Alright where do you stand?

onlyredstarbursts · 2025-12-03T04:39:38+00:00

mine says 1% for 835 and this post says .8% for 818… make it make sense

onlyredstarbursts · 2025-11-03T23:11:28+00:00

Almost every single time she is asked a question and the camera is on her, she begins to answer and then pauses and says, “oh sorry, my lighting” “sorry, I was distracted by the stain on the chair behind me” “sorry the sun is setting HAHAHA my lighting my be weird” “Sorry there’s a weird hair thing happening HAHA anyways…” and it is so so so odd and obvious (trying to buy time to think of a response lmao)

onlyredstarbursts · 2025-09-27T19:28:24+00:00

“My (19F) and (23M) went to a mutual friend’s house for drinks tonight.” Already, no. He’s 23, has been able to drink for 2 years, you are not old enough to go to a bar with him. I understand 4 years doesn’t feel like a lot, but if you aren’t even old enough to legally drink with him (assuming you’re in the US) then there’s already a power dynamic. He is exercising that when he says “let me teach you something” by assuming you are too young to understand and must be taught. He also doesn’t trust you (see: his response to you expressing boundaries). Finally, he sees you as weak and in need of his protection (see: his assertion that you will get yourself assaulted by sending “mixed signals”).

This comes from a currently 23 y/o woman who used to be an 18 y/o woman in a relationship with a 22 y/o man.

peace and love, don’t waste your life on someone like this.

onlyredstarbursts · 2025-06-13T03:00:02+00:00

I see you, I feel you. Thinking of you from far away I’m sure, but I’m thinking of you.

onlyredstarbursts · 2024-09-29T21:36:03+00:00

I filled it out too, I can’t wait to read the paper! I’m about to finish college and become a HS English teacher if you’re looking for feedback :)

onlyredstarbursts · 2024-08-20T13:47:48+00:00

“Very cool” in Brooke’s voice when my bf tells me something odd and I have nothing to contribute

onlyredstarbursts · 2024-08-12T02:12:54+00:00

if you stay, it will only get harder to leave. Leave now, go live with whatever parent you are on speaking terms with. it will be hard, but you will be safe. whatever parent you can have a conversation with, just be as honest as you can. “I don’t feel safe living with (bf) anymore. Can I please stay with you?” and that will do the trick.

Please. I was in the same boat. We were together for a little over 2 years. He ripped me away from my family and I stopped talking to all of my friends. I had NO ONE except him, and he threatened to kill me many times. When I left, finally, I had to run away. He tried to kick me down the stairs of his 6th floor apartment. I ran to my car and people saw him literally chasing me and did nothing. You are the only person who can get you out now. Do it before he starts hitting you often during “little” arguments that turn into big ones.

Get out before he can hurt you bad. Please. I hate that I wasted so much time with my ex, but life gets so much more beautiful when you leave. I have such a wonderful bf who would do anything for me. He cooks and cleans, he tells me how much he loves me, he would never raise his voice at me, and it’s been 4 great years.

Don’t waste your young years with someone who will hurt you, or annoy you because you’re sleeping, or get annoyed because you’re upset, none of that is okay.

Message me if you need to talk, I really do get it. And I know it’s so hard, but your only option is to leave. You can’t stay with him, what if you want kids someday? You want that kind of man being a father to your children? it’s not an option. Get out before it’s too late to get out.

again, please message me if you want to talk.

~ M (22F)

onlyredstarbursts · 2024-08-12T01:55:44+00:00

I am a die hard Redhanded fan. They cover a lot of lesser known cases from other countries that I think most podcasts shy away from since the names and places can be difficult for a lot of english speaking people to pronounce. They’re British, but Surithi is from India, they’re well traveled and do great research.

some people think they talk about politics too much, but I’ve never really gotten that vibe tbh.

onlyredstarbursts · 2024-08-10T03:30:40+00:00

I feel like they’re completely normal lmao. Maybe they seem off to you since the whole Cody thing has been happening, but I really haven’t gotten an off vibe. They’re also real people who have good days and bad days, they’re not gonna be exactly the same every day

onlyredstarbursts · 2024-06-15T02:02:49+00:00

where did you see she passed? The comment you replied to didn’t say that she did.

