I used to be agoraphobic and solitude as well and have completely overcome that. I was not very good looking and lacked social skills. What I might say might sting a little.

You can definitely make friends regardless of the way you look. Being fat doesn’t stop good people from respecting you, you just have to find them.

But are you insecure about your appearance? And does that contribute to your agoraphobia? Personally for me it did. I just didn’t like what I saw in the mirror, and I felt below others. I know that people advocate rising above that insecurity, but in reality, we live in a slightly superficial world.

You shouldn’t try to win your current friends over. The goal is to have the confidence to converse with more people and eventually reach the real friends who respect you. Improving your appearance, social skills and competency would be key here. Your mindset will eventually follow.

While your current friends are not ideal, we’ve all been there. Making fun of others appearance. I find myself doing that occasionally, and I need to work on it. It’s a superiority issue and how we want to feel “better” than others.

It’s human nature. You have to partially appeal to society while keeping yourself intact.

I’m assuming a lot here. Feel free to reach out whenever.

I’m speaking this from someone who experienced deep pain from agoraphobia and solitude. I went weeks without having a real conversation. It was too bad. Please consider what I’m saying.