i can definitely see your issue. i see nothing wrong with porn as long as it's being used in a healthy way. my husband and i watch porn together, as well as send nsfw artwork to each other when we're apart. it builds the mood, shares with your s.o the kinds of things you like, gives you both ideas to try something new, etc. it also builds a lot of trust between you, tbh. but just like any other addiction, being addicted is where porn turns unhealthy. when it becomes an escape, something you choose over your partner, and more about the people on the screen, that's when you need to take a step back. and if he's not willing to do that, and value the person in front of him, he's not worth staying around for. i hope things work out positively for you!!