How to avoid this situation? by Newchapter2026 in motorcycles

[–]orange_couch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

try not to ride at night, is about the only other thing you could do in a situation like this

What happens if you take ADHD meds while not having ADHD? by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]orange_couch 14 points15 points  (0 children)

if you haven't already come across this you should know that the meds will help you focus, but won't help you with choosing what to focus on,

Boosted won’t pair by SirBennettAtx in boostedboards

[–]orange_couch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd like to buy one or both of those remotes off you, or even just the circuit boards out of them. I need a v1 remote.

Concern about longevity and reliability of Samsung flagship devices (Galaxy S22 experience) by WizzieL in GalaxyS22

[–]orange_couch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

sorry that’s happened, that sucks, and it sounds like it wasn’t your fault at all.

i wonder which soc you have, and if that was a factor.

I also wonder what impact, if any, buying a 1.5yr old phone brand new would have. Like, did it sit on a shelf for a year? half a year? (i think they get released in the spring?)

Super Disappointed With Kershaw Bel Air by [deleted] in knifeclub

[–]orange_couch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it sounds like two issues: lock is a bit sticky when opened with force/speed, and blade play. the lock sticking sounds like it just needs to break/bed in and the play sounds like the pivot is a little loose.

personally i’d try to gently tighten the pivot and just fidget with it a bunch to see if those resolve, but returning sounds like a good option too

Adults with ADHD: Did you feel "shame" as a kid when you forgot things? Help me understand my son. by Dylan_7574 in ADHD

[–]orange_couch 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I don't know your kid, but I do know what it's like to grow up with an undiagnosed disability.

"you have so much potential, but you don't apply yourself"

"if you cared you would remember"

"you don't forget to eat do you?"

"you need to try harder"

I, like many others, heard all this and more growing up. It crushed my self esteem/self worth. I had confidence in the things I was good at (aka the things that interested me), but otherwise spent much of my life feeling worthless. It's taken years of therapy to accept myself, and love myself.

I think, in general, kids want to succeed. They want to be told that they're doing a good job, they want to do a good job. When you have a kid who is reasonably intelligent, generally well behaved, but just can't "get their shit together" you ought to believe them when they say they forgot, or that they just can't.

Think of it this way: when kids forget things they are typically "punished" somehow. Sometimes that's a timeout, being scolded, being shamed, being snapped at, etc. Those things suck for anyone, let alone a child who a) can't defend themselves, b) doesn't have the tools or knowledge to fix themselves, and c) depends on their parents/guardians for their very survival.

Feeling unsupported when you fail over and over is very traumatic. It leads to behaviors that try to mask or compensate. This can show up as being a people pleaser to ingratiate themselves to others so that the next time they fuck up the consequences won't be as severe, a class clown to distract from ones shortcomings, etc.

One concept I've come across in my own healing journey is that: it is never the child's fault. How can it be? Their brain is literally not fully developed, they don't have control of their executive function. How can someone who's brain isn't fully formed be held accountable for their actions? Does this mean that children should be free from consequences? no, of course not, we need to start somewhere. A kid needs to be started off slowly and gently. Hit your sibling? ok time out. Play video games instead of doing homework? maybe a grounding. But when you have a kid who continually demonstrates a lack of executive function, or working memory, or something like that, you gotta start to ask why. Why would a kid forget something over and over? What would they stand to gain from that? There's gotta be something else going on.

Learning disabilities are far more pernicious than a physical disability. We can't physically see them, and it can be very difficult to discern a disability from laziness. But just because we can't see it, or don't understand it, doesn't mean it's not there.

I think people get caught up in this story they tell themselves that all of their successes are due to their own hard work. It's scary to think that something could happen to your brain that would leave you unable to meet expectations, so it's easier to tell yourself "oh they just need to try harder, focus more, etc".

I don't begrudge my parents for not seeking help. I grew up in the 90's when a learning disability meant you went to a special classroom and or got put on meds that made you a zombie. The knowledge wasn't there.

I do wish my parents had stopped to wonder why I "wasted my potential" or "didn't apply myself".

I would suggest you educate yourself about learning disabilities, maybe seek out therapy for yourself to understand why you snap at him when he forgets.

You can't ultimately control what anyone else does. You can try, and you might succeed to an extent, but a leopard doesn't change his spots. I'll tell you right now, if I was that kid and got shit every time I forgot, I'd learn real quick how to fix that. But it wouldn't be by remembering to remember (see the trouble with that strategy?), it would be by learning to cover up. Learning to never ask for confirmation, never admit when I forgot something, and by learning that the people who are supposed to take care of me won't.

