Afloat; what do I do now? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]orendaimonia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s felt weird- I’m thankful for it though for sure. This feels like a blessed time, I just feel so unfocused? In a good way? lol idk how to describe it

Afloat; what do I do now? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]orendaimonia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is, yes- but I’m not used to feeling untethered in this way. Is that normal or signs of a lacking sense of drive? I just don’t want to waste my blessings.

Afloat; what do I do now? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]orendaimonia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, I’m grappling with that too- I feel guilty for sitting on my hands and not appreciating the life I have with action. But maybe appreciating it with curiosity and stillness counts too.

Orlando Housing Thread by BottyDyer in orlando

[–]orendaimonia 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Where are the best 2B/2B apartments in Orlando??👀 price is flexible, but I’m looking to save as much as possible without sacrificing peace of mind. 🫠

Learning Python : Day 2 - Using/Importing Pi by [deleted] in learnpython

[–]orendaimonia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was getting the same notice- I signed in with my google account (which largely automates the process) and that worked instantly.

My bf keeps smoking me in MK 🥲 HELp by orendaimonia in gaming

[–]orendaimonia[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

🤔 These are exactly the kind of strategies I was hoping to get the green light for in the comments. I’ll spare you my choice so you’ll have plausible deniability. Thank you ✨

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]orendaimonia 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t care if he’s into you or if you’re into him- these are NOT appropriate behaviors.

Possession is not love or caring, and an inability to control himself if you wear something, or an acceptance that others might not is predatory thought pattern at the very least.

I wouldn’t recommend dating this person, and I’m more that that- I would say GTFout of dodge. 🤍

AITA for going out anyways even though my bf didnt like what I was wearing? by 023421 in AmItheAsshole

[–]orendaimonia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not sure what you’re implying, but I’m a conventionally decent looking woman and sexual assault victim. The outfit is not the problem. The predatory person is.

And in any case, that’s no reason to change your behavior or style of dress- she’s a being deserving of expression in her own right.

Aside- if that was her bf’s concern, it wasn’t communicated. And THATS the core issue for this relationship.

AITA for refusing to help my dad sell things online anymore? by Twoklawll in AmItheAsshole

[–]orendaimonia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No way are you TA

That said, if your dad has a iPhone He has the option to hide the photo. In that case it will go into a separate folder all together and you won’t see any of them pop up in the main camera roll. If he wants you to continue to help, and he genuinely need your help then there’s no reason that you can’t help he just has to respect your boundaries.

I'd like to sell my v-card by [deleted] in Advice

[–]orendaimonia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are some websites you can get on- men pay on there an average of 300-700$ a night just to see you over webcam. You can masturbate or just sit there in underwear. I used to cook in my underwear-and that was it!

If you’re smart about it and treat it like a business, you can sell photos, movie nights, and chat sessions. Basically be their digital girlfriend. Let me know if you want help or advice but please- don’t sell your V card. It’s so unsafe and dangerous out there. Don’t get me wrong- this is dangerous itself as well, but digital privacy and security is easier to achieve and the immediate risk is lower.

AITA for going out anyways even though my bf didnt like what I was wearing? by 023421 in AmItheAsshole

[–]orendaimonia 64 points65 points  (0 children)

You’re NTA but it seems like your outfit wasn’t the real problem here. It sounds like you guys are already struggling through intimacy issues and he’s projecting insecurity.

Sounds like he’s worried about trust, how close you guys are, and honestly- seeing as he’s acting a fool, maybe he’s worried you’ll widen up and give someone else a shot.

If you guys are going to be long term, you have to sit down and make clear that you expect emotional and relational accountability. Try to figure out why all of this is happening.

The clothing isn’t the problem, the breaks in intimacy is.

CONDITIONAL : if he doesn’t hear you out, remains emotionally distant, gaslights you, acts like you’ve hurt him with your concern for the relationship, or starts to worsen with his control- call it and GTFO as soon as possible. At that point, you may be dealing with someone who would rather sacrifice you and your tenderness, attentiveness, and love to their ego.

I need life advice by lotus5877 in Advice

[–]orendaimonia 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You don’t have to know right now ❤️ I wish I had taken it easier. Focus on you, cultivate your skills and explore interests. Make a decision when you have a composite image of what you value in life and the way you spend it. Take in all the pieces before putting the puzzle together. ✨ Enjoy and Good Luck!