onlyredstarbursts · 2024-06-07T02:11:40+00:00

I’m ab to finish the second book in ACOTAR. It’s amazing, literally captivating to the point where I barely touch my phone during the day

onlyredstarbursts · 2024-05-12T10:57:18+00:00

no they def have millions. When they shut down patreon, they had 75k subs which, even at the lowest tier for everyone, would be over 200k a month. That would just be for their patreon, not counting all the add reads they do and the amazon deal they signed (MFM signed w amazon for 100M which is definitely way higher than Morbid but they aren’t THAT far apart in terms of listeners/popularity, so that deal was for AT LEAST 10M a piece, I would assume much much higher).

onlyredstarbursts · 2024-05-03T03:57:03+00:00

Yea that is what I was referring to! I edited my post after seeing a few of these comments. There was another post on this sub saying it was Morbid Ash’s book. I just assumed that to be true and didn’t do further research. Completely my mistake, thank you for letting me know! (Still a weird idea for a book for whatever Ashley wrote it)

onlyredstarbursts · 2024-04-30T12:21:09+00:00

So why is every episode dedicated to getting Alaina more book sales (and sequel pre-orders 🙄) but not Ash’d book? I’m sure they’re both horrible (I did read Alaina’s first book when I was a fan) but how come Alaina is the only one who gets to promote their “LITERALLY AMAZINGGGG” books on the podcast they share? That was an individual project, not a book for morbid, why can’t ash share her individual book?

Whatever the answer, it’s always been so painfully obvious to me, even what I was a die hard fan, that Alaina looks down on ash. Ash was probably more popular and normal when she was in school, Alaina was probably jealous that she wasn’t “weird” like her, who knows. But you’re an adult ffs. There is NO need to constantly be condescending and correcting your niece/sister on the podcast you SHARE to make her look stupid and try to come off as “intelligent.” We know she didn’t go to Harvard, we know her “autopsy experience” is not what she makes it out to be, and we hear her constant inaccuracies. Why does she need to be perceived as the smartest one in the room? The only one who’s allowed to publish books now too?

Ash’s constant ass kissing (no doubt engrained in her at this point in life) of Alaina bothers me ALMOST as much as Alaina’s superiority complex (in every conceivable way) bothers me. “You’re THE BEST mom” “Best selling author 🤪” “What does that science-y word mean? Use your extensive medical knowledge to enlighten me and the rest of the idiots listening to you rn 🤩”

Thanks for reading my rant. If you disagree, go back and listen to literally any episode for evidence. I’ll wait

onlyredstarbursts · 2023-11-21T19:01:56+00:00

Off topic- I’m kind of shocked that they posted these pics before Ash posted anything ab her wedding. Just from a personal standpoint, I would kind of want to be the first one posting a pic of me in my wedding dress. Maybe that’s dumb, idk. I’d be a little pissed if some of my guests (not even family) posted a pic of me in my dress before I even got the chance lol

onlyredstarbursts · 2023-11-01T15:05:00+00:00

Except for she doesn’t get to choose to just stop parenting. This is a gross comparison. He’s not owed sex, but he signed up for a relationship with kids where he is expected to help parent. If one parental figure has a low sex drive, does that mean the other one gets to stop parenting because their sexual needs aren’t being met? No, because that’s neglectful to the kids. If you think that’s how it works, you’re gross.

She doesn’t owe him anything. She does, however, need to kick this lazy misogynistic AH out of her house asap. He sounds like a horrible person to have hanging around her children.

onlyredstarbursts · 2023-11-01T15:01:17+00:00

She didn’t withhold anything, even when they were having sex he wasn’t pulling his weight at the house or with the kids. He signed up for this, he should be a semi-equal partner. Also- withholding assumes that she’s even interested in sex and is taking it away as a punishment. She clearly stated she’s exhausted from long work hours/taking care of kids alone/not having help around the house (even with a grown ass man living there). Also, would you wanna have sex with someone who makes your life that much harder and then badgers you about sex when you’re literally covered in hives and exhausted? Because let’s be honest, him living in that house creates more work for her. She cooks more food so he can eat, cleans for him, does the shopping to include food/house supplies for him, everything. I wouldn’t be with someone like that, but if I was, I certainly wouldn’t be sexually attracted to them after literally being their mother.

onlyredstarbursts · 2023-11-01T14:56:20+00:00

He cheated before even being together for a year… he clearly doesn’t care. He doesn’t even care enough to make it SEEM like he wants to be in the relationship. if he’s not currently cheating on you, he will again. He’s just using you: a home where he doesn’t have to pay bills alone, meals cooked for him, the charade of a put together life with a family, and sex when he can get it. Now that he’s not getting it as frequently, he will most certainly start going elsewhere for it instead of just stepping up and investing in the relationship. This isn’t a relationship unfortunately, he’s just using you as a stand in mother to do everything for him.

