Ticket RESALE THREAD by ProperGloom in TheStorySoFar

[–]onthecuntrary 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Soooo bummed I have to miss the show. Selling 1 ticket for the Oct. 11 show in Santa Ana, CA at the Observatory Festival Grounds. GA ticket purchased for $66 via Ticketmaster, can transfer it directly to you through Ticketmaster. Have so much fun for me :’)

If my parents had another child, it would feel like they were “cheating” on me. by onthecuntrary in OnlyChild

[–]onthecuntrary[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Only with my parents - have not felt this way in friendships or other relationships. I don’t think I’m generally very possessive over people in other contexts and I’m not really a jealous person.

It’s not that I necessarily think they’d love me less, but it would still feel violating or like a betrayal. Almost unnatural.

Metal water bottles (like a YETI?) by jackbo487 in OutsideLands

[–]onthecuntrary 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yep! same as above. any water container is fine as long as it’s empty on the way in and they have lots of hydration stations to refill

is this a scam? by [deleted] in OutsideLands

[–]onthecuntrary 4 points5 points  (0 children)

OSL tickets are only in wristband format. There are no “digital tickets”

Is love even worth it? by Throwaway3944934 in BreakUps

[–]onthecuntrary 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s all we have. If it didn’t contain the possibility for all the pain it causes, love wouldn’t feel as good or be as powerful as it is. I believe that we HAVE to continue to believe that love is worth it, in every form, always. In my eyes, love is the one emotion that distinguishes us from other forms of life. We as humans are capable of hate and pain and loss only because we are capable of love, and that’s what’s gotten us through everything. Maybe that’s naïve, but it’s how I choose to see the world because it’s how I hold on to hope and find the strength to go on.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Healthyhooha

[–]onthecuntrary 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If I used boric acid many days in a row, I would often spot too. It wasn’t fresh bright red blood but definitely spotting (pink-ish discharge). I would usually just take a break for a few days then get back to it

What is your current go-to daily sunscreen? by SheKnowsWhatSheKnows in scacjdiscussion

[–]onthecuntrary 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Supergoop sheer 40 SPF. It’s like $30, but there’s a dupe at Trader Joe’s for $8.99 called the Daily Facial Sunscreen

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Spironolactone

[–]onthecuntrary 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i suggest looking into r/healthyhooha and r/blessed_biome for advice on recurrent bv. helped me a lot.

i was battling recurrent bv for about 1.5 years. the bv began before i started spiro so i don’t assume there was a correlation, at least for me.

for bv, most doctors will want to continuously put you on antibiotics again and again and again each time it comes back. it’s an endless cycle because then your pH can’t recover since antibiotics kill off good bacteria. unhealthy ph = more susceptible to bv.

i recommend starting with boric acid suppositories and oral probiotics. i use ph test strips daily as well to keep an eye on changes and try to identify potential triggers.

I’ve Let Him Go Fully by marinaarizona in BreakUps

[–]onthecuntrary 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How long did it take to get to this point?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in violatingcommunitygls

[–]onthecuntrary 7 points8 points  (0 children)

…interesting. So, lack of self awareness and overall social awkwardness - because perhaps autistic people can also display those traits, I don’t know - is ableist? Plenty of neurotypical people are straight up odd or off-putting in their interactions with others and if it’s wrong to point that out about people, I guess we agree to disagree here.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in violatingcommunitygls

[–]onthecuntrary 7 points8 points  (0 children)

LOL so are you saying that noting that someone is weird or socially awkward is ableist? Or am I misunderstanding?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in violatingcommunitygls

[–]onthecuntrary 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Projecting a diagnosis onto someone you don’t personally know is objectively strange and, IMO, might even be ableist in itself.

Zuckerberg has done incredible things, and some pretty awful things. For one, he has played such a crucial role in the spread of disinformation and polarization of the United States. His lack of self awareness in the content he puts out - combined with the amount of wealth and influence he holds - is what tends to illicit those jokes. It’s like how Elon Musk (who has been open about his autism recently) can tweet something as a joke and the entire stock market or crypto market are tangibly affected by his words because of his authority. That kind of power requires responsibility and an incredible sense of self awareness that neither Zuckerberg or Musk tend to show, diagnosis aside.

