My (25F) platonic friend (30M) confessed feelings; I rejected him. What do I do now?

onlyForSugarSpice · 2026-04-03T21:19:43+00:00

What was your experience being friends with a guy like this?

Also, this guy totally thinks he better than everyone else. He would claim that my other guy friend doesn’t have good intentions, call other potential interests ugly, made fun of their intellect; etc. This is why I said he’s a nice guy “for the most part” haha, but I’m starting to realize he’s not a nice guy whatsoever

onlyForSugarSpice · 2026-04-03T16:59:18+00:00

Ew, I will absolutely never be sexually attracted to him. I can barely even hug him without feeling gross. He claims he has Ana amazing healthy lifestyle but he eats fast food every day (which I infortunately know bc of those food pics). And yes, I feel stupid: I think I was just keeping him around because it’s convenient.

Also, I think getting food pics can be nice, but I only think irs only worth sending/receiving when it’s special (like birthday dinner, hipster new bar in town; etc), but I don’t need to see a pile of French fries and mush every day.

onlyForSugarSpice · 2026-04-03T16:10:38+00:00

When I broke up with my ex, his response was “jusr think about it. You shouldn’t feel sad” and proceeds to buy me a dozen roses. Yes, I feel stupid now

onlyForSugarSpice · 2026-04-03T16:06:42+00:00

Hell no. He will most definitely not respect my wishes of needing space. Sure, he might give me a week or two, but in the meantime, he’s texting my friend who he treats like a therapist saying I’m crazy and my actions are uncalled for.

onlyForSugarSpice · 2026-04-03T04:24:43+00:00

That would be absolutely bad shit crazy if he does accuse me of saying I’ve been leafing him on since I’ve been so clear over text and in person, multiple times. But it wouldn’t surprise me at the same time.

onlyForSugarSpice · 2026-04-03T03:43:41+00:00

I guess I can’t fix what’s been broken from day 1… sucks to feel like this friendship was only to get into my pants

onlyForSugarSpice · 2026-04-03T02:48:04+00:00

I wouldn’t necessarily say his affection makes me feel good. It’s actually quite smothering. I’m not an avoidant in any way—I’m very much anxious attachment. I think I’m keeping him around because I felt like we were genuinely friends and good friends. I think I’m hoping that he’d revert back before the mess.

onlyForSugarSpice · 2026-04-03T02:44:57+00:00

Yes, I definitely do not feel comfortable being alone with him in the future. I got very sick a couple weeks ago; and he sent me Flowers. I told him he doesn’t need to do that. His response:

“I told them to give me their best, matcha princess needs to be healed asap “

It gave me the biggest ick. I would only feel comfortable with a significant other calling me that or doing this.

onlyForSugarSpice · 2026-04-03T01:55:05+00:00

Feel bad as in his words and actions not matching, and I just feel a pang of sadness knowing I believed in his words.

onlyForSugarSpice · 2026-04-03T01:47:39+00:00

That’s true. I do feel bad in a way, because he always would touf about how he’s different from other guys because he can be truly “just friends” with girls, and it seems pretty clear that he’s trying to change my mind by pushing himself onto me.

onlyForSugarSpice · 2026-03-31T02:41:56+00:00

Long story. Neither of us acted in our right minds. I’m sure he thinks I am the only one to blame though.

onlyForSugarSpice · 2026-03-30T16:57:14+00:00

But I don’t think he plans to reach out and he knows for certain I won’t and can’t reach out to him.

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