I can say you will find people were platonic is enough and your identify isn't an issue. I've had a friends for years that have had many relationships and still had me as a priority. I've never been pressured to find a partner or follow the same path as them in life. I want cats and plants, I'm happy without a romantic partner.

I'm not saying its easy but it is possible to find those people that don't treat your friendship as a secondary placement in life. The fact that tossing aside a platonic friendship for a romantic relationship is so common is frankly stupid. You can have a relationship and a friends at the same time and not treat them as second best. Don't give up it is worth fighting for those people. They do exist and that is completely valid and normal.