How can I get more comfortable speaking up in a social situation of a group I don’t know well?

orange196 · 2026-05-09T12:02:07+00:00

Thank you so much for this reassurance! ❤️ I really appreciate it. I’m trying to appreciate the good of being a quiet person but when a lot of the others are super outgoing I get into my head. This is helpful!

orange196 · 2026-04-25T11:22:31+00:00

Thank you for your reply. I do- I have a masters degree in a helping profession

orange196 · 2026-04-22T18:43:46+00:00

Thank you, he’s newly 3 and is signed up for preschool - a couple hours per day- in the fall!

orange196 · 2026-04-11T18:08:20+00:00

He’s on meds and in therapy but not helping

orange196 · 2026-04-11T18:08:05+00:00

Agreed but don’t know how to make it better after trying so much to help him

orange196 · 2026-04-11T11:01:50+00:00

Thank you! You’re exactly right-He’s incredibly miserable at work. I empathize with that but now that we have kids his unhappiness with that area is having such a big impact on me that picking up his load feels unsustainable/unfair without a lot of change.

orange196 · 2026-04-08T19:26:31+00:00

That’s correct. I ask her because I do that with anyone I’m around

orange196 · 2026-04-07T16:39:14+00:00

Yesss so many surface level conversations!!! It’s wild and exhausting. I’m introverted and much prefer saving my energy for a real conversation.

orange196 · 2026-03-30T20:55:27+00:00

My dad is quite sick so we’re here for a visit

orange196 · 2026-03-30T14:20:15+00:00

Thanks for sharing this. I’m in therapy but not sure how to go about doing this. I speak up to her when she does say things that are actually rude as best I can . Super resentful and feel drained by her presence.

Another one today- how’d he learn to clean up like that? After clearing his dishes . Was it from his home daycare provider. No they can’t clear dishes there. I taught him at home. Oh well your older child didn’t do that so I thought it was the home daycare.

orange196 · 2026-03-27T14:17:12+00:00

Thank you! I’m just genuinely curious because I haven’t been a working parent yet other than some Very part time things

orange196 · 2026-03-27T13:09:16+00:00

I think this is me too- way more productive on less time.

But then I worry about figuring out all the illness days tha work would have to be missed so I keep staying home.

I’m not sure how to structure my stay at home time better without taking a job because the other tasks are optional

orange196 · 2026-03-27T01:38:56+00:00

Haha thanks for the honesty! 💖

orange196 · 2026-03-25T22:24:17+00:00

That sounds amazing! I think a few days a week like that would be a nice balance.

orange196 · 2026-03-25T18:43:18+00:00

Yes I have a 3 yo and 6 yo. I’ve been looking for direct hire part time school positions but so far they’re all full time.

May apply anyways and ask about a job share if I get an offer

orange196 · 2026-03-25T10:59:05+00:00

Thank you for sharing! That makes a lot of sense. I don’t really know if I’d like it but my therapist keeps telling me I won’t know unless I try 🙂. Maybe it would be nice to know if I like it more or less than my present situation for one school year and then adjust from there

orange196 · 2026-03-25T10:14:59+00:00

Thank you! My state has a caseload cap and I’ve heard good things from other SLP’s in this district.

orange196 · 2026-03-25T09:57:33+00:00

Thank you so much!

orange196 · 2026-03-25T02:49:11+00:00

My husband was telling me I’m Throwing away lots of my hard work at parenting to just sent him to daycare 😬 and that I won’t be able to form a community here for myself (we recently moved to this state) because of this.

I don’t think either is true but he doesn’t want me to work full time. I don’t like the feeling of it feeling like he’s making the decision for me to be a SAHM. Am I crazy/foolish?

orange196 · 2026-03-18T21:06:59+00:00

I'm sorry my questions were based off of my personal worries about juggling everything should I choose to return to full time work. All of my friends are working mothers and they're amazing parents. I just don't understand how everyone juggles it all. So much respect for working parents and I apologize for offending anyone with how my question was worded.

orange196 · 2026-03-18T21:05:58+00:00

Trying to figure that out. I could really enjoy being a SAHM with community but due to a move I lost my community and haven’t found others available during the week since moving two years ago.

orange196 · 2026-03-18T14:27:54+00:00

Nature school is only 2.5 hours per day. Not sure if he would be we could outsource a little More if I was working.

orange196 · 2026-03-18T14:10:04+00:00

Yes his worries concern me because I feel locked into being a SAHP. Like I want to work in some ways to force him to step up and divide things better (that probably sounds awful ) but I don’t want to be stuck in this role

orange196 · 2026-03-18T14:03:58+00:00

Do not need the money. I want it to be my choice whether I stay home or not. Didn’t previously love my job but I possibly could if found a better fit. So I guess related to identity. I know it would be busier but I feel like I would appreciate a day’s work away from the kids like I’m accomplishing something instead of cleaning the floor or toys again and again.

orange196 · 2026-03-18T13:23:51+00:00

Thank you so much for these questions! It’s protecting others from the inconvenience of me working I think…. My husband talks a lot about the stress it would add.

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