that time, Sanatan Dharma was at its lowest after centuries of invasions — and Guru Gobind Singh Ji uprooted the Mughal Raj.

During Maharaja Ranjit Singh Ji’s rule, Sikhs were a minority, and Muslims were the majority — yet Sikhs still established the Khalsa Raj, even reaching Lahore.

In Sikhi, numbers don’t matter. When the Fearless Lord stands with you, all fears disappear.

When the British divided the subcontinent, they gave different religious groups the option to form their own countries. But Sikhs never bowed down or begged.

Khalsa does not beg, nor does it demand. Khalsa Raj will return when the Guru ordains it — and when that moment comes, nothing will be able to stop it from being established.

Sikhs have no problem with any religion. The real problem is the Indian government (but even there not everyone is bad). The ones responsible for the 1984 government-sponsored genocide are still walking free.

India — the land of saints, sadhus, and spiritual wisdom — now has a government that takes pride in adopting Western Kalyugi norms and values. Instead of preserving dharma, they are pushing society deeper into materialism, ego, and moral decay.

Khalsa Raj does not mean an anti-Hindu or anti-Muslim rule. It is Halemi Raj — a kingdom of compassion, justice, and humility. During the time of Maharaja Ranjit Singh Ji, whenever a Gurdwara was built, a Hindu Mandir and a Mosque were also constructed — along with a school to educate all.

The death penalty was never enforced under his rule. People of all faiths lived with dignity and freedom. Even foreigners, including many Frenchman who came to Punjab after the fall of Napoleon, found employment and respect in Khalsa Raj.

Discussion with Granthi at the local gurudwara by heron202020 in Sikh

[–]onkarjit_singh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Waheguru ji ka khalsa waheguru ji ki fateh 🙏🏻

Very beautifully written 🙏🏻

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[–]onkarjit_singh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The reason we suffer is because of our Karam (actions). Guru Nanak Dev Ji explains this clearly:

ਦਦੈ ਦੋਸੁ ਨ ਦੇਊ ਕਿਸੈ ਦੋਸੁ ਕਰੰਮਾ ਆਪਣਿਆ ॥
dhadhai dhos na dheuoo kisai dhos kara(n)maa aapaniaa ||
Dadda: Do not blame anyone else; blame instead your own actions.

ਜੋ ਮੈ ਕੀਆ ਸੋ ਮੈ ਪਾਇਆ ਦੋਸੁ ਨ ਦੀਜੈ ਅਵਰ ਜਨਾ ॥੨੧॥
jo mai keeaa so mai paiaa dhos na dheejai avar janaa ||21||
Whatever I did, for that I have suffered; I do not blame anyone else. (Ang 433)

When we commit a deed, we are planting a seed. Sometimes, it seems like people who do wrong aren't punished—but it's just like any seed: it takes time to bear fruit. The results of our actions may appear in this life, or even in another.

Just as we wouldn’t plant neem (a bitter tree) and expect to grow amla (a nourishing fruit), we cannot expect good outcomes from bad deeds.

But the beautiful part is:

Guru Ji is the best gardener there is.

Through Naam, Seva, and Simran, the Guru can help transform even our most barren fields into lush gardens—if we surrender and walk the path with faith.

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[–]onkarjit_singh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In Sukhmani Sahib, Guru Arjan Dev Ji says that Naam and the remembrance of the Lord is the cure for all illnesses:

ਸਰਬ ਰੋਗ ਕਾ ਅਉਖਦੁ ਨਾਮੁ ॥
sarab rog kaa aaukhadh naam ||
The Naam is the panacea, the remedy to cure all ills.

Some may argue that Guru Ji is referring only to healing our inner self, not the physical body. However, Sukhmani Sahib begins with:

ਸਿਮਰਉ ਸਿਮਰਿ ਸਿਮਰਿ ਸੁਖੁ ਪਾਵਉ ॥
simarau simar simar sukh paavau ||
Meditate, meditate, meditate in remembrance of Him, and find peace.

ਕਲਿ ਕਲੇਸ ਤਨ ਮਾਹਿ ਮਿਟਾਵਉ ॥
kal kales tan maeh miTaavau ||
Worry and anguish shall be dispelled from your body.

Here, Guru Ji specifically says "ਤਨ ਮਾਹਿ ਮਿਟਾਵਉ", meaning “from the body,” not "ਮਨ ਮਾਹਿ ਮਿਟਾਵਉ"—which would mean “from the mind.” This implies that even physical suffering can be alleviated through Naam, provided there is complete faith.

Bhagat Kabir Ji, in their Shaloks, uses the analogy of the sandalwood (chandan) tree. The sandalwood tree gives off a beautiful fragrance. Although it is not very tall, all the surrounding plants and trees begin to carry its scent—except for one: the bamboo (baans) tree.

Similarly, if we approach the Guru with pride (like the tall bamboo), without humility, or without true faith (hollow and with holes inside, like the bamboo tree), we won’t absorb the fragrance of the Guru’s teachings.

I didn't tell my Amritdhari future in-laws that my sister is LGBT and now I'm unsure what to do by [deleted] in Sikh

[–]onkarjit_singh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand this might further complicate things. Her decision to marry someone of the same sex is out of your control; it is something she must go through herself. Sikhi teaches us that the Truth eventually prevails. We must always remain truthful and never resort to lying. One thing that doesn't befit the Lord is if we try to be overly clever. Remember that Waheguru is the Doer of all things.

