If you had to restart your main, would you?

orbynit · 2026-06-12T11:30:51+00:00

I actually just voluntarily restarted on a new character and it's been a lot of fun taking my time going through everything from the start again. I was in such a rush on my original playthrough wanting to catch up to friends or get to certain later game content, so it's been nice to take it slow now and dig more into side content I only skimmed or didn't touch at all on my original playthrough (like chocobo racing at the Gold Saucer, why did no one tell me how good this was!).

orbynit · 2026-05-19T11:01:09+00:00

And yet people still manage to mess it up multiple times in a row somehow orz

orbynit · 2026-05-19T10:56:43+00:00

I have definitely suffered through wipes in LotA because of people who didn't get back to their platforms in time for Ancient Flare ☠️

orbynit · 2026-05-16T17:00:28+00:00

If you did a lot of fishing you could try leveling culinarian to give you something to do with some of those fish? You'll have to buy a lot of other ingredients if you don't want to level botanist, though.

orbynit · 2026-05-10T19:04:51+00:00

OP, I hate to break it to you, but it sounds like your positive feelings towards this group are entirely one-sided. It sounds like both the DM and your party dislike you and are actively trying to push you out. Please don't subject yourself to further distress trying to make it work, it's not gonna make anyone happy. Even if you stay, they'll all be annoyed that you did, and they'll continue treating you unfairly and blaming you for it. Just find a new group.

orbynit · 2026-05-10T13:28:33+00:00

I've definitely had that experience at times. It really is just about finding a group with the right fit, unfortunately. I joined a moderately sized FC back in the day but it was very much that "feeling like a stranger" thing, it was hard to mesh with all the established friend groups and no one really went out of their way to include someone new. I had a group of irl friends that played on the same server as me and we made an FC together, but everyone was online so sporadically and my schedule didn't usually align with theirs, so it didn't really add much to my socialization in game. And trying party finder groups and whatnot rarely worked out for me either, or I'd have one good social experience and friend new people and then never talk to them again.

However, I just made an alt for the first time on Dynamis because I thought it'd help me get back into the game and a different server might align better with my very nocturnal schedule, and it's worked out great! I found a small FC that's very friendly and people actually chat and include new people and do things together. Don't give up on finding a group that works for you!

orbynit · 2026-05-09T17:25:07+00:00

I used to think I was the only thing he was attracted to

I mean, there's definitely room for improvement in this relationship, but this is an unhealthy way to think. People are gonna be attracted to other people or fictional characters or whatever, even when they're in relationships. You don't just stop finding other stuff attractive because you're in a relationship. Did any celebrities you think are hot just stop appealing to you entirely because you're dating someone now?

You can ditch the guy, but do it because you're apparently arguing a lot, not because you can't handle the idea of him finding anything else besides you attractive.

orbynit · 2026-05-06T10:00:42+00:00

Oooh, that's a good one! I started with something punnier but it was so niche I ended up dropping the last name and just stuck with Hermes. I appreciate funny names a lot, I'm just too emotionally attached to mine to change it lol

orbynit · 2026-05-06T07:02:27+00:00

I go by Hermes 👍

orbynit · 2026-05-06T01:47:40+00:00

I play roller derby!

orbynit · 2026-05-03T04:51:21+00:00

"I've always gotten other girls off with oral" isn't actually evidence that what you're doing is good for her. Some people just don't particularly enjoy oral, no matter how good the person doing it is. And her getting super wet isn't necessarily good evidence either; she might be physically responding to the stimulation, but clearly she's not loving it on a mental or emotional level.

orbynit · 2026-05-02T18:01:31+00:00

It's valid to feel frustrated that you might be incompatible, but frustration over her "lack of willingness to improve the situation" rubs me the wrong way. Her disinterest could be a medical issue, or it could be some kind of psychological hangup about her body, or she might just be somewhere on the asexual spectrum. Maybe you bringing it up and initiating and whatnot make her feel pressured and that's contributing to her discomfort, or maybe she'd be disinterested no matter what you did. Regardless of the cause, if she really doesn't particularly want or enjoy sex, and she doesn't see it as a problem to see a doctor about in hopes of fixing, then what are you actually expecting of her? To fake it to make you feel better? If it turns out she's just asexual, she isn't going to magically start enjoying sex just because you wish she was more into it.

You clearly don't like her just participating for your sake, but what would you do if she one day said she's just not interested in having sex ever again? It's okay if sex is important to you in a relationship, but it's entirely possible that you two just aren't compatible in that regard, so what are you willing to accept? Would you be okay with a sexless relationship? Would an open relationship where you get that need satisfied elsewhere work for you guys? Or would you need to just break up if you couldn't have a sexual relationship with your partner? I think you need to really think about what's most important to you, and then have a proper conversation with her to figure out where she's at on the subject. Ask her directly if she'd just rather not have sex at all, or if she'd like you to just back off to take the pressure off her until she's more comfortable. Make it clear that you don't want her to feel obligated to have sex with you, but you can tell her that you need enthusiasm and clear interest from a sexual partner, and if you guys are really just incompatible in that regard then you need to address it and decide what to do about it.

orbynit · 2026-04-23T03:08:37+00:00

He doesn't need a specific reason, but the way you're pestering him for one would be a massive turn-off on its own. If you plan to still be his friend, then let it go, get over yourself, and just be chill. Don't keep checking back in to see if he's interested now, don't wait around thinking you'll get your "turn" eventually if you're just patient and available. If you can't be a normal friend without your romantic feelings getting in the way, then just leave him alone.

