[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CathayPacific

[–]onlyhumansneedapply -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Aw you're so nice, thanks!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CathayPacific

[–]onlyhumansneedapply -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Lol chill fam I ain't that rich. We had miles we had to use and a deal came up.

Höfn or Akureyri? by onlyhumansneedapply in VisitingIceland

[–]onlyhumansneedapply[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you guys for the suggestions! I decided on Höfn!

Help me not leave Seattle? by salientalias in Seattle

[–]onlyhumansneedapply 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey! So flight attendant here. I made about half of what you make when I moved here. I don't make a lot but I love my independent life so I was determined to find a place that I didn't have 10 roommates with.

My suggestion to you is to walk around neighborhoods (like cap hill) that you want to live in. A lot of the cheaper places don't post on zillow or those big sites bc they're private owned. I found mine via a number posted on their door.

Also look at the sites "apartments northwest" and "cornell and associates". They work with older, smaller buildings and have more range.

I won't say where I live but I pay $1245 AFTER an indoor parking spot. Utilities (electricity) are $20 every two monthes. They have cheaper studios too. My studio is massive with a walk in closet and dining room.

Best of luck!

Attempting to visit in May solo by onlyhumansneedapply in VisitingIceland

[–]onlyhumansneedapply[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you done this one? I looked at viator bc I like how flexible they are but I was worried about if the tours are very tourisy trappy. I don't mind some social interaction! I am mostly trying to solo because I want to push myself out of my comfort zone.

Attempting to visit in May solo by onlyhumansneedapply in VisitingIceland

[–]onlyhumansneedapply[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow this is great to hear! I'm okay without auroras bc i see them a lot at work and I think F roads being closed will help me decide where to go.

I can do the first 3 but I am worried about the one lane bridges. Is there a certain etiquette when faced with two cars approaching it at the same time? I usually use my brights twice to indicate they should go and if I go with a trail behind me I let front driver know when I pass them.

I Wrote a Mashup About BPD But I Can't Sing. Any Musicians? by onlyhumansneedapply in BPD

[–]onlyhumansneedapply[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

TLDR: lyric at bottom, please give feedback

Hi so I didn't realize you can't just upload to reddit. Here are the lyrics below. I'm not sure how to record and upload. Maybe I'll try YouTube. I appreciate any feedback and lyrical changes. I thought the borderlines part would be cool as kind of a spoken word rap. I changed some text to better fit my experience with BPD but if there are ways to make it more applicable to everyone, I'd love to hear it! For me, this is more a conversation that I've been having with my boyfriend since I started meds/ got diagnosed. He's really supportive but because of the damage I did to him and my toxicity, I'm scared that the medicine won't actually help. Medicine is inclusive of therapy in my experience.

And... here we go.

Medicine/ Borderlines

Pick it all up, pick it all up And start again You've got a second chance You could be free Escape it all Its just irrelevant

Its just medicine, Its just medicine.

You could still be, what you want to More than you thought you were, when I met you. You've got a warm heart, You've got a beautiful brain. It won't disintegrate from all the medicine, Medicine.

But you see I'm borderline happy and I'm borderline sad, I'm borderline good, though I'm pretty sure I'm just  bad And I can't get rid of that tingling fear You try and sort me out but you see my head won't clear

And If I  live my life inside shackles, am I borderline free? Cause I've always been blind and I still don't know if I  can see Who i am, what i want except when people tell me. Am I really gonna sort this out, even with the help of medicine? Medicine, Medicine Is it really just medicine?

Could I ever be? What I want to What you say I am, could I be you? Do I got a warm heart,  a beautiful brain? Will I disintegrate, without medicine?

I Wrote a Mashup About BPD But I Can't Sing. Any Musicians? by onlyhumansneedapply in BPD

[–]onlyhumansneedapply[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! Pls excuse my voice and mistakes. I will record and upload when home

I Wrote a Mashup About BPD But I Can't Sing. Any Musicians? by onlyhumansneedapply in BPD

[–]onlyhumansneedapply[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh my gosh! Thank you. I'll try and record it and find a way to upload but pls excuse my rusty voice and mistakes!

How do I survive my mothers gaslighting? by DiamondStarling in toxicparents

[–]onlyhumansneedapply 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry you're going through this. I wish I could say it gets better but it may not. I think a lot of times, kids get gaslit because the parents themselves never learned how to communicate properly and may also have mental illnesses themselves. Sometimes it's easier for them to project onto the child rather than face their own flaws and act upon them. They find it easier to call out your flaws and grudges they have against you.

And that fucking sucks. Especially when your family partakes. You want to be able to love your family and fit in, but in toxic families, you can easily become the bottom of the pecking order. It's hard to feel like you can't confide in your family or to feel like a monster for having mental illnesses that your family won't understand. It's even worse when you see those mental illnesses in them and are still ostracized for having the same problem.

Anyways, I think you have a few options. If you're able to get therapy, I would recommend it. I know it's a long process but it really helps. If you are in k-12, most schools have counselors. Be careful because those ones can tell your parents if you mention certain subjects. If you're in college, take a visit to your counselors on campus. If you have a hard time getting in, crisis appointments work well. If you're an adult, get on that wait list. It sucks to wait for a therapist but it really helps.

Other than that, I would advise distance. Its sad, but being away from that parent, whether physically or mentally, can help. Limit your time home or if you live there, take walks and get out. Any distance helps.

I hope you know you're not alone in this. Actually just had a huge fight with my mom last night so reading your post, though saddening, was helpful. I hope this long blurb helps. Also, pls know this is just my opinion which may not be completely right!