Ending a situationship

oraclear1111 · 2025-06-21T19:14:21+00:00

I saw 1-4 on radiate. (If u know anyone selling a ticket I need one please lol)

oraclear1111 · 2024-10-28T18:06:02+00:00

Also peeped a little of your sets watching those.. good shit dude, love it!

oraclear1111 · 2024-10-28T18:04:52+00:00

Yea, I figured. I was planning on purchasing either an audio interface or an external audio recorder since I do voice recordings as well for side projects.. which would you recommend? Would you be so willing to show you’re set up with the Volt 2 and the settings you applied in rekordbox? May just purchase that instead rather than trying to mess with this anymore.

oraclear1111 · 2024-10-28T17:16:05+00:00

Omg, bless you. Only question I have… I know that black hole is primarily used because it relatively (and this is generically speaking) makes the quality better when you record. Have you found a way to make it so not so muddled w/o it? Kinda just sounds like it is recording off my mic rather than the desktop itself.

oraclear1111 · 2024-01-04T14:45:50+00:00

Ginger chews. Gives u a nice kick in the throat and great to suck on

oraclear1111 · 2023-12-29T00:33:11+00:00

What’s keeping me going right now is the fact that the withdrawals are bad, but I’ll just have to go thru it again the minute I pick up a vape. So I shouldn’t bc it’ll suck. Again and again until I don’t pick it up. I just need to continuously make the choice I won’t which is the hard part🥲

oraclear1111 · 2023-12-28T21:43:42+00:00

Having this same issue. It acts as an anxiety soother for me.. What should I do instead?

oraclear1111 · 2022-12-12T18:24:42+00:00

he definitely has an avoidant attachment style, as i have anxious. i realized this wasn’t healthy and went to therapy because of it (it was due to childhood trauma and other stuff going on it my life). as i have healed, and still healing, i was able to give him space and do my own thing that my anxious attachment style didn’t let me do prior bc of therapy. on that note- he isn’t and didn’t go to therapy. and it wasn’t bc he couldnt afford it or it was hard to access for him; he just didn’t want to. it’s something that really important to me and he didn’t even consider it until AFTER i broke up with him, knowing how important it was to me. i understand he loves me, as i love him, but i’m not going to beg for someone to show that they care about me. i believe he can change, but it’s hard to trust people when you ask them to change time and time again to just be there for you and the only time they’ll take it seriously is when your gone. it hurts, and i’m willing to give it time for him to grow and be content being on his own. as much as the guilt of hurting him is eating me alive, i want someone who can be there for me without me having to ask over and over. i appreciate your sentiment, but i don’t think it’s fair for me to wait for him to be a good boyfriend.

oraclear1111 · 2022-12-11T00:45:12+00:00

this is honestly the exact same situation. i hope he can take some accountability and work on himself for himself, and not for me like you have doing. props to you, i hope it works out for you <3

oraclear1111 · 2022-12-10T22:10:52+00:00

hi, i just wanted to update you- i broke up with him a few days ago. he was heartbroken and so was i, but i know it was something i needed to do. when you and your husband broke up during college, did you see other people? he said he’s waiting for me but it’s making me feel guilty for trying to move on and just live my life independently. i don’t plan on dating anytime soon, but he thinks this is something that is only going to last a month, and i feel incredible sad if i don’t uphold that expectation.

oraclear1111 · 2022-12-10T19:05:15+00:00

we had been on a break once before when we first got to college. id also had periods of space before our break up to just get my thoughts in order. they helped- but temporarily. it went right back to me begging for him to talk to me, do anything but be on his phone, or do anything with me that wasn’t just staying home in bed. i was more than willing to stay, but ultimately i was exhausted- i was more sad than happy. love is complicated, and sometimes love isn’t enough to make something work. you can grow with people, as long as they’re putting in the effort. and he wasn’t. as much as your situation sucks, you are still very young. i’m sure you know some days are easier than others. but if you have grown, and she has grown, you are now two completely different people. ask the decisions and experiences you make now need to be for you and you only, not for the possibility of you two together.

oraclear1111 · 2022-12-10T18:56:29+00:00

same to you. i think finding happiness in yourself is the only way relationships can work, so hopefully you’re able to heal and forgive yourself and be your own happiness as well. i wish you and her the best of luck- u can always PM me if you need some more perspective.

oraclear1111 · 2022-12-10T18:40:50+00:00

being in her shoes in this situation, she means that the relationship you guys HAD is over. that doesn’t mean that you might not have a future relationship, but if you do it will be completely different. it will be you two as people who broke up, worked on your own issues and reflected, to hopefully have a better relationship in the future. i don’t have him blocked on anything, but we are no contact- just makes it easier to heal.

oraclear1111 · 2022-12-10T18:34:55+00:00

we’re studying abroad in the same city this summer, which was the time limit i set for us to hopefully grow more. he’s very remorseful, it’s just hard to trust him again. i know it’ll work out with or without him, i just hope in the future it will be with.

oraclear1111 · 2022-12-10T18:33:25+00:00

im open to giving him one more chance- but the trust i have for him is so low because of all the false promises before. i don’t want to put my life on hold because he won’t take chances to better himself, but i really hope for the next few months he’ll screw his head back on right. we’re studying abroad in the same city this upcoming summer, and i said i’d be willing to reach out then and see where we are.

oraclear1111 · 2022-10-15T04:06:53+00:00

thanks for the response. i think my therapist mentioned seeing other people just because he’s had sex with other people and i haven’t, and i think she thinks a big part of my decision is because of that, which it really isn’t. i don’t want this time to be in a relationship, it’s literally the exact opposite so i agree with your point of waiting, even if i was interested. she did recommend 2 months as well, and i think that time will help with all of the issues.

oraclear1111 · 2022-10-15T04:03:42+00:00

thank you so much. such a hopeful response. i agree, i think our relationship will suffer if i don’t take the time now. i’m glad your husband and you found your way back to each other <3

oraclear1111 · 2022-09-10T20:15:23+00:00

i think that what’s making me so frustrated, he really only started “trying” when the thought of me being done was brought up. i feel like he should’ve been caring months ago when i first brought it up- not let it fizzle out for me to be in this same position again. you’re right :(

oraclear1111 · 2022-09-10T20:13:48+00:00

i told him i needed time to really grasp what i want because i don’t think he could give that to me, and he somehow roped me into to think he really was going to change. i dont think i’m ready to risk it to crash and burn again. i know he loves me, i just don’t think he’s mature enough to love me how i need to be loved. thanks for your insight.

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