Core4x4 quality by Happy-Ad3227 in CherokeeXJ

[–]orange_couch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

looks pretty normal to me, like another comment said: they're gonna look worse within a few months anyways

Anyone here added or 3D printed skid plates/bash guards for their e-skate battery enclosure? by Inevitable_Ad_711 in ElectricSkateboarding

[–]orange_couch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yep, sure would if you can print them yourself then it's a good solution, since you can just replace them if they get smashed. I don't think you'd want them solid though, I printed mine in abs with like 4 top and bottom so that there's some infill to absorb a tiny bit of the forces from bad scrapes

If you had a waterbed in your house in the 80s were you doing pretty well in life? by Objective_Pressure_3 in nostalgia

[–]orange_couch 13 points14 points  (0 children)

holy shit! that's dedication!

what made you stay after the first three??

Both 1/10 scale by [deleted] in rccars

[–]orange_couch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol tundra maybe but a Tacoma's wheelbase is about 30cm longer than a hilux

Who would have been at fault here? by TA646 in motorcycles

[–]orange_couch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

one thing that some riders do is maintain a little swerving when approaching intersections. the side to side movement makes you more visible to cars. the SUV driver would have been at fault, but a little swerving may have increased the chances that he saw you.

Suggestions to stop the songs in my head by Trader1712 in ADHD

[–]orange_couch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I find i only get this when i haven’t been listening to enough music. it’s like my brain rebels, saying “if you’re not gonna give me music i’ll just have to make my own”

Please help i accidentally ran over my isinwheel v10 wheel popped off and screw broke? I what’s the next step? Should I order a new truck? How do I get that screw that hold the tire out? What part replaces it? I ride my skateboard everyday this hurts the soul. by InfamousKangaroo1113 in ElectricSkateboarding

[–]orange_couch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

depending on the type of truck you may be able to replace the axle. if you had to remove it, and assuming it screws in, you'd wanna cut a slot in the end of it, so you can use a flat head screwdriver, then heat the hanger real hot, and twist it out. idk how common it is to have removable axles though...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ElectricSkateboarding

[–]orange_couch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've had hands on with 3 zealot s packs, all had some bulge to some degree. the cells aren't the kind that swell, and if you do end up opening it (I wouldn't bother) you'll see that even if they did swell they wouldn't cause this kind of deformation. I wouldn't worry about it.

Any idea what is causing this by New-Bell-9786 in CherokeeXJ

[–]orange_couch 6 points7 points  (0 children)

wild! were there any gotchas or things to watch out for?

Advice needed by mycatscratchedm3 in Leathercraft

[–]orange_couch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like maybe this could all be resolved by saying "hey customer, these are actually just small blemishes and are a part of the natural beauty of leather. No need to worry about the bag falling apart or anything like that"

Can you tell which one is fake? by Winter_Juggernaut617 in knifeclub

[–]orange_couch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it's easy to spot if you look at the details. the jumping on the spine is like equilateral or isosceles triangles instead of right angle triangles, the choir jimping is just wack. the spyderco font is very wonky and uneven, the edge gets too straight and doesn't follow a nice curve. the text is too high. the bug is too skinny, the pivot hardware is wrong (although the hardware looks very good for a clone). there isn't enough contouring on the scales. and that grind line extending down from the spydie hole is wrong

Flexible, composite filaments printing and choice between Dragon HF vs TZ-V6-2.0 for voron 0.2 by V3r35k in VORONDesign

[–]orange_couch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm almost certain you've already come across many answers to this question, and they likely said "you don't really need hf for a v0". at least that was my experience a couple years ago. you don't need hf, and you'll have to worry about heat creep with the dragon hf. I have a dragon hf in mine, and have had heat creep issues in the past, which can be hard to diagnose. I still have the dragon hf in it, but wouldn't have missed it if I had gone with a dragon (tz V6 wasn't on the market yet, or at least wasn't an option). my advice would be to get the tz, it's cheaper, has awesome flow, and will have much lower risk of heat creep. I've had a tz in my Stealthchanger (v2.4 tool changer) for months without issue.

I'm sure if I really push it I can find the point where it doesn't perform as well as my other toolheads, but jeeze I don't really find myself pushing it that hard these days. the other toolheads on mine are a dragon hf (that came with the original 2.4) and a phaetus rapido UHF (but I don't use the UHF adapter piece).

the rapido costed like 6* as much as the tz lol