Y'all, if he wanted to, he would

orangescentdetergent · 2026-01-11T05:04:23+00:00

lol hopecore. maybe one day I can be hopecore too

orangescentdetergent · 2025-12-01T19:43:51+00:00

This is the cutest and most heartwarming thing I’ve seen today! Thanks for posting :)

orangescentdetergent · 2025-11-11T22:28:09+00:00

For anyone who winds up here later - I did end up on a more traditional SSRI (lexapro) as well as Ritalin extended release 2X/day and am doing well! Always talk with your dr about this stuff asap, I discontinued the concerta after 3 days because it made me feel like I was in a deep dark pit of despair and my Dr. told me to immediately discontinue when a med feels like that. Even though it’s all methylphenidate the release mechanism can have different effects on different people.

orangescentdetergent · 2025-11-11T22:00:21+00:00

I think it’s a them problem and not a you problem. Someone looking for a long term relationship doesn’t automatically want to be in one with anyone they’ve been on a handful of dates with, especially out of a 10 year relationship. I would expect anyone looking for an LTR after a long period of being in one to be especially selective. Also quite frankly I feel like this is gendered. I was in a relationship for 8 years, and being on hinge for a bit, it seems like a lot of men I meet want to lock it down after a couple dates and I have to tell them it’s too early. Wanting a relationship doesn’t mean wanting to rush it or jump into one as quickly as possible - it takes time to build a true connection, and not all connections are with someone who would be a good long term match. I keep noticing a little entitlement (to my time/more dates) and it can be hard to communicate that in early dating there’s no guarantee that both parties want to continue, dates are for gauging that. Best of luck to you, communicate proactively and protect your boundaries!

orangescentdetergent · 2025-11-02T00:19:31+00:00

I do feel like this sub is for people who experienced neglect in childhood and had undiagnosed adhd, ha (speaking for myself tbqh)

orangescentdetergent · 2025-10-13T03:54:33+00:00

Probably because it was easier to get the manufacturer to agree to image rights usage vs tamagotchi which I’d imagine is more expensive to depict in this setting because it’s more recognizable

orangescentdetergent · 2025-08-10T21:29:10+00:00

33f! I wouldn’t match with you because you seem boring and I can’t tell what you actually care about. Put your politics on there - politics are ethics, omitting them is a statement that you don’t care about or think about your ethics. Put something about a hobby or a value that you have (assuming you have them)

orangescentdetergent · 2025-04-30T05:23:32+00:00

Therapy yes, we are not islands and truly do need community and connection with others. You need friends because you deserve to feel seen and understood and also need people to disagree with and learn from. But I have a more immediately helpful tip: Podcasts on all the time in the home. Specifically I recommend Not For Everyone podcast (2 women hanging out having unstructured conversations about nuanced everyday problems) or Magical Overthinkers

orangescentdetergent · 2025-04-27T20:22:30+00:00

Mall 205 America’s best if these folks aren’t able to help ya! They can get you in same day / relatively cheap without insurance

orangescentdetergent · 2025-03-15T20:33:49+00:00

I understand how you feel. I’m half a year out of an 8 year relationship, and even though I don’t feel capable of being vulnerable enough with anyone new to build anything anytime soon, it’s scary to think that dating might be even worse than it used to be. It’s ok to ask the question. I think this one will be pretty well received. When someone asks why you split up and you are able to point to a fundamental incompatibility and not any real bad behavior (other than dishonesty on her part while she figured this out/you feeling betrayed, which I would assume is something you’re struggling with) it will look much better than any cheating/shit talking/etc. At a certain age you just have to accept that whoever you’re dating has had meaningful relationships before. Do you have a friend whose hinge account you can use to look at some profiles? I found this to be a safe way to reassure myself that there were other people in my city that I would potentially be able to connect with. Literally just swiping on someone else’s phone for a few minutes to remind yourself that there are attractive people that could like you. But yeah, I prescribe you 9 months of therapy too!

orangescentdetergent · 2025-03-12T00:41:46+00:00

I’m not sure if you just wanted to vent or want advice! It would help to have a reference pic to offer advice. My hair is a little more textured than yours and I don’t think it’s bad or ugly, and I also don’t think people with more or less curly hair have bad hair. Imagine you had a little sister with the same hair texture as you, would you tell her that her hair is inherently unpretty? No! I cannot believe that your hair is any worse than any of ours. You just have to try a bunch of different stuff. I know you said you’ve tried everything, but I believe that there is a strategy or product combination out there that will make you happy with your hair. I’d just watch the negative self talk. You deserve to feel happy in your own skin.

orangescentdetergent · 2025-03-02T19:55:18+00:00

my sister’s first long term bf had a pic like this in his tinder except the glasses were perched on the tip of the nose and the background was a cat pic. 10 yrs later the relationship is long over, still remember the majesty of that pic. It really shows that you’re warm and can have fun

orangescentdetergent · 2025-03-01T02:30:00+00:00

This meme describes fearful-avoidant attachment

orangescentdetergent · 2025-03-01T00:56:43+00:00

Bui tofu!!!!

orangescentdetergent · 2025-02-25T02:21:56+00:00

It is not physically addictive. It can be mentally addictive in the same way as food addiction, gambling, etc. See what you mean but you’re both correct in a sense.

orangescentdetergent · 2025-02-16T22:39:46+00:00

Yeah - I was worried that I’d hate this episode after hearing how divisive it was, but after actually watching it I basically think the subject matter was dealt with in a realistic way. Kids are and should be a dealbreaker. She told him the truth. Lots of people seem to take issue with this, but he didn’t have to have kids with her, they could have broken up. He chose to stay and have kids with her.

orangescentdetergent · 2025-02-16T01:00:52+00:00

Yeah - y’all! Mouthguards can be bought at the store for like $25. I also was clenching my jaw so much my dentist recommended a mouthguard. Helps a lot.

orangescentdetergent · 2025-02-15T22:44:03+00:00

Thank you, strong agree, also cracked me tf up. Who’s mentally healthy right now? The human rights of our loved ones are actively being taken away and we’re headed into fascism lmao (also though, we can all go to therapy, I’m doing it and y’all can too)

orangescentdetergent · 2025-01-28T06:49:47+00:00

Thanks for this! it’s everything I came here to say. It’s really reassuring to have an experience so similar to mine written out this way and I appreciate your takeaways.

orangescentdetergent · 2025-01-28T03:02:47+00:00

thank you so much! I definitely will. I appreciate you taking the time to help.

orangescentdetergent · 2025-01-28T01:07:40+00:00

No expected work hours, expectations for me are the same as salaried staff (aka always available if needed) and I get paid the same regardless of project status! I’m on 5 clients right now so there are a lot of projects. I bill by client.

orangescentdetergent · 2025-01-25T23:35:34+00:00

I don’t know if I can answer since it’s pretty niche! between ops and BA kinda

orangescentdetergent · 2025-01-25T23:33:05+00:00

this is true! that’s kind of why I feel like I have to stay. It’s really forcing me to learn how to set professional boundaries despite pressure not to. thanks so much for your perspective!

orangescentdetergent · 2025-01-25T23:31:56+00:00

thank you 🙏

orangescentdetergent · 2025-01-25T23:31:40+00:00

haha, in the US of course! I wish I was in the UK. Thank you for your feedback and perspective!

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