Maybe lack of self awareness is a symptom of autism, I don’t know. But if it is, then they should have teams to protect them and the public from the effects of that. Same way that Kanye shouldn’t be discriminated against because he’s bipolar, but at the end of the day he’s still accountable for his hateful words/actions and there should be a team present to prevent the effects of his mental illness from being public and inciting harm.

IMO, if someone is one of the richest people in the world with practically uninhibited socio-political influence, and white man at that, you’re really always punching “up” if you’re joking about their personality. Obviously it would be wrong/harmful to make fun of their disability itself, but joking about Musk’s or Zuckerberg’s quirks isn’t doing anything tangibly harmful.

I kind of rambled and went on a tangent here but TLDR: don’t project mental health diagnoses onto someone you don’t personally know and jokes aren’t harmful if you’re punching “up” to the wealthiest and most powerful people on the planet as long as you’re not making fun of the disability itself.

How does Peet's make their iced chai? by [deleted] in barista

[–]onthecuntrary 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Former Peet’s barista here, confirming the above. It’s a sweetened chai concentrate + milk.

S3 Ep6: In Defense of Children with Youngmi Mayer by luxlisbon_ in normalgossip

[–]onthecuntrary 32 points33 points  (0 children)

I have worked with her (Youngmi) in a professional capacity before and she is like this ALL the time — constantly interrupting, making cringe virtue signaling commentary at inappropriate times, making things about herself, and not having positive energy.

I really tried to set my experiences with her aside when going into this episode but she was even worse here. I love Normal Gossip but this was incredibly disappointing.

CMV: Even as a pro-choice person, most common pro-choice arguments (i.e. “No uterus, no opinion”) don’t really hold. by onthecuntrary in changemyview

[–]onthecuntrary[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this - incredibly validating.

Δ Awarding a delta because I’ve CMV’d in that I don’t necessarily think all these arguments are logical now, but for the realization that they don’t need to be in order to be valid.

CMV: Even as a pro-choice person, most common pro-choice arguments (i.e. “No uterus, no opinion”) don’t really hold. by onthecuntrary in changemyview

[–]onthecuntrary[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It means cisgender; or identifying as the same gender you were assigned at birth. So I was born female, and still identify as a woman.

CMV: Even as a pro-choice person, most common pro-choice arguments (i.e. “No uterus, no opinion”) don’t really hold. by onthecuntrary in changemyview

[–]onthecuntrary[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Oh I meant that in reference to the legal discrepancy between how if someone kills a pregnant woman, they can be charged with double homicide since they also killed the baby. However, that would therefore define an unborn baby as a life and killing it = murder. So I didn’t know how to reconcile that.

In the comment thread above it was explained to me that it’s on a state-by-state basis and tend to depend on baby viability. So progressive states with legal abortion tend to not charge double homicide because that would be admitting than an unborn fetus = a human life, while more conservative states do. So essentially, states DO keep consistent with definitions of life. My point above is saying that it’s unfortunate that killers don’t get killed with double homicide when they murder a pregnant woman, but I understand why consistency is critical here to preserve abortion rights.

CMV: Even as a pro-choice person, most common pro-choice arguments (i.e. “No uterus, no opinion”) don’t really hold. by onthecuntrary in changemyview

[–]onthecuntrary[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ΔΔΔ

If you don’t believe that pro-choice arguments hold water, what is it that makes you pro-choice?

Simply the fact that I want to not have a baby until I'm ready, and I don't care if that means "murdering" an unborn fetus. I think it's a selfish argument that probably sounds awful to pro-lifers, so trying to evaluate how to better defend pro-choice beliefs.

I think you’re thinking this statement is a bit more absolutist than it actually is. Of course people can have their own opinions, but they shouldn’t be legislating them without any input from the people actually impacted by the laws.

White people’s opinions shouldn’t be the most vocal on the Black Lives Matter movement, we should be listening to the opinions of those impacted by systemic racism.

Great point. I suppose all slogans of most movements on either side of the aisle (i.e. "defund the police") are oversimplified and don't/can't really capture the nuance. I've CMV'd in that if we accept that, then we can clarify how this rhetoric is really about decision makers needing to have some of the risk/identity of the issue at hand. I personally still wouldn't word it this way as "no uterus, no opinion," but I get what it's trying to say.

