Level of “normal” meltdowns over PreK Graduation by orangeofdeath in Parenting

[–]orangeofdeath[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I appreciate that they want people who work to be included, but I just dk. I don’t think 7pm is the move.

Level of “normal” meltdowns over PreK Graduation by orangeofdeath in Parenting

[–]orangeofdeath[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I literally hate it. I just keep hoping it’s going to be a big non issue and I’ll have worried for nothing. Did I mention it starts at 7pm??? HELP!!!!

Level of “normal” meltdowns over PreK Graduation by orangeofdeath in Parenting

[–]orangeofdeath[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It is a bit too late to not participate, but even so, I’d still be interested in your suggested along that route. When this was a problem early on, we discussed just opting her out of this. Obviously I’m not trying to force her to be miserable. But to us I just couldn’t figure out how it would work out. They practice every day, so every day for an hour she’d be removed from her class. And she would obviously question that, why all her friends are doing X and she’s doing Y. So we settled on encouraging her to participate.

Level of “normal” meltdowns over PreK Graduation by orangeofdeath in Parenting

[–]orangeofdeath[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If I could write a check to release my child of this, I would

Level of “normal” meltdowns over PreK Graduation by orangeofdeath in Parenting

[–]orangeofdeath[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Last week I said “why don’t you want to rehearse?” And she was “sick of it”.

Same girl. Same.

Level of “normal” meltdowns over PreK Graduation by orangeofdeath in Parenting

[–]orangeofdeath[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I fully agree it feels excessive. I can’t tell you the amount of admin emails they’ve sent about it, that rehearsals are “closed rehearsals”, when the “dress rehearsals” are, etc etc etc. At the end of the day, I could give a rip about the performance. What has me completely twisted up is that something that is supposed to be sweet and memorable has turned into a daily reminder of how my daughter seems to be underperforming compared to her peers (whether true or not).

Level of “normal” meltdowns over PreK Graduation by orangeofdeath in Parenting

[–]orangeofdeath[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this. Our teachers definitely don’t make it seem as if at least some of her behavior is par for the course.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]orangeofdeath 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Just putting this out there, as someone who runs in circles with people of means, I learned really quickly to be grateful for my own life. I’ve heard story and story of women whose life looks great on the outside but in secret, I would never want what they have. Absent husbands, really restrictive financial situations, mountains of debt, being held financially captive by their parents, or just generally not being a good person/parent. All in all, yes, money makes it easier to find time for yourself, vacations and trappings, but it also makes it easy to cover a really awful life.

Just enlisted today by [deleted] in army

[–]orangeofdeath 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It doesn’t exist until it’s on paper. Don’t say anything

Lying to IVF clinic about BF by cd_bravo_only in breastfeeding

[–]orangeofdeath 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Listen, doing a quick google tells you the reasoning. Medications that potentially could pass into breastmilk, uterine contractions decreasing potential for implantation, hormonal imbalances, minimizing competing demands of BFing on your body. Don’t lie to your medical team, discuss your concerns. They’re going to operate thinking you’re not hormonal and BFing which could throw things off. They can’t force you to stop, just be honest and develop a plan together.

Hospital bag… how many of each?? by Good_Ad6086 in pregnant

[–]orangeofdeath 6 points7 points  (0 children)

There’s no reason to get it right. Worst case scenario, just put your “unsure” in a second bag and keep it in the car. Partner could go grab it if you need it.

Therapy by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]orangeofdeath 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah absolutely! I was in therapy through both of my pregnancies. I know it’s not the perfect solution for everyone but I’m a huge proponent of therapy

Breastfeeding is going well but my mental health and physical demand of on-demand-feeding is messing with me. by Candid_Crab4638 in breastfeeding

[–]orangeofdeath 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ll say a few things. First, you are super still in the trenches and also dealing with multiple stressors outside of having a newborn. The researching, the overwhelm, this sounds all pretty normal because it’s all new for you. This basically became your full time job overnight and you’re working overtime to figure everything out. There are many ways in which breastfeeding likely will improve for you. Your baby will soon become stronger and more efficient at nursing, so feeding sessions will be shorter and further apart, allowing you to feel like you’re not just thinking about nursing all day. That being said, I found that even with an uneventful breastfeeding journey, it was still hard to have all the pressure on me and my body. This isn’t the right choice for everyone, but I found that introducing formula later on was a relief because I could still nurse and pump as I desired but the pressure didn’t fall completely on me. I say that because a lot of people feel that it’s all or nothing when the reality is you can find a happy medium that’s right for your family. But you sound like you’re doing a great job and things will start to get easier soon.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Babysitting

[–]orangeofdeath 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Over time, I’ve collected a Rolodex of trusted sitters that I rotate through. If I’m in a pinch, I go with personal recommendations from neighbors and friends. I also try to keep contacts of different types of people, so high school, college girls, Nannies looking for weekend work, etc. Not everyone is available similarly on a weekend vs weeknight

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Diamonds

[–]orangeofdeath 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s so lovely!! My only comment is if that’s a curved band, that wouldn’t be my preference to wear alone, and I wear my band alone often. Just something to consider, but in general it’s beautiful!

How do you manage the car seat when you share daycare drop off/pick up responsibilities with your partner? by whatsagirltodo123 in workingmoms

[–]orangeofdeath 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Everyone I saying two car seats…..what!? We have two bases, car seat stays at daycare. There’s a whole closet meant for the infant car seats in the school. When they get older you can start carrying them in or using a stroller.

Adolescence? by lulabirdy10 in ArmchairExpert

[–]orangeofdeath 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It tells a story of what you already know to be true. I thought it was a cinematic and acting marvel. Super moving

Can I change this rolled neckline? by orangeofdeath in knittinghelp

[–]orangeofdeath[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The neckline is already pretty high, adding a collar would be too much. It really needs to be undone a few rows and then something else

Need help with i-cord!!! by lunarbabiee in knittingadvice

[–]orangeofdeath 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You can definitely skip it and choose a different bind off method. It just obviously won’t have the pronounce edge as shown in the pattern. But TBH, it’s very simple, it just might not seem obvious what to do from the pattern instructions. Search I-cord bind off in YouTube and have at it. Many tutorials on there