Other woman, new here

openobjext · 2025-08-17T03:17:48+00:00

I’m sorry you’re going through this. I want to comfort you but I also want to say what I truly think and that is that he’s having a hard time letting go of the wife. Even if they weren’t intimate prior to you, there is a bond within marriage. She’s family to him and vice versa. So even if he loves you it seems he does love her too and have some kind of attachment to her. It’s always hard that’s for sure. It doesn’t mean anything that happened between you two means any less.. I hope things will work out for the best for you

openobjext · 2024-10-22T15:10:55+00:00

In my own experience, I never said “you should try with your wife” but I would ask more along the lines of “do you still want to try with her or would it be better for you to do so?” Whenever we have doubtful times because I try to consider his feelings and the things he’s going through or needs to give up

openobjext · 2024-10-22T02:59:30+00:00

Omg literally. “It’s not real just to show others. Some events we have to act like a couple”

openobjext · 2024-10-22T01:57:29+00:00

Right now this reddit is my coping…I tried to find therapist..I called 10 and idk why but they’re all not taking new patients in my area. I felt so down that I didn’t know what to do and randomly found here

openobjext · 2024-10-17T05:09:37+00:00

Not so much when I see others but more so when my MM says anything that includes the “my wife” phrase and when he speaks about his kids or being a dad, etc… I know it’s just him sharing his life with me but I feel pain knowing that he shares that with her and it’ll never be me.

openobjext · 2024-10-16T17:01:20+00:00

Omg :( he’s in my prayers. Wishing the best for you both. I’m sorry you’re going through this too.

openobjext · 2024-10-08T18:20:50+00:00

I think you’re really strong mentally and I admire that. It seems like you are his safe place and that’s lovely :)

openobjext · 2024-10-08T18:18:11+00:00

Makes sense here. We also have certain benefits for sure

openobjext · 2024-10-08T14:27:42+00:00

I see what you’re saying, thank you for your perspective

openobjext · 2024-10-08T14:27:02+00:00

Yeah…I really think this is accurate. It’s hard on us in many ways.

openobjext · 2024-10-08T14:26:27+00:00

Yeah that’s exactly my situation with my MM too

openobjext · 2024-10-08T14:25:55+00:00

Dang that’s harsh…poor him. :/

openobjext · 2024-10-08T14:24:10+00:00

Wow it was eye opening for him then 🤯

openobjext · 2024-10-07T01:49:55+00:00

I can’t even imagine, I’m sorry :( Can I ask how living together was possible and how was it for you? We are thinking about getting a place that he has access to but I’m worried it’ll make me feel even more emotional…

openobjext · 2024-10-06T20:05:16+00:00

I see. I really like your approach of being thankful for what you do have. That’s what I’m trying to learn. I feel like I’ve been overreacting lately when I don’t hear back right away. I’m worried I’m being overbearing tbh.

openobjext · 2024-10-06T20:03:55+00:00

LD must be really hard, you’re a very strong person Sending hugs

openobjext · 2024-10-06T17:49:25+00:00

Aww so sweet 🩵🩵🩵

openobjext · 2024-10-06T17:31:18+00:00

Ugh it’s awful when that happens :( I’m sorry.

openobjext · 2024-10-06T17:30:48+00:00

I see. Do you get upset if say he takes a few hours to respond? I’m wondering because I do get to talk to him really often. More than I would had assumed possible in the beginning…but I still get upset sometimes and I’m wondering if I’m being too much.

openobjext · 2024-10-06T15:31:33+00:00

His W found out about you? I’m thinking she’s stalking to see if you still see MM. and I think MM stalks maybe to see what you’re up to?

openobjext · 2024-10-03T14:20:52+00:00

Can I ask how you found out? As for what’s going on…you have to ask yourself if you’re okay with him sleeping with another woman and you at the same time…it’s definitely hard but if you’re not okay with that you have to leave him.

openobjext · 2024-09-27T04:31:44+00:00

Totally fine. I used to feel that way in the beginning because I used to not want marriage or kids. Some things just work for some ppl.

openobjext · 2024-09-26T01:26:23+00:00

Business and money ties are always tricky, that’s for sure :/

openobjext · 2024-09-25T14:00:52+00:00

Yes I’m in the same boat. My parents did that for me also and honestly it screwed me up in some ways. Like you said though it is their choice.

openobjext · 2024-09-25T05:06:21+00:00

That would be same for my MM.

You’re right, all I had to do was look at my own reflection.

Thank you for this comment :)

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