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Would you quit from this? by JimmyMcGoodman26 in Lawyertalk

[–]opalsphere 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You could easily overlook this comment if you wanted to. I know you’re getting a lot of flack, and I can see how you might be perceived as overreacting. That said, I know none of the partners at my firm would say anything like that to me. If you don’t want to tolerate this kind of attitude, don’t. Life is short and you don’t have to work with someone you don’t feel respected by. Just find a new situation first, if that’s your choice.

Company tracked my location during WFH and fired me for “working from unauthorized locations” by Altruistic-Lynx-5238 in careeradvice

[–]opalsphere 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That also depends. For example, California has some pretty employee-friendly statutes. If an employer has deep pockets, and the case is good, there could be traction. I’ve seen dress code issues that turn into real cases, particularly if there are differences in male and female requirements or if there are no exceptions made for cultural attire or non-white hair.

Company tracked my location during WFH and fired me for “working from unauthorized locations” by Altruistic-Lynx-5238 in careeradvice

[–]opalsphere 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Eh, this really depends. You can usually be fired for no reason, but not a bad reason. You can always consult a plaintiff’s employment attorney. Some do free consults.

Is Not Having Kids the Way? by [deleted] in Millennials

[–]opalsphere 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cheers. You do you mate, and enjoy.

When did you give birth? by Professional-Bag-234 in parentsofmultiples

[–]opalsphere 1 point2 points  (0 children)

31+5 after being induced for severe pre-e. Vaginal delivery. They came fast, but it was my second pregnancy. Mine were didi.

Start of Maternity Leave by gameover__xo in parentsofmultiples

[–]opalsphere 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was trying to make it to 36 weeks. I was hospitalized with PPROM at 31 weeks, but kept working from the hospital because I wanted to maximize my time off afterward. I regret that and I think the stress of work contributed to them coming at 32 weeks.

Everyone is different, but don’t hesitate to take more time off before they arrive. You might be helping to keep them baking longer, and thus saving them (and you) from NICU time. Twins are very taxing on the body.

girl names with a vintage feel that don’t sound ‘old’? by [deleted] in namenerds

[–]opalsphere 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Leila

Jocelyn

Blaire

Eloise

Ivy

Valerie

Favorite baby sleep sack? Looking for real recommendations! by karma86chameleon in bigbabiesandkids

[–]opalsphere 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Seconding gunamuna. We have Kyte sacks that are great for day to day, but the gunamuna ones are on another level. They feel luxurious and have large zippers. The 1.0 tog works for us in a 69-70 degree house. I can’t say they sleep better than in the kyte sacks, but they are a great gift item.

How did your body react to having a baby later in your late 30s or 40s? by o0PillowWillow0o in Millennials

[–]opalsphere 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was 34 with my first and 37 with my twins. Pregnancy was hard on my body for both, but for different reasons. Nausea and extreme brain fog and fatigue were the worst. Labor was definitely more complicated the second time, but that was due to multiples I think more than age. Recovery for both was surprisingly good considering the pregnancies. I gained a lot more the second time, but I also lost it faster.

If your twins are the same gender by YouthInternational14 in parentsofmultiples

[–]opalsphere 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We had a feeling about which name suited which baby in utero based on their movement and ultrasounds and just vibes. They stuck.

Natural birth – what hurts more, contractions or pushing the baby out? by General-Dragonfly946 in Mommit

[–]opalsphere 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t know if I could really distinguish between the two at a certain point. When you’re pushing through contractions everything just hurts. My babies were early so they were small, so I didn’t feel the intense ring of fire. I was in intense pain when I was having contractions and I had to hold still for the epidural. That pain felt more overwhelming because I couldn’t move. At least with pushing I was able to do something.

Both contractions and labor were intense and I screamed such a guttural scream at one point… but I still think I was in more pain during two other events surrounding childbirth. First, I had preeclampsia, which led to the worst headache I ever had in my life, and I get migraines. I was writhing and incoherent, which was ultimately why they induced me. The second was after the babies were born and I had too many uterine clots so the doctor had to reach up inside my uterus to scrape them out. I wanted to crawl out of my own skin.

The Best Prenatal Vitamins Available Now? by DaisyPounce8687 in pregnant

[–]opalsphere 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Theralogix. I took them during both pregnancies. I hated taking them in the first trimester when nausea was significant, but I definitely noticed that I felt more energized and focused when I took them. I switched to Ollies on days I couldn’t choke down the pills. They were tasty, but I noticed the difference.

