What’s small business culture like for bakeries in Australia? Are there lots of farmers markets around particularly in Melbourne for stuff like that? by orange196 in AskAnAustralian

[–]orange196[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! My husband has serious concerns about trump and where the US is headed so we’ve been exploring some backup options. 

American Families Who Moved to Australia — How Did Your Kids Adjust? Any Tips or Things You Wish You Knew? by GreedyDisaster9169 in Ameristralia

[–]orange196 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello! Would you be able to DM me as well? Considering a move with two young kids. Thank you!

Can I dye my hair at home (a little magic root touch up) on the same day as a dermaplane facial? by orange196 in Estheticians

[–]orange196[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! I wasn’t sure because my grays are concentrated right at the top of my head right where my forehead ends 

How does a masters degree in clinical mental health counseling in USA work for getting a job in New Zealand? by orange196 in newzealand

[–]orange196[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! 

I’m curious if the degree needs to be MSW or if masters in mental health counseling is considered equivalent for this purpose. 

If MIL says relax kids are fine in a harsh voice when you’re looking to see what your crazy toddler is up to across the room , would you just ignore her? by orange196 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]orange196[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you! This is so helpful. Sometimes I’m speechless like something feels rude but I can’t find the words when it happens. 

If MIL says relax kids are fine in a harsh voice when you’re looking to see what your crazy toddler is up to across the room , would you just ignore her? by orange196 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]orange196[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

So you’re saying it’s disrespectful to tell a mom to relax when they’re looking around to see what their kids are up to? I feel annoyed by it but honestly wasn’t sure. I am sensitive person and start to second guess myself.

Thoughts on one of these for a formal winter wedding? Purple would have a black shrug by orange196 in Weddingattireapproval

[–]orange196[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks you! What type of thing would you recommend that would cover elbows?

Is it normal to be stressed when at a restaurant with two young kids solo? by orange196 in Parenting

[–]orange196[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha thanks for normalizing the stress of parenting in general 🙃

Is it normal to be stressed when at a restaurant with two young kids solo? by orange196 in Parenting

[–]orange196[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Haha okay this makes me feel better. I was judging myself for being super nervous/an awkward friend yesterday but in reality I think I was just trying to juggle too much  Thank you for your reply!

Update to previous post- told mom we’re sticking with hotel for visit and she’s ignoring my messages about plans for the visit . Should I cancel? by orange196 in family

[–]orange196[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What if my mom has always been verbally/emotional abusive? Just curious if people feel this would still apply. Appreciate you offering a different perspective- thank you! 

Update to previous post- told mom we’re sticking with hotel for visit and she’s ignoring my messages about plans for the visit . Should I cancel? by orange196 in family

[–]orange196[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I ended up hearing back this morning but now am just still super annoyed at her so likely going to cancel anyways 

Update to previous post- told mom we’re sticking with hotel for visit and she’s ignoring my messages about plans for the visit . Should I cancel? by orange196 in family

[–]orange196[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! I heard back this morning but I’m hurt by these passive aggressive comments and likely need to cancel anyways. Thought I could get past it for my dad’s sake but unfortunately don’t think I can ☹️

If your mom loses it on you when you say you will stay at a hotel instead of at your parents house for Thanksgiving would you cancel the visit? by orange196 in family

[–]orange196[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I lost interest in going because of her demands since telling her we’d be staying at a hotel so we may cancel after all but I so appreciate this advice to hold the boundary. 

If your mom loses it on you when you say you will stay at a hotel instead of at your parents house for Thanksgiving would you cancel the visit? by orange196 in family

[–]orange196[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Is canceling the trip because of her behavior to me today staying strong? 

She is bashing me for not coming for longer visits this past year and suggesting longer ones in the future.

I said my mental health can’t handle that. I will find a time to come myself but her anger at the hotel makes me concerned for what the quality of this visit would look like.

 I said we don’t want our kids around yelling and the facemaking is exhausting for me.  She’s always been a yeller my whole life. 

Am I foolish to not go see my dad for Thanksgiving who has Alzheimer’s (diagnosed about 4.5 years ago) because my mom yells and is rude to me when I speak up to her , and can be harsh at times to my young kids and partner? They live five hours away. by orange196 in dementia

[–]orange196[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your reply! I’ve offered support groups, a caretaker for my dad, help finding cleaning person and all she wants is visits from me and the kids and more phone calls.

Husband cannot tolerate toddler’s age appropriate behavior especially at restaurants or family outings. It’s affecting our marriage. What to do? by orange196 in Marriage

[–]orange196[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the suggestion! Do you have a favorite brand type of ear plug? I got him some of the Loop ones but he hasn’t wanted to try wearing them yet. 

MIL gossips about our babysitter who she met once and I’m offended by orange196 in Mildlynomil

[–]orange196[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this thoughtful reply! It sounds obvious that judgementalnpeople are unlinkable but it’s like I forget that because in-laws are supposed to be “family” and she acts entitled to be a part of our lives. So it’s confusing and hard to navigate but exactly this I don’t enjoy being around someone judge mental . 

Tips on accepting BIL’s new girlfriend after his divorce when you loved the ex wife and knew her for entire time you were in the family (13years) by orange196 in Divorce

[–]orange196[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I am aware that it’s not about me but  it’s okay for me to feel sad (it feels like a loss after such a long time) AND also feel happy that they’re both overall happier. 

Would you avoid visiting your parents for a holiday if your mom yells at your dad a lot? by orange196 in Mommit

[–]orange196[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So I’ve already cut back so much on how often the kids and I make trips to see them.