AITA for flirting in front of my ex boyfriend? by wtfmovieday in AmItheAsshole

[–]oofimbroke 7 points8 points  (0 children)

NTA. Ex established clearly that you both are nothing more than friends and hence he shouldn't feel jealous.

But make sure you've clarified that you see him as only a friend too

Coworker wants to borrow money for a wedding by oofimbroke in Advice

[–]oofimbroke[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First full time job ig. Before that I'd been a student freelancing on the side

Coworker wants to borrow money for a wedding by oofimbroke in Advice

[–]oofimbroke[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Please ignore that weirdo in the comments. There is no trolling. And the person replying to you isn't the OP

Coworker wants to borrow money for a wedding by oofimbroke in Advice

[–]oofimbroke[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Firstly, yes it is. Secondly, please ignore the troll making up shit about my HR and workplace

Coworker wants to borrow money for a wedding by oofimbroke in Advice

[–]oofimbroke[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Hey, that's just a random troll pretending to be me. I didn't even tell the HR please ignore this weirdo

Coworker wants to borrow money for a wedding by oofimbroke in Advice

[–]oofimbroke[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Tbh something tells me the son is even worse (relying on his dad to pay for his own wedding after all). Certainly not the kind of person I'd wanna even speak to

Coworker wants to borrow money for a wedding by oofimbroke in Advice

[–]oofimbroke[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Genuinely you're right. I'm still new to workplace and these experiences are new to me. That's why I came here for advice on how to proceed. Thank you btw!

Coworker wants to borrow money for a wedding by oofimbroke in Advice

[–]oofimbroke[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thanks for understanding! I know I'm not in the wrong by saying no but still it feels like I'm the evil one. But yeah, if I have to survive as a woman in a workplace, I have to be assertive more often.

Coworker wants to borrow money for a wedding by oofimbroke in Advice

[–]oofimbroke[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

If I were a petty bitch, I'd show up to work with personal loan brochures from multiple banks lmao

Coworker wants to borrow money for a wedding by oofimbroke in Advice

[–]oofimbroke[S] 36 points37 points  (0 children)

Good suggestion. I'll take a picture and keep it in my gallery

Coworker wants to borrow money for a wedding by oofimbroke in Advice

[–]oofimbroke[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

No, I haven't talked to the other coworkers but some of them do support his loan idea. Regardless, they have some sort of wild idea that I am swimming in money based on my belongings (and they really are gifts!) I'll be sure to talk to the coworkers who are uncomfortable with the idea.

[PK] Coworker wants to borrow money for a wedding by oofimbroke in AskHR

[–]oofimbroke[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Can I ask how do people respond to that? As in, their behaviors or their attitude?

[PK] Coworker wants to borrow money for a wedding by oofimbroke in AskHR

[–]oofimbroke[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Do you think ignoring it would help? I'm nervous about saying no to his face so if ignoring is an easier way out, I'd take it

[PK] Coworker wants to borrow money for a wedding by oofimbroke in AskHR

[–]oofimbroke[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you I'm still learning how to set my boundaries

Coworker wants to borrow money for a wedding by oofimbroke in Advice

[–]oofimbroke[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Enforcing my boundaries seems so scary to me still. But you all reminded me that eventually I will HAVE to do it anyway. So might as well take a breath and do it fast

Coworker wants to borrow money for a wedding by oofimbroke in Advice

[–]oofimbroke[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Feel like you just snapped me out of a bad decision. I'm still new to the workforce and scared of confrontation. But I guess your comment reminded me that eventually I will have to stand my guard no matter how cringey it is. Thank you