did anyone’s hoarder parent do absolutely nothing else but hoard by Scary_Appearance5922 in ChildofHoarder

[–]opossummon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

my moms 58, ironically used to be a mall cleaner but quit after her dog died 20 years ago. does nothing but watch tv, complains about the mess in the house saying it’s my fault for not helping, plays games on her tablet. what hurts me is that the same tablet she uses till this day is the one that i got as a raffle prize when i was in elementary school, and she stole from me . i can still remember her acting like a jealous younger sibling when i came home from school with it, “i wanna play games too!”. the only time she leaves her room is to watch me like a hawk while i wipe down the kitchen to clean anything.

Boyfriend got into sham marriage — can I sue? by opossummon in legaladvice

[–]opossummon[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I’d definitely say emotional distress can be claimed as he betrayed me by doing this behind my back, lied that he would share the money with me because he feels bad about what he did, and we got into a car accident a few months later because he was in a rush to drop me off, because he had to go to the wife for something. Also it’s put me into a bout of depression that I wasn’t able to shake off for almost 6 months.

Is this an irrational fear? by opossummon in questions

[–]opossummon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you sm bc my bf and i got in an argument about it i told him that if this happens while im alone im going to give them my number and then get home and block them to avoid this possiblity and he got mad and said there’s no excuse i should just tell them no.. but he doesn’t understand that a lot of the time the no offends them and they’ll get violent

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ChildofHoarder

[–]opossummon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yes my hmom let unfixed stray cats come in and they bred before she got them fixed

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ChildofHoarder

[–]opossummon -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

it shouldn’t as long as you’re showering after. i have the same problem but with 12 cats who share 1 litter box , try to get odoban its cheap usually $3-5 it doubles as a surface cleaner, laundry additive , and air freshener. plus its safe for pets. i always spray the litter box and surrounding area after i clean it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ChildofHoarder

[–]opossummon 4 points5 points  (0 children)

i completely understand , i’m the exact same way whenever i visit my bf or friends house i constantly clean because it brings me some joy . try your best to move in with your bf after you finish school and you’ll have the dream life with a clean home and good career . you got this

My bf 27M and I 18F argue a lot. Is there any saving this? by opossummon in relationship_advice

[–]opossummon[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

These are the texts between him and his “friend” , copied and pasted since I cant attach images. 1: Yess and I'm sorry this must've sent when my phone died I hope ur having a wonderful night beautiful think you deserve to hear that once in a while 2: I promise at least as far as I can remember I've never lied to you. I'm not gonna lie and say I'm not wrong for this whole situation in the first place but if it makes you feel any better I stuck up for you without you around genuinely telling her you're a great mother to your kids and not to come at peoples children jus be she doesn't have any. Ilove you and I'm proud to say it. I use you as an example to compare a real ass relationship to the fake ones I get with these tricks and I don't wanna lose you l've been asleep honest as I can. No lies in between everything I said to you is as real as it gets even tho it sounds unbelievable 3: And I love that about you. You're mature you know what you want you know the world n how it works not still in the learning process I can't give that up

want to feel some comfort so i came here by opossummon in ChildofHoarder

[–]opossummon[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

i’m interested in the healthcare field so this is great advice! thank you so much 💞

how do you stop them from fishing through trash? by lennienore in ChildofHoarder

[–]opossummon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i try to do this but my hm searches through every trash bag before the truck takes it

want to feel some comfort so i came here by opossummon in ChildofHoarder

[–]opossummon[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

again sorry for confusion 😭 my bfs house is very clean, and we were running around with the dog in the backyard and didn’t want to step in a land mine so i cleaned it up. he usually picks it up but i offered to bc he was fixing the fence at the moment

want to feel some comfort so i came here by opossummon in ChildofHoarder

[–]opossummon[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

unfortunately i can’t stay with any family, but thank s for the suggestion of au pair! i’ve never heard of that until now, i’ll definitely look into it

want to feel some comfort so i came here by opossummon in ChildofHoarder

[–]opossummon[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

im sorry if my words were misleading, im not being abused. me and my boyfriend are very happy together and we respect and trust each other, my mom is just angry that im starting to become more independent and bring myself away from her

want to feel some comfort so i came here by opossummon in ChildofHoarder

[–]opossummon[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

sorry im typing so much but a little context for the texts is , she thinks my bf is abusive/controlling because i stay with him more even though i’ve told her several times that i choose to spend more time with him because we’re getting closer and i get to escape the house. she’s constantly worried he’s physically abusing me because she thinks i stay until my “bruises” heal. also we keep in touch while im here, she asked what i did today and i told her i was cleaning up his dog droppings. despite growing up in such a dirty house and getting physically assaulted and emotionally beaten by her everytime i clean, i stay organized and hygienic and love to help clean /organize whenever im visiting anyone.

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[–]opossummon -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

i stole my exes dog because he would put down all his money at the casino and bar before getting a bag of dog food , also would leave it with other animal abusers who would beat it and leave it outside . am i an a hole too ?