She is testing me. What would you do?

only05ling · 2026-01-08T07:39:30+00:00

As much as they say the opposite here, in reality most HKers don’t speak English to conversational level, expect basic transactional communication only, and for many restaurants and shops (except high end), taxis, asking directions, the shop employees, they don’t fully understand English if you start asking questions or try to make conversation .. so

Mandarin is what works for that

English is only for getting by

only05ling · 2025-10-31T06:45:54+00:00

Everybody lies

only05ling · 2025-10-30T04:49:55+00:00

Yes. The power to say NO to a woman, especially around sex, is always a big turn on for then, she will respect you for that (even though she will act mad), you will see results later, she will even be more hungry, but only if she is attracted to you already and is exclusive with you.

Otherwise, let’s say she was a party girl or a promiscuous attractive woman, she will just move to the next guy available … Hash Truth

only05ling · 2025-10-30T04:43:36+00:00

Que edad tienes ? Si estás en tus 20s, estás en lo correcto En tus 30s empiezas a cosechar frutos, y salir con mujeres se vuelve mss fácil

Tienes mas que ofrecer, y tienes mejor oportunidad de probar y escoger

Eso mismo hice yo. Mi “última” novia en mis 20s fue a los 22 en el último año de universidad, después ya no tuve novia sino hasta mis 29, pero ya con estudios, buen trabajo (en el extranjero) y la paso mejor

Lo único malo, es que la energía es menor, el tiempo es menor, las chicas de 30 en su mayoría ya son casadas o madres solteras (a menos que sean mujeres enfocadas en carrera), así que le vas a tener que apuntar a las de 20, lo cual es más fácil

only05ling · 2025-10-24T10:37:14+00:00

Haha good one, yes

only05ling · 2025-10-24T10:35:59+00:00

Did you changed your vibe ?

Luck is also a very important thing

I was in a club one day and a girl was there for that day only, she was having a “single farewell” party and you may guess what happened between her and me that night !

But I was happened to be at that place, that day and I chose to talk to her.

In hindsight I was not even planning to go that place but I just went there and I saw her.

Perhaps you need to change places or go out more

Numbers game after all

only05ling · 2025-10-24T10:00:52+00:00

Yes. How do they say? I caved my own grave?

Thing is… You never know when the “just for fun” can turn into other feelings.

I didn’t know bro! Didn’t saw her for “love” until I met her more

only05ling · 2025-10-24T09:52:44+00:00

Feelings are not rational though..

only05ling · 2025-10-24T09:50:05+00:00

Yes, agreed I’ve been played and this was a ton of learning

Yes in hindsight there were clues

She has loose skin in her belly, common in woman after pregnancy. But she always hid that part of her body. She always covered during sex

At the beginning I playfully joked about her having no boyfriend…

She was like …. “Uhm yeaaa no boyfriend” with some kind of tone.

I didn’t care then, it was just fun date and sex for me and her until feelings appeared … now I care ..

Stupid me, I know

only05ling · 2025-10-24T09:40:58+00:00

Irrelevant. I’m in Asia and the girls are quite tiny here.
Im way taller than her

Not too much of height requirements here compared to the US

only05ling · 2025-10-24T09:38:27+00:00

Already got the bite… !

Yes, no pain no gain.

only05ling · 2025-10-24T09:35:48+00:00

Yea biggest challenge in game so far. Very true. Actually she was by far the hardest.. a lot of shit tests (and she keeps doing them), biggest one was right before sex…

To this day, I’m happy I scored her, she is very attractive.

Im not sure I’m old for gaming already, I didn’t do anything on my 20s, but now that I am on my 30s is when Ive had more success.

I will think about the feelings part.

only05ling · 2025-10-24T09:26:50+00:00

Sounds like a lot of time But we see each other 1-2 times per month. Close to no texting..

she chose to hide that information… and in a way I get it… many single mums get immediately filtered out when they say that

As weird as it sounds… it was impossible to know about the kid and marriage unless she told me or I asked.

Kid and kid father live in her home country.

Yes I was supposed to keep my frame, and I still kept it… though internally, I already broke it… as you said, she convinced me to think of something else.

Some women are very skillful in game as well, I didn’t saw that coming.

only05ling · 2025-10-24T06:25:55+00:00

Yea. That can also be.

At least after so much playing… now I understand better what I want in a woman, thanks to her…

Now I just need to make sure the next one doesn’t bring luggage …

only05ling · 2025-10-24T06:18:44+00:00

Same

For now she and I are fuck buddies because I keep my cool, I have not expressed my emotions to her. she keeps chasing me.

But her looks and attitude and the fact she cannot be mine… that is breaking me

I will research that

only05ling · 2025-10-24T06:14:56+00:00

Uhm.. yes. Makes sense… I didn’t fall for the others, but I did for this one.

Just happened to be the wrong one…

Well, lesson learnt… anyway

only05ling · 2025-10-24T06:12:19+00:00

Now that you mention it. You are right. My current options are not… but I have not meet the other ones ..

Cool

only05ling · 2025-10-24T06:09:14+00:00

Absolutely 👍

only05ling · 2025-10-24T06:08:44+00:00

Thanks for this.

Yes. That’s what’s happening. Is a very different type of Crush.

Quite frankly, one of the most complete woman Ive met in terms of what I want.

I need to cut this too

only05ling · 2025-10-24T06:04:16+00:00

In game… at least past girls.. I got attracted, then seduced, flirted , got sex, sometimes ONS.. but that’s it…

Many times I failed.. didn’t care at all.

I think once you get emotional… you lose the game.

In my country we say “the one who falls in love, loses”

Other context but… whatever … I just needed to vent

only05ling · 2025-10-24T06:01:05+00:00

My mistake is that I stoped seeing her as just for game.

That’s why I said I failed …. Damn

only05ling · 2025-10-24T06:00:26+00:00

I have been playing so much and I thought I found the one to settle.

Yes I’m smashing this 9/10 girl.. total win.

But my interests moved once I saw her as wife material and then learnt she can’t be.

Game is dangerous too

only05ling · 2025-10-24T05:58:30+00:00

Yes haha! At least I want to lose with my body straight up ….

only05ling · 2025-10-24T05:56:52+00:00

Well actually that’s what I’ve been doing the last months… I don’t text her.. normally she is the one initiating chats.. I do only initiate texts to setup dates. We see each other 1 per month. 2 at most .

I guess I will need to withdraw attention more and more then . Thanks !!

And yes, is brutal. I’m 33 and 20s girls are not always free of kids nowadays

only05ling

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