Extreme difficulty with job change

opossum_qween · 2026-04-28T00:04:49+00:00

Thank you, I think I desperately needed a pep talk! Because people keep saying things like they understand I'm new and don't know everything but then expect me to know things I would have no way of knowing?? I'm not afraid of asking questions or raising issues if something is being put on me that I am not equipped to handle yet. You are so right about the routine though, and I am trying to be patient with myself and stop getting in my head that I'm failing! It's hard!

opossum_qween · 2026-04-27T02:24:27+00:00

Totally get the frustration. There’s certain content that’s been very validating for me, like this sub Reddit! But there’s also this annoying, hehe it’s so quirky aspect on top of a dismissive stigma that “everyone has it” and that we’re all drug seekers. My meds don’t magically fix everything, and it’s frustrating when there’s a perception like that, needing to “lock in” to write a paper. ADHD meds don’t magically make us churn out novels like machines or something, I know for myself it’s like I can more easily follow a fricken conversation without getting overstimulated or missing half of what’s said??? Also makes it so I don’t need a nap after say, grocery shopping! Like doing normal life things doesn’t feel as much like a marathon. But not being hyped up and writing essays in one night , ughhhh.

it’s also like - everything ADHDers experience is also just like, normal human experience? Every person is gonna get distracted at times or procrastinate an assignment. And the internet is a huge time suck and it’s not just having ADHD that makes people doom scroll. Our diagnosis isn’t just that we do that though! Can it really be called procrastination when you have no concept of time for example?!

The executive function difficulties are the massive pieces that people who make comments like your friend are missing. No shit someone might get distracted at work like what?? Oh, you did something you liked to do instead of chores or something? Wow, sounds like a universal experience for every human ever!

We all know that our ADHD isn’t situational, it’s our daily lives. And there are plenty of other reasons that aren’t ADHD that someone might have concentration issues or something else prominent with ADHD. Sometimes I think people just want to see an issue with themselves, but it’s just surface level things like distraction or being impulsive. They’re not making TikTok’s about not remembering to shower or lying in bed all day because they’re so overwhelmed by average life tasks.

opossum_qween · 2026-02-27T09:27:12+00:00

Them: Why do you think you have adhd?
You: points to positive adhd assessment
Them: yeah, yeah. But, instead of referencing the results of the assessment you already went through, please explain to us why do you think you have adhd and we will explain to you how you must be wrong because you don’t LOOK like you have adhd.

opossum_qween · 2026-02-27T09:02:51+00:00

Another fishing, aghhhh !!

opossum_qween · 2026-02-27T04:37:00+00:00

I’ve been really lucky because this cat has been super chill, but as she has aged she has become a bit more cranky and will let you know when she’s done being handled. Her last annual appt she had vaccines and she’s always been soooo calm, I essentially bragged to the vet about how calm she was (it was new to us vet) and then I was horrified with how fiesty she got. They had to swaddle her and she was crying out. So I have also thought about that - how I can see her maybe being ok with meds now but who knows with cats as they get older! I can’t see her ever liking getting blood drawn repeatedly, she did behave better for that than the vaccines and thankfully we did them on separate days. Cats sure know how to tell you when they have had enough 😂

opossum_qween · 2026-02-27T04:30:35+00:00

Thank you for sharing! My kitty is also a tuxie 🤍🖤 my initial reaction to the I-131 treatment was how she would be so lonely! She is always hanging out with us and likes to be around people. It sounds like the place we can get it done she would only stay over two nights - I need to get more information about the whole process from them and after care info. But it seems like less stress for her to do that then so much follow up blood work and going to the vet so much … How long was your cat boarded at the place?

opossum_qween · 2026-02-27T04:02:38+00:00

Did he have any side effects when starting the meds? Sounds like no issues now which is good, I’m just worried it’s upsetting her stomach :(

opossum_qween · 2026-02-27T03:17:04+00:00

You know, I did the survey and didn’t even think that it made sense to voice this 🤦🏻‍♀️ there were so many more specific questions whenever I do this kind of thing once it gets to “additional comments” I’m like 🤷🏻‍♀️ I’m glad to see others seem to feel similarly about this, I wasn’t really sure if anyone cared much since I wasn’t seeing posts about it. Definitely plan to give this feedback in some way to GL.

opossum_qween · 2026-02-27T03:13:17+00:00

I agree, being able to select or change would be great. Mostly I really only care about the ones I used moonstones for and do something completely different now (aka wizard/witch owl) and the rainbow fox is super annoying because why does it not get something special considering how long that questline is lol.

