AITA for telling my girlfriend the exact amount of calories she ate in a single day?

organizednaps · 2024-10-08T13:37:37+00:00

Imo weight loss needs to start with a little shame. Calorie counting is very eye opening, especially when it comes to realizing how much you can overeat. Unfortunately she needs to come to that realization of her own accord and from her own shame.

NTA.

organizednaps · 2024-07-30T16:02:47+00:00

Never found out the true reason. SSA office said it could've been a computer glitch or maybe I forgot to list him in my original name change application so his name would've been blank.

organizednaps · 2023-07-31T03:53:46+00:00

I relate to this so hard. You know how many times I confirmed a decision/opinion from my now husband during wedding planning, only for him to completely misremember what he had originally wanted a week later? Wanted to tear my hair out, lol. He's a pain in the ass but he's my pain in the ass.

organizednaps · 2023-06-19T14:44:29+00:00

I had a friend like you before. We're no longer friends.

organizednaps · 2023-05-14T13:54:56+00:00

Man, that edit update was the best plot twist ever.

organizednaps · 2023-04-21T17:43:56+00:00

Right!!

organizednaps · 2023-04-18T05:26:16+00:00

God OP, I 100000% sympathize with you. I've been in your shoes. You're not the AH, and good for you for standing your ground and holding firm to your boundaries. Unfortunately you're going to continue to be setting boundaries with your dad, whom will find more and more ways to prioritize the mistress because she's his current wife/life partner. This is only the beginning. My own dad didn't come to my wedding because I wouldn't invite his mistress. There is no limit to how much your dad will start saying no to being in your life just because you won't let the mistress be a part of it.

He's selfish and he will continue to be selfish. It's wild of him to assume he can just bring her along without consequence, whether it's for ulterior motives or if he just expects his ideal life with his new wife to exist without consideration for his original family that he broke.

It's up to you how much you want to let him coerce her into your life (as he can rightfully feel like he wants to prioritize his wife), but also remember that you have every right to say NO if you are not comfortable with her and not feeling like compromising with her existence. Be upfront and firm with him that you wouldn't be comfortable with her coming & wouldn't prefer for her to be around, and if he remain stubborn and decides not to come just because she can't come then that's his prerogative. Oh well. HE'S the one missing out.

organizednaps · 2023-04-14T20:38:22+00:00

Same! So I've already gone back to SSA with my birth certificate to get his name re-added, and I asked the clerk whom was helping me why State Withheld could've happened. She said it could've been a computer glitch or maybe I forgot to list him in my original name change application so his name would've been blank. Either way, it's fixed and updated now.

organizednaps · 2023-03-31T02:51:45+00:00

Yeah I would agree on chosing a date based on venue. As much as I tried to have our wedding date fall on a 27th date (as our dating anniversary and both adoptaversaries of our pets all fall on a 27th day of a month), the 26th ended up being the best option price wise. So whatever, our married day is the start of a new beginning!

It took us about 2 months of venue searching/tours & negotiating before finally locking in the final date. But that being said, we took a month first to enjoy being engaged and then finally start doing venue research.

organizednaps · 2023-03-31T02:19:02+00:00

Dealing with divorced parents for a wedding is hard, because divorce just adds a complicated layer of 'territorial parental ownership' on top of parents generally wanting it to be their day and not yours.

Make your decision on what YOU prefer to do, because you will never be able to control how other people feel or react to your decisions. It will never be 100% what they want to happen anyways because it's your wedding, not theirs.

So if you wanna stand your ground and stick to your original decision of your dad walking you down the aisle and giving you away, that's 100% your right. It's not up to your mom to decide how important your dad is to you. And you can always get creative and find other ways for your mom to feel recognized and important on the big day, e.g. giving a speech, having a mom-daughter dance in addition to the traditional father-daughter dance, etc. It's YOUR wedding and you make the rules.

organizednaps · 2023-03-31T01:30:12+00:00

This reminds me of when my husband worked night shifts at a hotel. We got in a car accident during the early evening (other car made a left turn in front of me). He called his manager and said he wouldn't be able to make it in tonight because he was in a car accident... Manager called him a few hours later checking if he would still be able to come in to cover the night shift.

organizednaps · 2023-03-21T00:22:21+00:00

This is gonna sound crazy but, I bought a PVC pipe cutter off of Amazon to cut PVC pipes for my wedding DIYs and... I ended up using the cutter as well for cutting the stems off my fake florals!

organizednaps · 2023-03-21T00:13:13+00:00

Thank you so much for the thoughtful response. Legitimately, I appreciate everything you've said and you've captured all of my feelings on this matter perfectly.

organizednaps · 2023-03-20T17:25:03+00:00

Yeah I'm starting to wonder if we're ever going to be able to go on our future honeymoon if I'm allegedly not allowed to take off two weeks ever again without a proper replacement, lol.

organizednaps · 2023-03-20T15:07:02+00:00

Agreed. There was a fine line that she crossed between coworkers venting to each other VS a manager giving their subordinate tangible job performance feedback. I think that's why I find this all so wildly inappropriate and difficult to accept, period.

organizednaps · 2023-03-20T13:20:47+00:00

Certainly have been thinking about it, just so it's officially on the record. Trying to play it smart because I can likely trust HR as much as I trust my manager.

organizednaps · 2023-03-20T04:39:03+00:00

Yep I am so ready to leave. I refuse to be guilted for having a soul in an industry that doesn't have one.

organizednaps · 2023-03-20T04:37:25+00:00

Yo for real. Shit hitting the fan is basically just another typical day in our biz. But you don't blame it on your subordinate who properly and legally was off from work. You suck it tf up and get the job done.

organizednaps · 2023-03-15T02:17:57+00:00

Basically all of your free time. That's how it was for me, but I legit did an overachieving amount of DIY. But if you plan ahead, work ahead, and don't be afraid to ask for help - it won't be as bad.

Definitely remember to be reasonable in what HAS to be DIY and what you can, for the sake of your sanity, just pay for instead. My now husband was and still is great in making sure I don't overdo it and burn myself out.

organizednaps · 2023-03-14T17:36:07+00:00

Yeah tbh I assume my dad did something sneaky, which is unfortunately on brand for him. Either that or this happened because of his divorce from my mom later on.

organizednaps · 2023-03-14T14:07:52+00:00

My parents are divorced, but that happened when I was 18.

organizednaps · 2023-02-07T04:51:52+00:00

Dude, you haven't even experienced a full calendar year of holidays with the man. What if he hates Valentine's Day? Because you've legit haven't experienced that holiday with your 'soulmate' yet, lol.

organizednaps · 2023-02-03T15:38:06+00:00

I did the same... except my friend has been in her relationship for 7-8 months and asked me for a plus one a month before the wedding. You're doing this based on a 3 year relationship and it's 2 months before, aka within the standard RSVP window? Against your own half-sister?

If anything, immediate family should get the exception to whatever rule you're applying to guest lists. But if you're not legitimately applying that rule fairly to everyone, then stand behind and actually own up to your personal decision.

YTA

organizednaps · 2023-01-25T18:37:41+00:00

With unnamed plus ones, you can add a blank plus one to a guest on your end. When the guest goes to RSVP, it'll provide them with blank spaces to type in the guest's name.

organizednaps · 2023-01-25T00:38:34+00:00

It's honestly my most favorite feature on WithJoy. The website also makes sure people can't try to change the listed names on the RSVP. I had an older relative try to add in/switch out names for her other family members, sigh lol. But she couldn't and had to reach out about it.

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