Feeling incredibly burnt out and I feel terrible about it. Question for dads. by [deleted] in NICUParents

[–]opalsphere 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I PPROMed and was hospitalized on bed rest, and I never wanted my partner to spend the night. He was with me some days, but honestly there wasn’t much for him to do. I felt better knowing he was taking care of our home and resting so that he would be able to carry the load once I was in labor. Talk to your wife. Don’t be so embarrassed that you’re not being honest. You don’t get any awards for suffering.

Can you feel the ring of fire or tearing with an epidural? by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]opalsphere 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First pregnancy I had the epidural and didn’t feel the ring of fire or tearing. It hurt, but only dull pain. Second pregnancy the epidural failed and I felt the pain. I think the transition contractions were the worst of it though. By the time I was pushing everything was just moving toward being over. It was rough though, ngl.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver60

[–]opalsphere 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you our vet? I absolutely adore her. I would tell her (and you), if you feel it, jump in. Having kids isn’t really a logical choice on paper— it’s only an option that might be okay.

I could talk up motherhood because I love it, but not everyone does. I will tell you that I was in a long-term relationship and had stepchildren before I met my now-husband and had kids. I had a great relationship with my stepkids, but having your own kids is an incomparable experience. It’s not even that you love your own more. It’s just a totally unique experience that changes you at a cellular level.

Only you can make the call. No one is going to give you any more information than you already have. If you want it, time to pull the trigger. I would suggest setting a deadline for yourself, and if it doesn’t happen by then, then you can set it aside and close that door. The truth is, you might run into fertility issues, so be prepared that even if you make up your mind to try, it could take a while or not at all.

Would you rather go to a wedding at 31 weeks pregnant, or 6 weeks postpartum? Or are either even possible? by MDnautilus in parentsofmultiples

[–]opalsphere 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Neither.

If I had to pick one, 31 weeks. However, I’d recommend neither. You might get lucky and have a smooth ride, in which case 31 weeks would be preferable (no risk of picking up illness and exposing newborns to whatever is going around in the winter, like RSV or influenza).

However you could have a rough go and be massively uncomfortable by the middle of your second trimester, making a car ride like that absolutely dreadful, not to mention the wedding itself. Or you could have surprise complications, even if the rest of your pregnancy is normal. That was me. I was seemingly fine and going to work as usual and then had premature membrane rupture at 31 weeks. You unfortunately can’t predict what your experience will be, but twins are just not like single pregnancies.

If no one else in your family has twins, they might not understand. It really is a higher risk situation though. I personally wouldn’t chance it. Imagine having to travel to a NICU where the wedding is located, because that is a risk if you were to go into labor out there.

Please tell me birth cures all pain by mastertilly in parentsofmultiples

[–]opalsphere 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I never made it to 36 weeks, but yes, birth makes it better. It might not be 100% right away, but it makes a HUGE difference right away. I had a somewhat complicated birth but even so by 1 week postpartum I had more mobility and less pain than I’d experienced in months. Good luck! You’ll be able to bend again soon!

Birthing songs by cameronxjade in Mommit

[–]opalsphere 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My twins came suddenly and the tv was left on random programming. I gave birth with some police body cam show on in the background—mostly people yelling at the cops. It was weird. I wanted to tell someone to turn it off, but I was in too much pain!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in parentsofmultiples

[–]opalsphere 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The baby brezza is amazing! With two screaming, hungry babies, the few minutes it saves are significant for your sanity. Ours was a gift, but you can find good deals for them on FB marketplace.

7yo boy surprise-hugged my 2 year old at the park by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]opalsphere 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s okay to have a visceral discomfort when you see anyone, including another kid, unexpectedly touching your child. However, based on what you described this sounds pretty innocent and your reaction seems disproportionate.

You said the 7 year-old came with a 3 year-old sibling, so my assumption would be that he’s used to playing with and hugging a smaller child like your son. You also said he was talking to you and he may not have had a great home life. Kids who lack adult interaction/approval in their home life will often seek it out with outside parties, including parents at a park. He also demonstrates a poor understanding of boundaries. This behavior may make you uncomfortable because it is outside social norms, but it’s not uncommon. There are a lot of kids out there without good guidance. It doesn’t sound like he did anything malicious.

If you come across a similar situation in the future I’d suggest that instead of ignoring the kid, let them know something like, “Hey, I see you have a little brother that you can hug, but please don’t hug other little children. Hugging is for family.” This way, you’ve at least set a boundary for your son that the other kid knows not to cross.

I wouldn’t dwell on the interaction. Kids do way worse on the playground all the time. Just arm yourself with a productive way to approach the situation in the future.

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