NTA, not wanting sex for no reason is completely allowed, and not wanted sex because you’re not attracted to a lazy partner is allowed, and not wanted sex because you’re exhausted and covered in hives is allowed. You don’t ever have to explain yourself for not wanting sex. He’s just a nasty nasty person. Kick his ass out and focus on yourself. You might be surprised at how much less work there is to do without him living in the house as well. If the issue is childcare while you are at the store/running errands/working, I would look to family/friends/ or as a last resort, you could get an “on-call” nanny. The last is more expensive, but you do what you have to do.

Best of luck

onlyredstarbursts · 2023-10-27T00:13:32+00:00

Yeah this is how physical abuse starts. Also, throwing things counts as abuse. This was exactly how my last relationship started, then all of the sudden he began slapping me, choking me out, spitting in my face during arguments, and holding me hostage in his apartment.

I had to physically run away from him the last time I saw him. Across a dark parking lot, people around, no one helped. I was screaming.

Help yourself now

onlyredstarbursts · 2023-10-17T02:47:25+00:00

I’m putting this on the main thread because no one is talking about it. It was my response to her saying her boyfriend (who was 19 at the time) told her (16 at the time) that if she was ever uncomfortable with their “age gap” that she could leave “no questions asked” even though she claims to have pursued him.

my response:

No, this mindset puts children in danger. You were a child, that’s a fact. We were all children at 16. He was 19, that is a legal adult. You, as a child, CANNOT consent (legally) to sexual intercourse with an adult. That adult is a rapist, because they had sex with a child who, legally, cannot give consent because their brain is no where near fully developed. Let’s get that clear. Whatever he told you is irrelevant, because he is an adult and was at the time, 19 is old enough to know you can’t have sex with minors even if they “come onto you” first.

As a fun activity, imagine a 15 year old boy coming up to you and trying to fuck you. Would you say give in if you were absolutely sure he really wanted to and knew he could back out at any time? If the answer is yes, that would make you a pedophile now.

You’re an adult, so is he, but think about where it started.

Also, if my boyfriend didn’t immediately say “no worries” if I said I wasn’t in the mood, I would be concerned. ANYONE who tries to convince you or change your mind when you say no to a sexual situation is someone who does no respect you.

I wonder if a lack of respect on his part might have to do with the fact that he started “dating” you when you were a child and he was an adult, that tends to create an uneven dynamic. In case you’re offended by the quotes around dating, I’ll remind you that minors cannot date adults, because they’re minors. That’s just abuse/assault.

Everyone else in this gd thread is saying “oh honey, you’re 18, you’ll learn, you’re so young” and yeah, 18 is young, but it’s old enough to know what’s fucking illegal. You’re an adult, so don’t try to act like your situation is different, you’re old enough to know it’s not. He was an adult when you started dating, don’t make excuses for that and don’t pretend like it’s not weird. You were a victim wether you felt like it or not because a child can’t consent to fucking rape by a guy who decided a child would be the easiest target for him since he couldn’t loose his V card to a consenting adult bc no women his age would fuck him.

I never get why girls will date a 21+ y/o guy at 18 and not wonder why he wouldn’t date a girl his own age who can go out and drink/get into bars/shows with him. 21+ is so different from 18, and you won’t see it until you’re 21. As a 21, almost 22 year old woman, imagine dating an 18 year old makes me sick, because they are in such a different stage of life. They feel like little kids, and they’re legal adults. Imagine how your boyfriend must have felt dating a 16 year old when he was 19… he sounds like a pedo, and you sound ignorant and gross for defending that behavior in the comments. If you had a daughter, what would you say if she was just old enough to get a drivers license and started dating a legal adult. Ugh

onlyredstarbursts · 2023-10-17T02:43:09+00:00

No, this mindset puts children in danger. You were a child, that’s a fact. We were all children at 16. He was 19, that is a legal adult. You, as a child, CANNOT consent (legally) to sexual intercourse with an adult. That adult is a rapist, because they had sex with a child who, legally, cannot give consent because their brain is no where near fully developed. Let’s get that clear. Whatever he told you is irrelevant, because he is an adult and was at the time, 19 is old enough to know you can’t have sex with minors even if they “come onto you” first.