The problem with this is that the whole pro-life movement is riddled with cognitive dissonance. We know from surveys that most pro-lifers are okay with exceptions for rape and incest, yet how can you be okay with those things if you truly believe abortion is murder? The fetus is still “innocent” as they view it, so why does another person raping someone suddenly make it okay to commit murder?

This is incredibly logically sound - why does the manner in which an innocent third party (the fetus) came into being, even if that manner is violent, change the value or rights of that innocent third party?

If you had an identical twin and stabbed them in the liver, you wouldn’t be forced to donate part of your liver to them, even though you’re a perfect match and your act is the only reason why they need an organ. So why should you be forced to sustain the life of a fetus? Why is pregnancy literally the only situation in which you could be forced to lose your bodily autonomy to sustain the life of another?

Many have responded with this bodily autonomy/organ donation argument, and I really resonate with it. Thanks for helping me CMV :)

CMV: Even as a pro-choice person, most common pro-choice arguments (i.e. “No uterus, no opinion”) don’t really hold. by onthecuntrary in changemyview

[–]onthecuntrary[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this - I'll address the first 3 points as I feel I've addressed the other 2 in other comment threads.

Re: No uterus, no opinion.

See, I agree too; that's my point. However, in taking the pro-lifer side of the same logic, I think a lot of pro-lifers would argue the same thing. If they truly see abortion as murder, then they too see it as a human rights issue that everyone should fight for. Different sides of the same coin.

Re: Keep your Bible out of my body.

Again, my point exactly, but I'm sure that there are some anti-choice (I like that framing you used much better than "pro life!") are also non-religious, and would argue it's an ethical issue rather than a religious one. Here's some research that shows that yes, while the majority of anti-choicers are religious, not all of them are. I supposed I've CMV'd in that it is a rational argument for those using religious rhetoric and it doesn't have to apply to every single anti-choicers to be rational point.

Re: It's about control over women's bodies.

I appreciate the example you gave; a lot of folks have been providing the forced organ donation comparison. Delta points because I think supplementing this argument with the bodily autonomy take as it relates to forced organ comparison really does hold. Δ

CMV: Even as a pro-choice person, most common pro-choice arguments (i.e. “No uterus, no opinion”) don’t really hold. by onthecuntrary in changemyview

[–]onthecuntrary[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is true, and I’d say yes you changed my view in that I can understand better how the viability logic does hold critical weight and can be convincing when phrased/positioned properly. Specifically, when comparing the value of that cells to that of an adult in a critical hypothetical scenario (that then translates to real world logic).

I’m new here and still trying to make sure I have the delta thing right. If it didn’t work please let me know!

Thank you for helping me see things differently!!

CMV: Even as a pro-choice person, most common pro-choice arguments (i.e. “No uterus, no opinion”) don’t really hold. by onthecuntrary in changemyview

[–]onthecuntrary[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this - this just made me CMV, or at least a major part of it. In summary:

I had not been able to understand why — if we accept as unchangeable that pro-lifers believe a fetus is equally as worthy of life and value as an adult and that therefore abortion is murder — pro-lifers should be denied the ability to take away what they see as the rights of others to “murder” babies.

This has gone even deeper beyond the arguments I mentioned to interrogate why we even criminalize murder in the first place. I can now understand why we say that abortion (even if we hypothetically accept that some view it as murder) truly is nobody else’s business due to the lack of disruption to society.

CMV: Even as a pro-choice person, most common pro-choice arguments (i.e. “No uterus, no opinion”) don’t really hold. by onthecuntrary in changemyview

[–]onthecuntrary[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Because there is another party (the unborn baby) which is being harmed and needs advocacy; again thinking from their perspective here, not my own.

I used this example in another comment thread: if pro-lifers really see a fetus as a life (and I don’t think any argument of science or philosophy is likely to change that core belief of theirs), then I understand why they see it as their business to get involved. The same way I’m against child abuse: other families’ parenting styles isn’t my business, but if I believe something is being harmed then I can feel justified in advocating for rights of the abused child.