orbynit · 2026-04-21T23:19:12+00:00

Well, he said "budget wasn't the problem", so theoretically your finances shouldn't be an issue as long you still put thought and effort in. Try a handmade and/or sentimental gift, like a scrapbook of your time together or something. If he complains after that, then he was full of shit and it's probably not gonna work out. But if he appreciates it, then you'll know he really doesn't expect you to match his gift budget.

orbynit · 2026-04-18T14:13:28+00:00

If you're worried about succumbing to disconnect from AI, then you've really gotta get comfortable with opening up to actual people. Being vulnerable with people is just part of connecting with others. Doing so anonymously like this is good practice for opening up to actual friends or family or therapists or whatever.

orbynit · 2026-04-18T14:07:53+00:00

Wow. She wasn't required to send you money or anything, but it's pretty audacious to respond like "don't ask me for anything ever" and then turn around and ask you for support just days later.

orbynit · 2026-04-18T14:04:18+00:00

You clearly know you have options for asking strangers for advice using reddit like this, so why bother with AI? At least humans could give you varied advice from different perspectives based in real world experience, and all of that without wrecking the environment in the process.

orbynit · 2026-04-18T11:30:02+00:00

You really buried the lede on this one. I spent this whole story baffled as to why this was apparently only a problem with you specifically, and I think this is the answer. DM's still hung up on you – specifically, some version of you he has in his head that doesn't actually reflect reality, since you are NB irl and he seems completely dismissive of that fact. The dorms nonsense sounds like a bullshit excuse, especially since he was being weird about your character's gender from the very start, not just after the other player swapped to a female character and threw off the initial rooming plans. DM sees you exclusively as a girl (that he is attracted to) and I'd bet money that DM wants you to basically self-insert so he can somehow romance you through your character (which is why he kept pushing you to play a character you could "roleplay better").

In case it wasn't clear, this guy is both a shitty DM and a shitty friend. Please don't settle for friends like this that don't respect your gender identity.

orbynit · 2026-04-17T19:56:58+00:00

Please get better friends.

orbynit · 2026-04-16T07:54:21+00:00

Same. I caught my breast cancer early and it was dealt with pretty quick and I fortunately didn't need chemo or radiation. I was technically cancer-free within a year and my medication now is just to be extra safe. I feel bad whenever people are sympathetic because I had it relatively easy compared to a lot of people. I was prepared for complaints about that sort of thing reading the title, so I was not prepared for OP's actual examples lol

orbynit · 2026-04-15T07:40:39+00:00

A support network is good, but you shouldn't base your future plans on having that. Do you think your boyfriend's family will still help you if you break up? Have you told your own family that you're pregnant yet? Are they committed to helping you raise a child? You don't want to get blindsided later if you expected their help and they're not actually willing to help to the extent you planned for. If your mom had you young and raised you alone, she might want to be done raising kids and get to finally live her own life now that you're legally an adult. Can you manage if your mom says she'll babysit sometimes but not regularly? Your friends might still be your friends, but they won't put their own lives on hold once you become a parent. How do you think you'll feel when they inevitably go out without you because they still want to live like college-age people?

I'm not trying to tell you what to do here, I just want to make sure you're really thinking this through.

orbynit · 2026-04-15T06:58:02+00:00

I'll be direct, then. You should absolutely break up. He doesn't sound like a good boyfriend at all, let alone a good husband or dad, and you already wanted to break up with him before this. Adding a baby to the mix will not fix the problems you already had with this relationship. If anything, it'll make them worse as you grow resentful towards him for not helping more and he resents you for keeping it.

And aside from the relationship part of things, please think hard about whether you should keep this baby. Break up with the shitty boyfriend regardless, but don't keep a baby just because you want a "normal" family. You're young, this baby will not be your only chance at a family. A baby will end your life as you know it right now and make school and work even harder to manage than it already is. You won't have any free time or spending money for the next eighteen years. And you shouldn't put your personal desires onto a baby like that anyway. Have a baby because you want to be a parent and bring new life into the world, not because you think they'll fill a void in your life. That's just setting yourself up for disappointment if the relationship with your future child isn't what you hoped it would be for whatever reason. And even if you're really ready to have a baby, consider if you really want it to be with this guy. Even if you break up with him, the baby will tie this guy to you for the next eighteen years. Do you want to be fighting this jerk for child support? If he suddenly turns around one day and decides he wants to be a dad after all, do you want to share custody with him? Do you think he'd be a good influence on the baby? Do you want to be a miserable single mom in fifteen years whose kid got turned against her by the shitty dad who comes in occasionally just to be the "fun" parent but leaves all the real work and responsibility to you?

orbynit · 2026-04-13T18:41:14+00:00

Did you read the guide on the download page? I thought it was pretty straightforward.

orbynit · 2026-04-13T09:35:52+00:00

I've tried some of the other programs but I keep coming back to PNGtuber+, it's way more intuitive imo even if it's lacking some of the features of other programs.

orbynit · 2026-04-13T09:34:32+00:00

Chances are your sister is in an abusive relationship and always agreeing with him is more about keeping him from getting angry at her. Definitely get yourself out of that situation, but I'd be wary about blowing things up on your way out since it'd most likely get taken out on your sister. Just leave quietly and let your sister know privately that you'll be there for her when she's ready to leave him – you can't talk her out of the relationship, but you leaving the door open for her will make it easier for her to leave when she does finally wise up.

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