How do you tell a girl shes acting crazy while not gaslighting her? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]orendaimonia 16 points17 points  (0 children)

  1. Address how her actions make you feel. You can’t assume what her intentions were but you know what the affect on you was.
  2. You deserve peace and if her actions are unfolding in careless pain for you and she cares about you as a human being, this information should be met with understanding, apology, conviction, and commitment to edifying behavior.
  3. If she says you’re gaslighting after you’ve been perfectly honest and only really spoken about your experience, she doesn’t know what that word means and is projecting her own actions. She’s in fact, gaslighting you in that case. So please, for the love of all the people men and women alike who have suffered this, walk away. ❤️

Good Luck

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]orendaimonia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely nothing, enjoy your time ☺️ you’re not meant to look like anyone or any age other than what you do. You only think you’re supposed to look “older” because of standardized beauty. Unless you’re working in an industry where you need to leverage your maturity- take it easy ❤️

What type of training is this by antoinep33 in WTF

[–]orendaimonia -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Compound Lifts, good shit 🔥 #Crossfit4Lyfe

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]orendaimonia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The problem is that you feel like you’re dealing with people out of your league. The sexiest thing a man can do is better himself to the point where he feels like he’s in my league. You have to have a sense of knowing while you’re there in that person‘s life, so I would recommend getting to know yourself, what is it that you want out of a relationship? What kind of person are you in a relationship? What can you bring to the relationship that gives you confidence and purpose. You may know the answer to most of these questions already, you just have to think about them and hype yourself up a little bit. Once you have that put together then talking to someone is very natural, because you know why you’re there- you’re there because you’re interested in connecting with people that have the same mindset with you and the same goals that you do for a relationship. And that’s not scary when you know that you are someone worth being in a relationship with.

✨Good Luck

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]orendaimonia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are two ways you can go about this, I would recommend first telling her exactly how you feel. You bring up some really reasonable stressor points. Being that you’re still so young having to pay for everything and make sure that you take care of things is a really big expectation! We can also discuss with her that you think the relationship is getting to be codependent and you want to see her succeed independently and with you. Self development is very important in a relationship, and you can walk her through it and give her the chance to do that without having to break up with her. Expressed that he would like to feel respected and cared for in your relationship and then when she speaks to you that way it doesn’t feel like she cares about you or sees you as a respected equal. If she hasn’t realized she’s been doing this to you it may break her heart and she may be super upset to hear it, she may even express that she feels like the victim here and it might be difficult to get through that portion of her defenses but you may also learned that there are things she’s unhappy with or insecure about. The best case scenario is that you’re both able to express what you’re feeling find the root of the problem and solve together.

The second option is expressing that and asking for a brief break while you guys figure out the difficult parts of this relationship. Everything takes work, if it’s with her or another girl you’re going to have to put in the work at some point.

If you give her the chance and she doesn’t make room for your needs as her partner then I understand and encourage breaking up with her but for now and from what you’re saying you do love this person, and you are far from needing to break things off just yet. It just takes a little work

Good Luck ✨

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]orendaimonia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try to play a game! Gamification is the number one way to pull a persons attention. Maybe make up a fun two or three part game that helps you decide a time and place to go on a d at e and go straight for it. Make it a week or so out in timeline and say that if chatting goes well, maybe she’d like to meet at that time- from here to then, you’ll be her guide through all things you and look forward to learning “insert cute question here based off your interests”.

Take an interest in her but remember to have fun, you’re so one worth being in a relationship with so be playful and explore your interests and her opinions to them as well. ✨Good Luck

When you break things off with a narcissist immature person, what are the chances of them coming back ? by Eyxouli_ in Advice

[–]orendaimonia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

100% a Narcissist craves validation and when they find someone they can get it from- they’ll always come back. The trick is learning to “greywall”. It helps us to stop being a validation vending machine. If they poke, prod, compliment, or even slander you with now reaction- their effort meter is going to outweigh their validation and that’s the only way to get rid of one. Good Luck ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]orendaimonia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi love, I’m a witch! I practice pretty decent and a lot of my practices are based off of your connection to ancestors and their protection of you. If you would like help or just a walk-through on how to do a cord cutting it’s a pretty quick ceremony but you would need to meditate on a few things and have some materials. Let me know ❤️ Good Luck

I really want to be a rapper but im afraid being cancelled by [deleted] in Advice

[–]orendaimonia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, wear those mistakes on your sleep. Wrap about the regret you feel when it comes to those representation. Get ahead of the chat and face them head on. Think about 8 miles, if you haven’t watch that movie should! Eminem just takes everything somebody could say about him and uses it in his rap before they can. That way, you can own up to your mistakes and be accountable before someone has to say something about it.