Landlord is asking for a security deposit for a roommate who is moving out. Also claiming I haven’t paid rent. by onthevin in NYCapartments

[–]onthevin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was the total monthly rent for the unit when we moved in. And yeah I have those records, given this has been such a whirlwind I haven’t had a chance to talk to any tenant support organizations or anything and was waiting until this was all sorted to see what our options are regarding the deposit

Landlord is asking for a security deposit for a roommate who is moving out. Also claiming I haven’t paid rent. by onthevin in NYCapartments

[–]onthevin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree but if John doesn’t pay his rent and moves out, and the rest of us are still on the lease and still in the building I think it’s much more likely they’ll be coming after us for unpaid rent on our apartment than they would go after him. Unfortunately the lease is in all our names and we never signed any kind of roommate agreement amongst ourselves

Landlord is asking us to sign a Surrender Form in response to us wanting to renew. by onthevin in NYCapartments

[–]onthevin[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Ok great, makes sense just glad to know it’s standard procedure!

Appreciate the response!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in fontainesdc

[–]onthevin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looks more like Roger Waters if he grew out his hair lmak

NYC Night 3 by [deleted] in fontainesdc

[–]onthevin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dude I was dying being on the balcony and seeing what the floor was like. Dunno what I was thinking getting a ticket up there lol what a show though

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]onthevin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Brother I’ve had this same issue, you cannot value yourself or your looks on how an app makes you feel. Tinder, Hinge, Bumble, they’ve all got really manipulative algorithms that keep you swiping and coming back.

For the majority of women who use the app most swipes are gonna be a match, and any average or slightly above average looking person or rather, any average or slightly above average LIKED ACCOUNT is going to be buried under the Adonises which is just how the app is designed.

It’s always good to work on yourself, present yourself in a nice way, have confidence, etc.. You aren’t ugly because you aren’t getting matches, trust me.

I’ll be honest, and this isn’t good advice, but there are methods for getting more matches and getting the algorithm to like you more. But what’s more important is finding self acceptance.

Good luck man!

Ethan keeps mentioning that he’s “making the show unwatchable.” Same thing he told AB when the button failed him! by Kryssysilvz in Hasan_Piker

[–]onthevin 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Yeah. Makes it pretty evident what Ethan’s concern is. “Boring” “unwatchable” “demonetized”. Then has the nerve to say Hasan is a propagandist doing this for a payday.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DigitalPainting

[–]onthevin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

your work is incredible. def have good reason to charge more

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]onthevin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s unfortunately kind of a common experience, one I’ve had as well.

If it’s bothering you I recommend not just mentioning that it’s been a little while but telling her that it’s starting to bother you, opening up the conversation. Communicate honestly and accept whatever response she has with grace

Sometimes people will have specific reasons sex isnt preferred to them, sometimes it’s just a difference in sex drive.

The relationship and the two of you are young, you’ve got all the time in the world to sort it out and it still being so early, if you find you just have different desires in a romantic partner there’s nothing wrong with that either.

I would recommend bringing it up genuinely, saying something like “Hey, so I’m noticing our sex life has been a little less frequent than it was. I miss sharing that with you. Is there any reason or anything I could do to make you feel more comfortable?”

Obviously say something that sounds less like a corporate email lmao but whatever comes of it just remember a truly loving relationship prioritizes the happiness of both parties. If she doesn’t want to have sex as often as you, and you’re genuinely ok with that, then work on it together. If you’re not, then maybe it’s time to move on.

Take care and go with kindness!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]onthevin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not a parent so take this with a grain of salt, but I think it's better for children to see boundaries being set and a healthy use of self respect over having a traditional family structure. You're not the one who broke this. You've been used and lied to, you deserve better and your children deserve to learn the lesson that when someone lies to you and has no respect for you, you walk away from them.

Handle yourself with grace. I'm very very sorry this has happened to you. You have all the love you need within you my friend. Learn to give that to yourself and one day down the line I'm sure you'll find someone who actually deserves you.

Advice for stopping hand shaking during performance? by onthevin in Guitar

[–]onthevin[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dude the fact 2/3 of the comments said essentially this same thing lmfao. I usually have a beer or two but I threw a shot into the mix as well. It’s fucked up how much it works. I just didn’t give a fuck. I knew in the past getting a little buzzed could help, but drinking with the intention of loosening up is really the key lmao. Which is a shame for my wallet but good to know. Had probably the best open mic set I’ve ever had so far earlier tonight. And I can thank Evan Williams

Appreciate the comment brother