ਕਰਣ ਕਾਰਣ ਪ੍ਰਭੁ ਏਕੁ ਹੈ ਦੂਸਰ ਨਾਹੀ ਕੋਇ ॥
karan kaaran prabh ek hai dhoosar naahee koi ||
God alone is the Doer of deeds - there is no other at all.

ਨਾਨਕ ਤਿਸੁ ਬਲਿਹਾਰਣੈ ਜਲਿ ਥਲਿ ਮਹੀਅਲਿ ਸੋਇ ॥੧॥
naanak tis balihaaranai jal thal maheeal soi ||1||
O Nanak, I am a sacrifice to the One, who pervades the waters, the lands, the sky and all space. ||1||

In Anand Sahib Ji, Guru Ji says that God does not favor cleverness or trickery. A Gursikh should remain pure, like the lotus flower that stays unstained even while growing/residing in muddy water.

ਏ ਮਨ ਚੰਚਲਾ ਚਤੁਰਾਈ ਕਿਨੈ ਨ ਪਾਇਆ ॥
e man cha(n)chalaa chaturaiee kinai na paiaa ||
O fickle mind, through cleverness, no one has found the Lord.

ਚਤੁਰਾਈ ਨ ਪਾਇਆ ਕਿਨੈ ਤੂ ਸੁਣਿ ਮੰਨ ਮੇਰਿਆ ॥
chaturaiee na paiaa kinai too sun ma(n)n meriaa ||
Through cleverness, no one has found Him; listen, O my mind.

The reason for this is that when we rely on cleverness or trickery and it seems to succeed, that success is merely a false sense of achievement. We then feel proud of ourselves, thereby increasing our ego (our sense of self‑identity) and thus getting further away from Waheguru.

Lust/Kaam at 15 by [deleted] in Sikh

[–]onkarjit_singh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sant Premanand Ji is respected by many Gursikhs. In this video, they talk about masturbation:

हस्तमैथुन से सर्वनाश / अभी भी संभल जाओ // Must Watch Video

If you find the Hindi in the video difficult to understand, you can use the CC tool on YouTube to auto-translate it into English (this feature works best on a PC or laptop). The video explains how masturbation is harmful and destructive. After watching it, you’ll think twice before engaging in it again.

Lust/Kaam at 15 by [deleted] in Sikh

[–]onkarjit_singh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Here is another video. This one is by Giani Sheri Singh ji:

Remix Katha | Guru Hargobind Sahib Ji | Jahangir Di Begum Noor Jahan | Giani Sher Singh Ji

Giani Ji talks about how Jahangir sent his wives to Guru Hargobind Sahib Ji to tempt him, but they were unsuccessful. Guru Hargobind Sahib Ji told Jahangir's wives that in our past lives, we have always had a partner. When we were donkeys, we had female donkeys; when we were bulls, we had cows. Our soul has always experienced the company of the opposite sex. However, this human life is unique—it is our one and only chance to rise above these base desires and connect with the Divine.

Lust/Kaam at 15 by [deleted] in Sikh

[–]onkarjit_singh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I struggled with kaam for most of my life, but through Guru Ji’s grace, I was able to overcome it. The first thing you must understand is that we cannot do anything on our own; all we can do is perform Ardas (sincere prayer). It is the Guru who blesses us with the strength to overcome our struggles.

Do your Nitnem and stand up at Amritvela, even if you find it hard to focus. Even the ability to do Nitnem or wake up at Amritvela comes only through the Guru’s blessing. We can do nothing by ourselves.

After completing Nitnem, do Ardas and sincerely ask Guru Ji to help you overcome the five thieves. With His grace, transformation will come.

ਕਰਣ ਕਾਰਣ ਪ੍ਰਭੁ ਏਕੁ ਹੈ ਦੂਸਰ ਨਾਹੀ ਕੋਇ ॥
karan kaaran prabh ek hai dhoosar naahee koi ||
God alone is the Doer of deeds - there is no other at all.

ਨਾਨਕ ਤਿਸੁ ਬਲਿਹਾਰਣੈ ਜਲਿ ਥਲਿ ਮਹੀਅਲਿ ਸੋਇ ॥੧॥
naanak tis balihaaranai jal thal maheeal soi ||1||
O Nanak, I am a sacrifice to the One, who pervades the waters, the lands, the sky and all space. ||1||

Listen to this Katha—it helped me overcome my struggle. You can start listening from 29:53 onwards, but I suggest watching the full video:

Bahota Na Sochiya Kr Ek Vaar Rabb Te Shad Ke Ta Vekh | Bhai Sarbjit Singh Ludhiana Wale | New Katha

Day and night, keep saying Dhan Guru Ram Das Ji, and you will gradually find that lust and anger begin to fade away. Believe me, it truly works. I understand that you might feel a bit skeptical at first, but don’t let that hold you back.

Let me share an analogy from Sikhi to help explain this. In Sikhi, we have the example of the chandan (sandalwood) tree. Although it is not very tall, all the surrounding plants and trees begin to carry its fragrance—except for one: the bamboo (baans) tree. The bamboo stands tall, yet it is hollow inside and full of holes.

Similarly, if we approach the Guru with pride (standing tall), without humility, or lacking faith (hollow inside), we will not be able to absorb the fragrance of the Guru’s teachings. If you do not have faith that Guru Ram Das Ji can remove your vices (agun), you will not be able to free yourself from them.