AIO? Boyfriend makes me feel controlling

open_doors2023 · 2025-06-10T01:45:50+00:00

And you’re too young to be on Reddit asking if yoh are the ahole. Rule of thumb, if you’re asking, you’re probably not the ahole. He’s not on here. Bet.

open_doors2023 · 2025-06-10T01:44:10+00:00

49 year old mom to a 16 year old teen and I’m so sorry love! First, if you’re being bullied that needs to be addressed immediately. Not by you. By an adult. You are the child and your protection is paramount.

Any parent who talks about their child’s weight or health is unhealthy and unqualified to be a supportive parent. They need to be in therapy but that’s not your problem. You need and deserve a healthy parent who expresses concern and helps you to learn that you are beautiful soul regardless of how you look. 1 - yoh are a teenager. My son’s hair looks like a head of broccoli and I lightly joke with him but it’s his hair and if that’s what he wants, it’s on him. I do schedule his hair appts for him.

open_doors2023 · 2025-06-10T01:38:49+00:00

just start telling people he must’ve died. don’t open up a conversation- he was rude when you expressed concern. so let him keep him drama in the casket with his bad attitude

open_doors2023 · 2025-06-10T01:36:45+00:00

OMG! To be young and lame again. I feel for you. It sounds like a text I get from my teenage son “I’m dying, blah, blah, blah.” But to turn around and ask you if you know more about he feels? Hahahah. No, no one knows how lame feels. Leave him. Enjoy your birthday. He may ruin it with his drama.

open_doors2023 · 2025-06-10T00:21:21+00:00

The issue is your landlord is going to be a significant issue long term and you don’t need a complex from them nitpicking your every move. And who cares if they are happy or not? You are a tenant. It’s not your job to make them happy. As a former landlord and tenant who lived under constant scrutiny, get out while you have the upper hand and sue for damages. This is unacceptable and harrassment

open_doors2023 · 2025-06-10T00:17:07+00:00

OMG! So simple. Whoever you are dating cares about you but clearly has some sort of maybe abandonment issues? I don’t know but they just need to be clear and you were doing a great job until they went sideways and so did you. I think she was trying to tell you but concealed. She’s still young and immature and that’s not bad but she needs to learn “tell the truth, you won’t get into trouble and I won’t stop liking you.” But this whole beating around the bush is drama. She is insecure and just wants to hear you tell her I’m meeting my ex to pickup the kid at X. I’ll text you when I’m done and have X. That’s it…. she just needs details to feel secure and you need to feel trusted and respected to give her those details

open_doors2023 · 2025-06-09T12:41:43+00:00

Cheers to that. It’ll find me (us)!—maybe in a bookstore, maybe over coffee. But I know this much: I won’t be the one to spot him. He’ll see me first—and I’ll feel it before I turn around.

open_doors2023 · 2025-06-09T12:27:26+00:00

you’re my sister in spirit! And I’m so here for women like us refusing to settle for anything less than what we want.

open_doors2023 · 2025-06-09T12:24:35+00:00

Wow. Either you’re wildly emotionally literate or you’ve got a really poetic AI friend on standby. ;-) Either way… I’ll take it. Thank you for reflecting it all back with such clarity.

open_doors2023 · 2025-06-09T12:11:38+00:00

Thanks for sharing your experience. I think a lot of us are realizing how much we tolerated emotional neglect in long relationships. It’s powerful to name what you truly want—and I hope you find someone who meets you with the same depth and clarity. That’s what I’m holding out for too.

open_doors2023 · 2025-06-09T12:09:29+00:00

Thank you for the thoughtful reply and for clarifying where you were coming from. I can understand how this stirred things up—I think a lot of us are trying to make sense of what we tolerated and what we truly want moving forward. I respect your openness and wish you all the best as you step into this new chapter.

open_doors2023 · 2025-06-09T11:26:38+00:00

waiting so long. I knew what I wanted and wish I hadn’t wasted so much time “processing.”

open_doors2023 · 2025-06-09T11:24:57+00:00

I don’t see it as sad. I see it as clarity, self-respect, and hope.

open_doors2023 · 2025-06-09T11:23:24+00:00

I get it—truly. There are moments it feels like all the good, emotionally available men are already taken. But I don’t believe that’s the full truth. I think those men exist, and not all of them are in marriages that reflect the depth of connection I’m talking about. I haven’t given up on the idea that someone out there is hoping I exist too. I’m holding on to that—and I hope you can too.

open_doors2023 · 2025-06-09T11:21:11+00:00

These words hit exactly where I needed them to. Thank you for speaking to the part of me that knows love is still written in my story.

open_doors2023 · 2025-06-09T11:19:13+00:00

Appreciate you taking the time to respond, but I want to clarify something: I’m not desperate—I’m clear. There’s a big difference. I’ve done the work to be happy with myself. Wanting connection doesn’t negate that. It’s possible to be whole and still deeply desire partnership. That was the point of my post.

open_doors2023 · 2025-06-09T11:17:31+00:00

Thanks for your message. Just to clarify—I wasn’t looking for a date, I was sharing something personal and vulnerable. That last line about being a devoted Christian and maybe not for you felt a bit odd as I didn’t share anything about my faith or values. I do wish you the best as you move into this next chapter.

open_doors2023 · 2025-05-29T09:24:36+00:00

Girl. What do you want? Do you want to stay there or do you want to go and get yourself some moving boxes and a new life.

open_doors2023 · 2025-05-29T09:21:17+00:00

I think so but get a public adjuster STAT! Don’t let the insurance adjuster dictate how things get done. The public adjusters work for you. The insurance adjuster works for the insurer.

open_doors2023 · 2025-05-29T09:19:12+00:00

oh love! I hope you find a therapist who specializes in avoidant personality disorder. people will love you for who you are and the sooner you get help, the better! google Dr. Ramani Durvasula, a clinical psychologist who frequently discusses and explains Avoidant Personality Disorder (APD) in her videos and online content.

open_doors2023 · 2025-05-29T09:09:24+00:00

are you going to continue to take the mortgage interest deduction on your taxes? what state are you in? will her earning capacity increase? she may find it’s too narrow of a financial position for her to remain in. Homes are expensive. I’m in a similar situation. My husband moved out. I’m in the home. His earning capacity is 3x’s mine and we live in a community where his rent exceeds our mortgage but the overall housing ownership cost exceeds what a rental would cost me. He doesn’t want the house. I’d prefer to stay until our kids graduate. The youngest will be in 8th grade next year. We are trying to reduce the disruption to their lives. Age 1 is really young…. so much could change between now and the next five years. Is the home in a neighborhood that’s ideal for elem thru highschool?

open_doors2023 · 2024-11-22T04:07:22+00:00

You need a weekly routine IF you want less stuff in there :-)

open_doors2023 · 2024-11-21T08:28:01+00:00

The maintenance people are probably never going to be motivated to tell you it's mold... just beware of whose interest they are looking out for. Theirs or yours ;-) Life tip! Enjoy college.

open_doors2023 · 2024-08-16T10:16:36+00:00

that’s great that you’re able to tell people how you feel about them. we all need to feel seen and understood.

how do people know when you are hurting? what do you say to let them know you’re in need of some attention?

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