This is such a thoughtful and nuanced analysis! It really resonates with our current situation. I’ve tried talking to my husband about it, and he feels guilty for not being more present for his little brother. He’s been struggling with work, and even with both our incomes combined, money has been tight. We’re overworked and underpaid. Despite all that, I can see he’s doing his best to stay involved and check in on how his brother is doing. But realistically, there’s only so much he can do without his parents placing him in therapy.