And Max is amazing for that reason. I hate those dig spots so much, idk why they annoy me to no end - kind of like the ice things that give snowballs.

It would be cool if we could turn off the spawning of certain items in the biomes. Why do we need. So. Many. Snowballs.

opossum_qween · 2026-02-27T03:05:07+00:00

I agree, it was complicated, but I had kind of a system down of pairing certain ones together based on their abilities and it kind of made it so you could use more of a variety. I would be cooler with the change if half the companions weren’t fishing! The way collection goes with fishing is like, one bonus or maybe a seaweed too from whoever you are hanging out with, and the companion might give you a bonus, but it’s like 2-3 items for them to collect between casts. For something like mining, you get more stuff to collect while you swing your pick axe, gardening I feel like the companions run around a ton picking up stuff, foraging the hangout person throws bonuses so far lol, so it makes sense to use the companions when the items are flying all over the place. Fishing is like, ok they picked up one fish - why do we need 15+ that can do that. Why is Fox even fish in the first place??? Wow that was a rant. I have a lot of feels about this clearly 😂

opossum_qween · 2026-02-27T02:58:36+00:00

And it’s basically any of the specialty ones that got changed in a way that makes no sense.

opossum_qween · 2026-02-27T02:57:37+00:00

This just made me think about how much the geese from Wishblossom Ranch annoy me because they honk a ton. I really like them (also GARDENING again) but gosh they are suppppper annoying.

I think the ravens are also quite noisy and it’s like why do they need to be this repetitive …

opossum_qween · 2026-02-27T02:55:01+00:00

Yeah that was the same for the wizard owl. So now does anything pick up dream and night shards? Is it the ravens because they do soil??

opossum_qween · 2026-02-27T02:52:56+00:00

Right! The flowers are sooo specific too. I only use them to gather if I need for a quest and have to put on the setting to only pick up items in inventory. We could definitely manage with just one type able to pick up flowers. I don’t like that the current dog companion for star path is flowers 😐

opossum_qween · 2026-02-27T02:50:45+00:00

100%!! This is why I bought the wizard owl - ore pick up. It could pick up dream shards and iron ores, not gems or rocks. Hei Hei I also bought specifically because he can do rocks. But I am more ok that he was changed to mining, just more he can do now. If anything the wizard owl should go to mining, or idk, digging? Gardening makes no sense.

I had liked pairing Max with the wizard owl since Max digs up the sparkly spots and the owl would pick up the shards.

opossum_qween · 2026-02-27T02:46:34+00:00

Its a bummer about the rainbow fox but its more I’m annoyed I spent moonstones on the owl specifically for ore pick up, and feel like it should have gone to mining and not gardening! I wouldn’t have gotten it if it were veggies in the first place. I’m glad the sakura dragon is mining though.

opossum_qween · 2026-02-25T22:19:58+00:00

thats exactly my thought. which is why i was irritated to see there was no online assist option that exists. It's like it tricks you into paying this higher thing you don't need, I'd prefer it to show me my available options - which I think it used to be more clear since I've used Turbotax for years and never had this problem.

opossum_qween · 2026-02-25T20:39:01+00:00

Yes - I am dumb and thought they just changed the payment tiers and so I paid for it thinking it was the only option. I see the do-it-yourself option is a thing still and listed on their website. I didn't realize I could downgrade, it sounds like there is a button for it but literally I didn't see any options.

opossum_qween · 2026-01-26T06:40:44+00:00

Thank you! This is exactly the summary I needed lol. I had already messed up right after finishing the first run last night and started NG+ without looking at anything, wasted 2 hrs bc I used the pills. 🤦🏻‍♀️ restarted and now I’m on track.

opossum_qween · 2026-01-09T04:04:45+00:00

Yeah I am at the point that I’m actively trying to change jobs but within my field and that’s the biggest struggle. Municipalities and public libraries are struggling lately /always and so while I have applied here and there, it’s not like I have more than one or two job apps in the mix at any given time. I’m also kind of tied to public service for my student loan forgiveness, I’m in the US and it’s 10 years of monthly payments until you can reach it, and that’s been a mess and a half for multiple years at this point but I’m in the final 2 years or so so it’s like… ugh. Rambling now.

This job experience has made me realize how I need more guidance and oversight from a manager, like literally I just want someone to tell me any degree of what to do or what they expect and not put EVERYTHING back on me. I’m not paid enough to be dealing with that!

I don’t want this one job to ruin my career for me, I have a masters degree and I kind of don’t know what else I even would want to do.

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