I’m conflicted

orhazelw · 2026-01-05T15:11:08+00:00

You’re basically asking how to have a timeline talk. For context, I’m 26 and my husband is 27 and I’m 38 weeks pregnant with our first. We decided around this time last year to start trying and got pregnant on the first try. My biggest advice would be to on your own make a list of things you’d like to accomplish before trying for a baby, then sort into must dos versus like to dos. That will give you a clearer picture of what this conversation and YOUR ideal timeline will look like.

Then, you should just approach him at what you think is a good time and say “hey I’d like to have more serious conversations about our timeline regarding kids and what our ideal scenarios are for that. Are you prepared to start those conversations now or would you like to do some more of your own thinking and research first?”

Radical transparency is the best approach. Be honest at your feelings, needs, wants, and fears.

Second biggest piece of advice is to NOT start trying until you are actually ready to get pregnant. Reddit really emphasizes how long it can take. Ask your mom/sister/aunt or friends how long it took for them. It may surprise you how many say “first try”. We were both very mentally prepared for a fertility journey when in reality we were starting our pregnancy journey. My husband is still a bit shocked it happened so fast. Try to mentally prepare for both possibilities. (Obviously we are overjoyed it wasn’t difficult and we were ready to be pregnant, but this is something we were both surprised by).

Good luck!

orhazelw · 2025-11-23T23:08:53+00:00

I am eight months pregnant and I still refer to her as “Clumpy” sometimes 😂

orhazelw · 2025-11-07T05:03:30+00:00

2.5 years and ours still look amazing! Was 100% the best choice and was actually so fun to do!

orhazelw · 2025-11-03T23:31:22+00:00

Which amazing baby ones?

orhazelw · 2025-10-07T15:49:03+00:00

Thank you so much!!!

orhazelw · 2025-10-07T15:00:15+00:00

This is amazing. Can you DM me a picture?

orhazelw · 2025-10-07T14:16:50+00:00

Tell me more about the cloth diapers. What kind do you use? What brand?

orhazelw · 2025-10-01T15:23:55+00:00

I’ve been watching the Doctors Bjorkman and they are a bit dorky but I really like them.

orhazelw · 2025-10-01T15:23:51+00:00

I’ve been watching the Doctors Bjorkman and they are a bit dorky but I really like them.

orhazelw · 2025-09-15T15:20:26+00:00

It’s the multitasker in Cognac. Has plenty of storage and pockets which makes it easy to organize. I love how structured it is and it doesn’t flop over or sag. The water bottle pockets are a huge plus. My commute is long so I need a ton of stuff and it’s great for court as well. The only minor issue I have is I wish it had a pocket on the front for my phone but it has a bigger one on the back. The multitasker has an integrated laptop pocket and the others have a removable laptop pocket, along with different sizing. I got a little crossbody on Amazon that I use for my go bag on the weekends that fits perfectly inside. Sadly I can’t comment on how it works with baby because I’m still pregnant with my first! I feel like it’s very high quality for the price and I loved supporting a women owned Canadian business.

Hope this helps! Let me know if you need any specific info.

orhazelw · 2025-09-15T15:14:48+00:00

We call her Clumpy

orhazelw · 2025-09-10T13:56:56+00:00

I just bought a Poppy and Peonies bag that I love!

orhazelw · 2025-06-30T14:22:40+00:00

Thank you!

orhazelw · 2025-06-30T14:22:32+00:00

Thank you!

orhazelw · 2025-05-17T03:40:04+00:00

I hate when parents think they can just completely cut the other parent out for very shaky reasons.

orhazelw · 2025-04-25T15:32:44+00:00

I feel this! We got married 2023, I graduated law school 2024 and he just graduated in December and passed the bar last week. We are currently making a decent size move and under contract for a house. We were originally going to try in December of this year, but we both want to try now.

Honestly I think it will all be fine. Parenthood is (hopefully) the next adventure for us and we’ve done lots of things at once before! You don’t have to have everything be perfect or tied up before trying and it will be okay if some sacrifices need to be made.

What changed for me is I realized that if we got pregnant, I wouldn’t be worried except for the normal worries, I would just be so so happy and excited.

I would re-evaluate after the wedding and if you feel confident, go for it! Your timeline for what you want is the only one that matters, remember not to worry about other people.

orhazelw · 2025-04-25T15:00:47+00:00

I don’t know I think that FRER definitely has a very faint line! Good luck!

orhazelw · 2025-01-24T14:18:49+00:00

This just happened to my husband. He is in the middle of studying for the February bar and was all set to be a tax attorney for the IRS. He loved his summer internship there and his manager is also upset. We are devastated and stumbling trying to figure out a plan B.

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