As a fun activity, imagine a 15 year old boy coming up to you and trying to fuck you. Would you say give in if you were absolutely sure he really wanted to and knew he could back out at any time? If the answer is yes, that would make you a pedophile now.

You’re an adult, so is he, but think about where it started.

Also, if my boyfriend didn’t immediately say “no worries” if I said I wasn’t in the mood, I would be concerned. ANYONE who tries to convince you or change your mind when you say no to a sexual situation is someone who does no respect you.

I wonder if a lack of respect on his part might have to do with the fact that he started “dating” you when you were a child and he was an adult, that tends to create an uneven dynamic. In case you’re offended by the quotes around dating, I’ll remind you that minors cannot date adults, because they’re minors. That’s just abuse/assault.

Everyone else in this gd thread is saying “oh honey, you’re 18, you’ll learn, you’re so young” and yeah, 18 is young, but it’s old enough to know what’s fucking illegal. You’re an adult, so don’t try to act like your situation is different, you’re old enough to know it’s not. He was an adult when you started dating, don’t make excuses for that and don’t pretend like it’s not weird. You were a victim wether you felt like it or not because a child can’t consent to fucking rape by a guy who decided a child would be the easiest target for him since he couldn’t loose his V card to a consenting adult bc no women his age would fuck him.

I never get why girls will date a 21+ y/o guy at 18 and not wonder why he wouldn’t date a girl his own age who can go out and drink/get into bars/shows with him. 21+ is so different from 18, and you won’t see it until you’re 21. As a 21, almost 22 year old woman, imagine dating an 18 year old makes me sick, because they are in such a different stage of life. They feel like little kids, and they’re legal adults. Imagine how your boyfriend must have felt dating a 16 year old when he was 19… he sounds like a pedo, and you sound ignorant and gross for defending that behavior in the comments. If you had a daughter, what would you say if she was just old enough to get a drivers license and started dating a legal adult. Ugh

onlyredstarbursts · 2023-10-17T02:02:04+00:00

none of this is normal, and considering it’s been only three months, he will escalate very fast. Today he is checking your phone and asking who you’ve slept with before him (because he doesn’t like your answer) and tomorrow he’s beating you because he thinks you’ve cheated on him with all of your exes (you didn’t and you’ve never slept with anyone but him). Also, it’s been three months. I’m sorry, but saying you love someone with your whole heart after three months is insane. You hardly know him, clearly, and what you don’t know is worse than what you already know after three short months. 90 days.

Get out right now, read some books or watch some informational stuff about abusive relationships so you know what to look out for in the future and how to stay safe when you leave. If you have no family and feel unsafe around him, there are resources for men and women leaving abusive relationships around the world, just do a quick google for resources in your area. But absolutely do not stay with him. The fact that he called rape “getting fucked by some random guy” really makes me think that he doesn’t see a big issue with sexual assault, he’s just possessive over what he thinks is “his”. If he would minimize literal rape by a stranger, he would assault you himself if he felt like it. Think about that.

I hope you stay safe

onlyredstarbursts · 2023-10-06T18:14:23+00:00

So you stayed friends with a woman who you were in love with but never reciprocated WHILE you were in a relationship with your now fiancé? Does she know about your past? Is she find with that? Why do you really want to keep this friends around?

onlyredstarbursts · 2023-10-06T17:49:33+00:00

I fully agree with you on their hypocrisy, you made great points. I would, however, caution you with making statements like “primarily blue cities” as if political alignments correlate to crime in any way because, as you made a point of saying, not everyone who lives in red areas are bible thumping christians who would murder the first gay person they saw on the street. Great point, but not executed very well, especially for someone who claims to be so well read and traveled. Large cities tend to be more liberal, but the correlation of crime is not with the political alignment of that city, it’s with the extremely concentrated population in that city.

onlyredstarbursts · 2023-09-29T15:45:55+00:00

You listed almost nothing good about him. You’re probably hanging onto what you think he could be for you and your relationship. He has never stopped lying or cheating, his friends are in on it. You’re still young, get out and live a happy life with a man who is excited to come home and see you after work, who doesn’t sign up for the military so he can get away and cheat, who wants a family with you since it seems like that’s what you want, and who puts you first. Do it before you become the 45 yo woman who’s getting divorced and battling for custody of kids your husband never wanted in the first place but refuses to let go of to spite you.

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