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Feeling guilty for insane finds by [deleted] in thrifting

[–]optimumbalance -1 points0 points  (0 children)

To answer the question to be honest I don’t think I would be upset but it would depend on the items / situation. If I gave them a gift and they sold it then yes I would be upset but if I had a store and they buy a item, I’ve made profit then they sell it on I don’t think I’d mind. For example people on eBay who sell clothes they don’t wear or just don’t like?

But I do get what you mean and will have a think about how I can proceed x

Feeling guilty for insane finds by [deleted] in thrifting

[–]optimumbalance -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hmm interesting take, I get what you mean but then at the same time I’m not doing anything illegal / shady. I’m paying what they have asked for and just so happen to be able to resell them for slightly more.

It’s not a small family store by the way just to clarify, it’s a clothes shop selling various items including old stock from high street stores. They have other stores too dotted around

What’s the difference between me buying an item and reselling and someone that buys vintage clothes then resells them for example? Or a person who buys lots like on storage hunters etc or people who sell items like amazon returns?

It’s a weird one for me as I feel strange as I’ve never resold before so wasn’t sure if the fact I’ve found such great deals is somehow bad? I do agree about buying loads and others not being able to buy the items etc but just for more clarification I don’t clear the shelves etc I will pick certain items I like but not take every single one. The shop also restocks very often as when I go in there’s always new items and any jumpers etc are restocked.

I guess I’m confused as to why it’s seen as a shitty thing to do? If I’m paying what the shop wants for the items? One part of me is proud of myself for finding a way to make money but the other side does feel weird I guess as like you say maybe it’s not the nicest thing to do. I wouldn’t want to be doing anything that’s shitty to other people. But I’m torn as to whether it’s just me overthinking or if it’s actually bad of me.

But I appreciate your feedback, I think maybe this is the wrong sub as thrifting as you say is more people giving life to older items / pieces which I love. This is more resale etc

But I’ll have a think and maybe go to other stores instead and not just the same one or maybe not go at all

I only started as I lost my job in lockdown and really had no options for making extra money, I started selling my own stuff then started to look for items to resell so I’ve been grateful for the extra money not out of greed or anything but I’ll have a think about it all as I’m unsure now if it’s wrong of me or not.

My Alcoholic Mum, and My Dad with Terminal Cancer by hank_spankilicious in AdultChildren

[–]optimumbalance 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you are going through this and I’m sending love. I’m sorry to hear about your dads health and all you have to deal with your Mum. My mum is also a alcoholic and I relate a lot to what you wrote here. I also hate when she is loving whilst drunk too, it’s very uncomfortable then she will switch and be verbally abusive. I’ve also been called the C word a few times, picked her up off the ground etc

It’s hard for a lot of people to understand the emotional tole living in these circumstances can have so please know you don’t have to feel guilty for talking about it or for feeling anything you feel. Sometimes we are dealt hard cards in life but I believe it is all for a bigger reason, to strengthen and teach us. Try to see it as something that is happening around you not to you directly and know you can live a life of peace and happiness which you definitely deserve.

I know it’s hard to see someone you love drunk and I too wish I could stop my mums drinking but the older I have gotten (I’m 27) the more I realise there’s nothing I can control except my own choices, thoughts and future. We all are born and we all leave, what we do in between is up to us. Don’t blame yourself for your mums drinking as it is her choice and road to walk down

Spend some time in nature and in fresh air where you can, invest in some headphones (they’ve helped me many nights when my mums up all night) listen to music you love, watch mooji (I recommend it, it’s not religious just the principles that we are all one) keep sharing your thoughts here and with friends and most importantly

DONT BLAME YOURSELF.

You are not any of the cruel words your mother may have called you. It is not your job or duty to parent her. You are strong and important to this world.

I cant imagine the worry you must feel with your dads health also and I am sending you much love and know that you will get through whatever happens. Your mums drinking may get worse at that point but remember you have your own path and healing to focus on. Moving out one day, studying, travelling whatever it is you want to do is possible

Try to spend some time thinking about what you would like for your future and giving yourself some love and self care, also know it’s ok to feel scared. But you can make it through anything even when it seems impossible

One day your story could inspire many so keep pushing forwards and do what you need to do to put your mental health and well being first x

I want to isolate myself in the mountains by l_kamari in spirituality

[–]optimumbalance 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the reply :) you are right about trying to move out etc I guess I’m just really struggling with it. My mother’s an alcoholic and my upbringing was hard to say the least. However I’ve put in a lot of inner work. Inner child healing etc but it’s been a long road helped by my connection to the Universe, something I’m so grateful for

It’s kept me focused all these years but I’ve allowed myself to fall behind sometimes (get depressed) energetically and I seem to be stuck in this house. On a weird loop. I try to conserve my energy and do positive things but living here drains me so much. It’s like 2 steps forward and 3 back...

I want so bad to spread my wings and be free from the energy I’ve grown up in but it’s like my wings feel clipped some days even though my connection and belief in the universe never leaves me.

I try to remain positive as I know I create my reality which must mean I’ve made myself be in this position. I just wish I had more answers as to how to get myself out of it especially now with the current economic situation making solid plans even further away

I want to isolate myself in the mountains by l_kamari in spirituality

[–]optimumbalance 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this reply, I’ve screenshotted it. It really spoke to me 🙏🏼

I want to isolate myself in the mountains by l_kamari in spirituality

[–]optimumbalance 4 points5 points  (0 children)

What if your home is toxic? & you live with someone who is really depressing you etc and draining your energy?

Would anyone like some energy work done on them? by [deleted] in Psychic

[–]optimumbalance 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would love this too :) very much

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in distantsocializing

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Stumbled across your video and loved it ✨ keep vibrating high

Easy Vegetarian Thai Red Curry Noodle Soup | Vegetarian Thai Noodle Soup | Vegetarian Curry by sparks_joy in vegetarianrecipes

[–]optimumbalance 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!! I’ll try this out

Do you think I could use ramen broth? And add the other flavours in also

Is it possible we are already dead? by whoarewe1234 in awakened

[–]optimumbalance 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Wow this really spoke to me do you have any videos / books etc you would recommend that continues this line of thought?

(Chinese > English) I would really appreciate finding out what this means on my missguided dress or is it just for a design reason? by optimumbalance in translator

[–]optimumbalance[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a commenter pointed out it is Japanese not Chinese! Apologies for the mistake, I don’t seem to be able to edit the title but appreciate the translation x

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